When Your Spouse or Significant Other stop Looking
When we are first dating, we get so much attention from that person. They seem to notice your every move and often compliment any and everything about you. You get goosebumps just hearing their voice. You wake up with a smile on your face knowing that person will loves you beyond life. But then, the compliments stop. They don't notice when you have changed your hairstyle or even that you have bought a new outfit. They don't seem to see that you have spent extra time getting ready so that you can look your best. You step onto your job and that person of the opposite sex says, "you sure look lovely today" or "my you are handsome today". Of course you appreciate the compliment but what happened to the compliment from the person you did all of this for? Didn't they notice me"?
When Did Things Change
You wonder what happened to make this person not notice all of your extra efforts. You even question them about the relationship and of course the answer is, oh, we are fine. You may go as far as to ask if they noticed your hair or your new suit. Sometimes the answer is, yes I noticed even if they hadn't or that they forgot to compliment you. Often it only takes a few other times for them to not notice and that stranger to begin noticing before you start wondering if the relationship is the same or is there something you should be worried about. I believe before deciding to move on a conversation needs to be held, especially if you have invested many years into this relationship. Never ask your best friend or loved one for answers to questions you have not asked your spouse or significant other. It could be stress, preoccupation or it could be something going on under the surface that needs to be addressed. Never end a relationship without communicating with that person. They deserve at least that.