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Finding the Courage to Love Again

Updated on May 4, 2018
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stress, I write.

When a woman spends a significant amount of time searching for love, after finding it her first taste of love make her sheepishly drunk, and she finds herself wanting to get more and more involved. Since meeting, she finds herself telling the guy things she hasn’t mentioned to anyone before. There's a desire to stare into his eyes and want to hear his voice on a daily. Nonetheless, after a period of ambiguous yes-no-maybe, it can lead to a breakup which can become an emotional roller coaster.

When a young lady gets hurt, she immediately wants to protect herself; and though the purpose is to prevent a man from injuring her heart again, it can also keep her from being able to find love with the right guy. Far more, she doesn't want to talk about it or want anything to do with anything that can remind her of the painful memories. Also, she walks around overprotected and is left with a tangled knot of anxiety, an endless battle between the brains and the heart. However, after months, even maybe a year of marinating on her pain she must fumble out of it.

When a woman gets hurt she tends to put up a big brick wall and a “do not enter” sign — but until she is healed as far as loving a man, it will be like walking into a roadway blocked by a construction zone: messy and dangerous. Nonetheless, when she is left with an urge to be loved, she only put up walls to keep the wrong guy out, but when the right man comes along, he gives her the courage to love again, and she takes down all defense barriers.

A smart woman knows how to put up brick walls and remove them when she finds someone worth loving again. Also, an intelligent young lady will not sacrifice her liberties; she is unbreakable, and she will be the best thing that has ever happened to a man in a long, long time. As underneath the layers of doubt and distance is a loving woman with a heart that has been devised just for the right man.

The indisputable truth about a woman getting close to a man is that she gives him a part of her soul and once she does that, the man owns her heart and holds controls; she can’t help but feel butterflies when he looks at her. The moment things go wrong, she feels like she is going into battle without any protection and left with an overwhelming urge to run away leaving her inexplicably empty.

The emptiness leaves her feeling like she been run over by a train, as she strives to step back from that ledge, it could push her over. Most of all, she is left asking herself, "What do I do when there's nothing but pain left inside." Bear in mind; 'Love' is something that can be very complicated and it can sometimes be magic. It's has a way of ripping out a woman heart and making it tough to gain back the control of her emotions.

The thing is, when 'Love' hit you in your heart and life knocks you down you have to figure out how to get back up to get right back on that horse that threw you hard. You have to keep going, with a desire to be stronger. You must find the courage to love again and not allow the idea that your heart has been broken before affect you. The thing is, when you hurt like no other at that moment you don’t know what you need. All you know, there is an awful pain, and your aching heart is screaming please, please, just stop!

Moreover, to find the courage to love again, you must gain back some of the control of your emotions, thoughts, and sanity, that was taken from you, but it won't be easy. You are left with an enormous amount of angry and hurt you don’t understand yet. You are wounded without compassion and direction as you want to find a way out, and there no way you can function properly until the pain stop.

When a woman experiences her first love; she knows nothing about love. Nothing except she feels a secure connection for another. Consequently, to find the courage to love again; the woman who is hurt has to accept the pain she been through. It is also essential in any aspect, to focus on her strengths and builds on them to realize her purposes. Also, know that one of the fundamental needs of all human beings is the need of love, although some people need love more than others. The necessity of love was formed after God created Adam, the very first man to walk the earth. When he saw he was lonely, he created a woman and called her Eve as 'Love' is the most significant gift God ever gave to a man and woman.

Some feel one should never be too attached to individuals or things of this world; they are transient. Nonetheless, when a woman finds the man of her dreams, she loves with all her heart, and the young lady cares about the man far more than anything, chances are, she never going to find such love again, so, she never supposed to let him go. Although, some people heart seems to protest loudly, declaring that it doesn’t want to be anyone else’s because it is safer if it were only their own.

Although finding that special someone and share an exceptional love you have to have the courage to let go of all hurt and love again, it's not easy to give someone else a piece of your heart because it is scary. As a matter of fact, giving someone a part of your heart is probably one of the most vulnerable things a person can do. But unless you want to end up alone, you have to take that leap of faith as one day there will be someone who will genuinely catch you and love you unconditionally.

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It’s really that simple. The only person stopping yourself from finding love is yourself.
Learn from where you went wrong: The breakup may have come out of the blue, or it may have been a series of little fights that led to your partner calling the relationship off and walking away. But whatever the reasons may be, even if you have no need to blame yourself, learn from the relationship.
It’s an easy way to squirm out of a situation where you may partly be at fault. Denying that love exists is a coward’s way of lying to the world that they failed or haven’t met anyone who’s worth living for.
If you’ve endured an unsuccessful relationship or have suffered a painful break up, take your time to get your own life back in order. And when you’re ready to look for that special someone, take a leap of faith and dive headfirst into love.
Enjoy your spanking new single status: It’s a case of the grass being greener on the other side, but for once, learn to enjoy the other aspect of the fence. You’re single, so start loving it!

The Courage to Love - Poem

"To Be Loved" Jackie Wilson

It takes courage to love again when you have been hurt

© 2017 Pam Morris


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      Pam Morris 11 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much Patty, I appreciate you and your support.

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      Patty Florence 11 months ago from Illinois

      Pam once again I enjoy reading your articles. I especially enjoy listening to the music and the posters with encouraging words on them. I agree it hard to give love if not received well. Thanks again.

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      Pam Morris 11 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much for dropping by to share this very detailed information. What you wrote is so right, I agreed with it all and enjoyed reading it.

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      dashingscorpio 11 months ago

      Courage is only required of us when we (want) something but fear making the effort to achieve it. We're scared of failure.

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse!

      We're responsible for having our own mate selection process and must haves list.

      Ideally with experience we become "better shoppers"!

      When it comes to love one must truly (know) what it is they want and desire in a mate. You also need to know if you're ready to date again. It's not fair to the other person to force yourself only to discover you're not emotionally ready to give him or her your best. No one wants to be the "rebound".

      Too often we allow well meaning friends & family or society in general to tell us we "need" to be dating or seeking love.

      If you really have no desire to date then don't.

      Life is a (personal) journey!

      On the other hand if you want to "get out there" but are afraid then it's necessary to rid yourself of the "baggage" you're carrying around from past failed relationships. It does take courage to change but when we change our circumstances change!


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