- Gender and Relationships
Who cheats more: women or men?
''Cheating is more than betraying a commitment it is betraying your old beliefs''
The act of cheating has existed long since men and women have been created. Whether the cheater was a medieval princess not content of her chosen groom or the king of a fortress seduced by a contending slave, cheating surely was perceived as a big issue with consequences often as serious as wars. However, throughout the years, cheating men were more socially accepted than cheating woman.
Nowadays, society is more lenient on cheating women. One may ask at this point is such leniency has caused women to cheat more or if the statistics have remained the same. Also when it comes to gender, do women or men tend to cheat more? The answer to these questions are hard to say. There are statistics available but it is always hard to figure out if those interviewed were actually telling the truth.
Truth is, when it comes to admitting to cheating in statistal reports, men tend to inflate their stories of cheating and women tend to hide their extra marital affairs. This yields consequently unrliable results that cause statistics to not be 100% accurate. However, it is a clear fact that women are surely cheating much more than before.
One of the most prominent causes of the increase in cheating women, is the fact that more and more women are working outside nowadays. The workplace proves to be a great opportunity to meet individuals of the opposite sex and shortly flirtatious conversations may arise. Add then business trips, meetings and shifts shared together and you may get a feel of why women end up cheating. Fact is, women at the end will spend much more time at work with their male colleagues than at home with their husband.
Another considerable factor is the fact that at the workplace one tends to leave all the grumpy feelings behind. Women (and even men, of course) must appear professional, free of worries and also must dress in special attire. The best of themselves will shine thorough while at home they may tend to let "themselves go" to bad moods and wrinkled clothes. This causes men and women in the workplace to appear under a different light, to say it better "the grass looks greener on the other side".
Women seem to also have more opportunities to cheat than men. Chances are high, that a colleague will make a comment or invite for a drink one day or another. All it may take is one yes to an offer and soon a deep friendship will arise. Sharing the pressure of a work load, bad talking about the boss or dividing a task to make it lighter provides strong emotions of complicity that often may be perceived as "love'.
Men othe other hand, seem to maintain constant statistics. They have not gone any substantial changes such as working more or society changes. However, the internet has made cheating easier with the click of a mouse. With over 4 million pornographic websites the array of women avaialble to chat with and perhaps even meet one day are tremendous. Most men that are open to such relationships will find themselves hooked fairly quickly and will look forward to base the relationship on something more than "virtual".
Whether cheating happens because one is feeling lonely one night or perhaps because of the complicity formed at the workplace, statistics show that when it comes to extramarital affairs men and women are pretty close. With 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engaging in affairs, the question is no longer which gender cheats more but what can be done to bring those numbers down.