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Finding the Courage to Love Again

Updated on July 14, 2017
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stress, I write.

When a person spends a significant amount of time searching for someone to love them, his or her first taste of love will make them sheepishly drunk, and they will find themselves wanting to get more and more involved. Nonetheless, after a period of ambiguous yes-no-maybe, it can lead to a breakup which can become an emotional roller coaster.

When we are hurt, we immediately want to protect ourselves; we don't want to talk about it or want anything to do with anything that can remind us of the painful remembrances. Also, that individual is left with a tangled knot of anxiety, an endless battle between the brains and the heart. However, after months, even maybe a year of marinating on your pain one must fumble out of it.

The person who gets hurt tends to put up a big brick wall and a “do not enter” sign — but until they are healed as far as loving them, it will be like walking into a roadway blocked by a construction zone: messy and dangerous. Nonetheless, when you are left with an urge to be loved, you only put up walls to keep the wrong people out, but when the right person comes along, they give you the courage to love again and take down all defense barriers.

A smart person knows how to put up brick walls and remove them when he or she finds someone worth loving again. Also, this intelligent person with the walls will not sacrifice his or her liberties; they are unbreakable, and he or she will be the best thing that has ever happened to you in a long, long time. As underneath the layers of doubt and distance is a person with a heart that has been devised just for you.

The indisputable truth about getting close to someone is that you give them a part of your soul and once you do that, the person owns your heart and holds controls; you can’t help but feel butterflies when they look at you. The moment things go wrong, you are left with an overwhelming urge to run away leaving you inexplicably empty.

The emptiness leaves you feeling like you've been run over by a train, as you strive to step back from that ledge, it could push you over. Most of all, you are left asking yourself, "What do I do when there's nothing but pain left inside." Bear in mind; 'Love' is something that can be very complicated and it can sometimes be magic. It's has a way of ripping out your heart and making it tough to gain back the control of your emotions.

The thing is, when 'Love' hit you in your heart and life knocks you down you have to figure out how to get back up to get right back on that horse that threw you hard. You have to keep going, with a desire to be stronger. You must find the courage to love again and not allow the idea that your heart has been broken before affect you. The thing is, when you hurt like no other at that moment you don’t know what you need. All you know, there is an awful pain, and your aching heart is screaming please, please, just stop!

Moreover, to find the courage to love again, you must gain back some of the control of your emotions, thoughts, and sanity, that was taken from you, but it won't be easy. You are left with an enormous amount of angry and hurt you don’t understand yet. You are wounded without compassion and direction as you want to find a way out, and there no way you can function properly until the pain stop.

When you experience your first love; what do you know about love? Nothing except you felt a strong connection for another. Consequently, to find the courage to love again; the person who was hurt has to accept the pain he or she been through. It is also essential in any aspect, to focus on your strengths and builds on them to realize your purposes. Also, know that one of the fundamental needs of all human beings is the need of love, although certain people need love more than others. The necessity of love was formed after God created Adam, the very first man to walk the earth. When he saw he was lonely, he created a woman and called her Eve as 'Love' is the greatest gift God ever gave to a man and woman.

Some feel one should never be too attached to individuals or things of this world; they are transient. Nonetheless, when you find someone, you love with all your heart and someone who cares about you far more than anything, chances are, you’re never going to find such love again, so, you’re never supposed to let him, or her go. Although, some people heart seems to protest loudly, declaring that it doesn’t want to be anyone else’s because it is safer if it were only their own.

Although finding that special someone and share an exceptional love you have to have the courage to let go of all hurt and love again, it's not easy to give someone else a piece of your heart because it is scary. As a matter of fact, giving someone a piece of your heart is probably one of the most vulnerable things a person can do. But unless you want to end up alone, you have to take that leap of faith as one day there will be someone who will genuinely love and catch you.

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You can’t find love because you’re not giving yourself the opportunity to find love.
Accept that your old relationship is history: If you want to love again someday, learn to accept that your relationship is over. Many heartbroken lovers pine and dwell over lost relationships like they’ve lost their own lives. It could feel that way, true, but it’s all in your head.
Almost all the time, many lovers who endure bad relationships and failed romances give up on ever finding true love. They just assume love doesn’t exist, and think it’s something all people call a relationship where two people put up with each other and sacrifice their happiness for the other person.
It’s really that simple. The only person stopping yourself from finding love is yourself.
Learn from where you went wrong: The breakup may have come out of the blue, or it may have been a series of little fights that led to your partner calling the relationship off and walking away. But whatever the reasons may be, even if you have no need to blame yourself, learn from the relationship.
It’s an easy way to squirm out of a situation where you may partly be at fault. Denying that love exists is a coward’s way of lying to the world that they failed or haven’t met anyone who’s worth living for.
If you’ve endured an unsuccessful relationship or have suffered a painful break up, take your time to get your own life back in order. And when you’re ready to look for that special someone, take a leap of faith and dive headfirst into love.
Enjoy your spanking new single status: It’s a case of the grass being greener on the other side, but for once, learn to enjoy the other aspect of the fence. You’re single, so start loving it!
 
 
 

The Courage to Love - Poem

"To Be Loved" Jackie Wilson

It takes courage to love again when you have been hurt

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      Pam Morris 4 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much Patty, I appreciate you and your support.

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      Patty Florence 4 months ago from Illinois

      Pam once again I enjoy reading your articles. I especially enjoy listening to the music and the posters with encouraging words on them. I agree it hard to give love if not received well. Thanks again.

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      Pam Morris 4 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much for dropping by to share this very detailed information. What you wrote is so right, I agreed with it all and enjoyed reading it.

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      dashingscorpio 4 months ago

      Courage is only required of us when we (want) something but fear making the effort to achieve it. We're scared of failure.

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse!

      We're responsible for having our own mate selection process and must haves list.

      Ideally with experience we become "better shoppers"!

      When it comes to love one must truly (know) what it is they want and desire in a mate. You also need to know if you're ready to date again. It's not fair to the other person to force yourself only to discover you're not emotionally ready to give him or her your best. No one wants to be the "rebound".

      Too often we allow well meaning friends & family or society in general to tell us we "need" to be dating or seeking love.

      If you really have no desire to date then don't.

      Life is a (personal) journey!

      On the other hand if you want to "get out there" but are afraid then it's necessary to rid yourself of the "baggage" you're carrying around from past failed relationships. It does take courage to change but when we change our circumstances change!