Who is the right person for you? Is there a Mr. Perfect ?
‘The right one for you will move mountains to be with you - he won't hide behind them.” –Mandy hale
Every woman wants her husband to be perfect and ideal. You want your husband to listen to you. You want him to spend quality time with you. You want him to be demonstrative about his love. You are depressed when your husband does not show his love the way you want him to.
But does a Mr. Perfect exist?
You cannot expect perfection in your husband just as he cannot expect it from you. There are bound to imperfections. Does this mean your husband does not love you? Your husband loves you in his own way- the practical way of a man!
Sadly there is no Mr. Perfect for you to search for him. You should understand your husband from his viewpoint. You should appreciate his good qualities and his true love for you. You should adjust to his minor faults. It is then you can hope for happiness in your married life.
What exactly are the near perfect qualities of Mr. Perfect?
1. He should be loving and caring!
When you are worried and distressed, he should not overlook it. He should share your problems instantly and immediately. When you look downcast he should immediately inquire about it to make you feel his complete support. He should console you to show that he is always there for you.
2. He should love you for what you are!
He should not be fetish about your outward appearance and make negative comments about it. He should love you for what you are. If he consistently criticizes your looks and physique, he is very concentrated on your outer beauty. When he ignores your inner beauty he shows that his love is immature and without depth.
3. He should not be moody and morose
Do you like your husband when he is moody and morose? If he is harsh on you when he is out of mood, he is a frustrated and pessimistic person. Your husband shares his inner feelings with you only when he has absolute trust in you. He gets your instant support as you are moved by his complete faith in you. He should not make you his punching bag to relieve his anger and frustration.
4. Humor makes him lovable
Does he make you laugh? Is he effortless in his sense of humor? If he is gifted with a good sense of humor he is a perfect person to make you feel happy and lighthearted. Humor makes you interested to interact with your husband.
5. The first to confide in you
When he wants to share his happiness, his success, his emotions only with you, he is the right man for you as he feels that he has to share everything in his life with you. If on the other hand you hear something important about him from a third person you are unlucky to have married a man who does not feel it his duty and pleasure to share his success and happiness with you.
6. Wants to spend for you
Money is not love, but it feels good when the person you love buys you things you craved for. It is not the price of the things he buys that matters, it is his intention of showing his love by getting things you like. Is your man one such person? You are indeed lucky.
7. Not concentrated on your money
Is he avidly inquiring about your profession, salary and your promotion? Then he has his eyes fixed on your income and is calculating as to how his lifestyle will go up if he marries you. Stay away from such a man! If he feels good when you are successful for your sake he has excellent qualities of being near perfect husband.
8. He notices you
He must notice you and he should look into your eyes while talking with you. You will be immensely happy when you feel the man you love has his eyes and attention fixed on you. If on the other hand he looks casually at you and overlooks your good points, he is a dull person to live with.
9. He gives you breathing space
He should give you a breathing space and not keep on verifying your messages and checking your whereabouts. Stay away from such person as he will make your life a torture and there will be no happiness for you.
10. Respects your family
If he respects your family you are bound to find immense happiness with him as he will be a considerate and understanding person.
He should be happy when you smile! Your unhappiness should make protective towards you. Your life will be fulfilling with him. Though there is no such perfect person, there should be some basic qualities in him which point out his good personality. When you find such a person you are the luckiest girl who can enjoy all the good things of an excellent married life.
© 2011 mathira