- Gender and Relationships
Who Are Friends
As children our friends are our ‘buddies’
I’m sure the word ‘friend’ has a different meaning in each age of life and/or to each and every individual. As children our friends are our ‘buddies’ those we play with, go to school with, be they relatives or neighbors. Within friendship we have those we hold closer than the rest, our good friends or our best friends. As we get older, sometimes we either add or subtract from our original list of childhood ‘friends’ and the meaning intensifies or develops into a word with much stronger meaning… a deeper definition with a heavier connotation.
we have our friends, chums we play with
As a young child, we have our friends, chums we play with.Our school buddies, our team mates in Little League all are just general acquaintances maybe at first until we bond and become friends.We compete in swimming class, flag football; very seldom do we grow to maturity with the same lot of friendships we acquired as children.Some times maybe one or two lifelong buddies become our friends, but more often than not we gain new friendships as we travel through life.Sometimes we marry our childhood friends, but mostly we form new relationships as we mature and move through school.College, the military, our jobs—our attitudes change as well as out circumstances.New situations normally bring new friendships.
Are you still friends with someone you knew as a child?
friends may or may not produce a lasting coalition or fraternity
These new situations and friends may or may not produce a lasting coalition or fraternity, and as in our childhood, these friends may also fall to the wayside unless something strong molds and bonds the relationships together.Childhood acquaintances were usually made visually when we first met, these playmates gradually grew into friends as they sat beside us in algebra class maybe or we played sports together.But today friendships are made sight unseen often times through the Internet, emails or even phone calls or faxes.We don’t get a chance to see if they are blonde or gray or even have hair at all for that matter.We call them by first name as if we know all about them and yet we couldn’t pick them out in a group of just two or three others.Some of our friends are halfway around the world in bizarre and exciting places.Yet we refer to them as friends, and rightly so because something joins or ties us all together, the internet.
...someone we will never see or meet yet still befriend
Business and the internet through web searching and social web sites have us conversing and asking and answering questions posed by like minded persons anywhere on earth as long as we have internet access. Our acquaintances we now call our friends.We really use the term loosely not knowing anything about our new ‘friends.’We say we ‘love’ our best friend… but do we love that one we send emails too, or the ones that read and comment on our ‘hubs’ that we’ve never physically met?
Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loveth at all times…” Can we say that about someone we’ve just met through the Internet?Is there a better word in the English language for us to use for someone we may never see or meet yet still befriend?
© 2010 SamSonS