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Where Are The Men???

Updated on March 3, 2011

Seriously, Where Are They???

This might ruffle some feathers, but I have to take a moment to vent. Don't get me wrong, I know that there are some good men out there, somewhere, but lately it seems harder and harder to meet a real man. When I was in my twenties it was so much easier. Two people would meet, if they liked each other they would go for it and date, and either it worked out or it didn't. Now it's a LOT more difficult. Now, guys seem much more indecisive and don't seem to know who they are, where they came from, where they're going, or what they want. I've met some "men" who appeared to be really great at first, but then they didn't stay that way. After a point they turned out to be married or chronic liars and game players. What happened to the days where people just had fun and really got to know each other. Why do people marry someone they don't even know or like and then wind up cheating? Then there are the one's who meet somebody really great and sabotage it because in some sick, twisted way they've convinced themselves that they're not worthy of happiness. Unbelievable, we're all worthy and deserve to be happy!!! To me it's shouldn't be so hard. We've all been hurt before, but love is a risk worth taking because if you open up to the right person at the right time, magic can happen. I'm open, but not willing to endure any b.s from anybody. When I meet a real man whose honest, considerate, not afraid to express his feelings, and knows exactly what he wants then I won't hesitate to give it a shot. Again, I know that all men aren't bad, there's just a lot out there that could be doing a whole lot better. In the meantime I'll continue loving and enjoying myself as much as I can and appreciate everything else that I have in my life. I'm alive and I have a lot to be thankful for.


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    • Truckstop Sally profile image

      Truckstop Sally 

      7 years ago

      I agree that you should - continue loving and enjoying myself. We must be true to ourselves . . . and when that perfect guy comes along -- he'll love us for being us.

    • Ms.Wakeelah profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      7 years ago

      Nice venting hub! :-)

      In all honesty I kind of doubt the men you met in their 20s had it anymore together than those who are older.

      Every woman is entitled to have her own definition of a "real man". What usually happens is a person will have their desired list of requirements for a mate and then go out and pursue something completely different! Both sexes are guilty of this. At some point we have to take some responsibility for the choices we make. Each of us selects our own friends, lovers, and spouses. If you want an apple but purchase an onion instead whose fault is that? :-)

      I believe the older one becomes the more cautious they are likely to be. Bad experiences tend keep people from rushing into anything. A while back I wrote a hub giving advice to men. I think it's important for someone to really know themselves before embarking on relationship quest.

      Still I find myself agreeing with you that dating should be fun!I've discussed this in some of my hubs as well. However I think if you spoke to most men they will you a large segment of women approach dating by stating they are looking for a "serious relationship". Personally speaking all of my "serious relationships" began as casual ones which evolved into something serious. You have to get to know someone before you decide if you want to pursue something serious with them. One man's opinion!


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