- Gender and Relationships
Thinking With Your Heart
In Love, Sometimes Logic Fails
If you're the intellectual type, You might find it hard to accept the idea that logic could fall short as a solution to a problem. But I'm beginning to realize, when it comes to relationships, that it often does. Not to say you didn't have your facts straight during that last disagreement with your significant other, maybe you did. But in the end, were you actually right?
I'm 35 and newly single. I recently lost a girlfriend whom I'd been dating for the better part of three years, the latest on my long list of romantic failings. This woman was different though . . . She was the love of my life. It took me 33 years to find her, and after a little less than three more, she's gone. This wasn't my longest relationship, or even my most passionate, but it was my strongest. Losing her took a toll on more than one aspect of my life, but It's my fault she's gone.
We Disagreed Often, But Only On "Little" Things
From the very beginning we always found ourselves in the midst of these small arguments. Well they started off small anyway. Be it the best route to take on a trip, or the best way to prepare a certain meal, we would often disagree. It was actually cute and innocent at first. The problem grew slowly, so slowly in fact, that I never realized how big an issue it had become until it was too late.
I Was Always Right
Being the wealth of knowledge that I am, I was always right, but as strange as it may sound, I wish I hadn't always been. Instead of taking the "correct route" on that trip and skimming off a half hour of drive time, maybe I could have been wrong for a change and drove those few extra miles. Maybe I'd still have her. My point is, sometimes it's just not worth the argument. Sometimes, even when you know you're right, maybe you should set that knowledge aside and think with your heart. You might find that it's okay to be wrong when you're driving those extra 20 miles and you get to enjoy the ride with the person you love.
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