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Letting Go of Love Gone Wrong

Updated on June 20, 2014

Not too long ago I experienced difficulty with letting go of someone who has stopped loving me. It is the most painful thing to realize that the other person has already moved on while you are still left hanging on to something which is no longer there.

So how do you start the process to easily let go of someone who has been a great part of your life? This can be one of the toughest decision to make, not to mention, the hardest to get over with. It is more difficult when the person you love has already started a relationship with another.

If two people are in a long relationship and then one falls out of love for any reason, and there is no more reason to stay. When leaving is the best option, you have no choice but to let go of your love. Indeed, you world crumbles leaving you in utmost pain, heartbreak and despair all at the same time. Many people make the mistake of holding on to something and someone who no longer feels the same way.

Letting go means that you decide to move one, be kinder to yourself, and bring the opportunity to know another person you deserve. Letting go may take time and a lot of patience. Expect to go through the stages of denial, self-assessment and acceptance. All of these will eventually end.

Best option to let go

Sometimes, the thought of losing someone is much better and easier to accept when the reason is the other person fell out of love. You would rather than than finding out that another person is the reason. There are many instances when that person met someone else. Either way, whether a person simply falls out of love or finds another one to replace you, letting go is your best option regardless of the reason for the end of your relationship. Do not hope for a person to change his heart because that is more of an exception rather than the rule. In reality, once a person falls out of love, they simply move on and could not be aware of the magnitude of pain the person left behind is experiencing. Letting go is painful at first but it can be the best option. It takes a mature mind to figure this out and accept. Pain will always be a part of the healing process.

Letting go yet not totally

If you really believe in your heart that this one person it the one, try to wait and see what happens in the long term but you have to move on. There are no assurances that two people who separated can end up being together again as relationships are always a gamble.

If you cannot weed him out of your life, you may try to be a supportive and permanent fixture in his life but only if he welcomes that idea. You can then try to become a friend that he can count on, but don't stretch your limb out too much. You must be prepared to accept defeat. Continue to go on with your life while waiting for this person to realize your worth.

New Hope, New Love you Deserve

If you can't let go of your feelings for a person somehow, you might opt to love him for a while but at a distance. Staying in a relationship with that person will not be beneficial to both of you. There are some people you find hard to get over a person and might decide to simply love from afar.

Loving is taking a risk, either you get hurt or find happiness in one person. Unfortunately, in your case, it turns out not the way you expected it to be. Letting go of someone you love is a process, it takes time to heal.

If the person you love is already in another relationship and seems to be happy in his choice, it is time for you to move on. Hard to do but possible. Of course heart aches will always be there but not forever. Acceptance of the fact that this person is not the one for you is really key to letting go easily. Opening your mind to the possibility of finding another person which you deserve and who deserves such a wonderful creature like you are will greatly help. Anticipate the future with hope. Just remember that everyday brings new hope and perhaps, a new love.


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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hello DDE, yes that is true. Loving someone is always a risk but it is something that we all want to experience.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sometimes love hurts the most

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi Jide. Good for you to have found out sooner that you two are not really meant for each other in the first place. Good luck in your new relationship. Thanks!

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      JideAlexander 5 years ago from IL

      I went through this same situation where my ex was in love with someone else. He even cheated on me with her and I stayed to give him a second chance but he still chose her over me. Once I broke it off with him, he started realizing that she wasn't what he thought she was, then tried to come back to me. However, I was already long gone and truly happy with someone else.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi katyzzz, thanks for that valuable input. Indeed, when we are in a relationship, our perceptions are blinded by our emotions, so reality checks are a must!

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      katyzzz 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      Time to give up and move on, from one who did not do it, but realize in retrospect I should have, all I feel for that person now, is disgust and revulsion and I thought he was so wonderful, delusional!

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi Attikos! Thanks for that great insight.

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      Attikos 5 years ago from East Cackalacky

      Unrequited love is one of the most difficult states of mind a person can experience. In the end, you have to get mad enough to convince yourself that the object of your affection is just too stupid, perverted and contrary to understand what a grand opportunity is being passed by. Once you do, you can get over it.