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Whom Can A Woman In A Marriage Relationship Likely Cheat With

Updated on March 21, 2016

Why enter into marriage ties?

Marriage is a lifetime relationship that two people get involved in. There are other types of marriages like polygamous marriage in which a man may marry several wives. Though cases are few but there are other marriages whereby one woman can get married to two or more men. Gay marriages are also there and they signify two people of the same sex deciding to commit themselves into tying lifelong marriage knots and to profess being faithful to each other.

Marriages are characterized by a ring which is normally placed on the right hand and on fourth finger from the thumb. There are other traditions which do it differently yet all is done to be able to signify faithfulness to each other.

This is a lifetime commitment to the one you get married to. The bible further says that a woman has no power over her body but her husband and likewise the husband has no power over his body but the wife.1Cor 7:4. It is therefore quite clear that God supports marriage. Faithfulness is the act of remaining sexually pure to your marriage partner alone. It means your body is only for that spouse of yours and to them alone.

Reasons As To Why People Cheat in Marriage Relationship

Why Do We Have Cheating In Marriage?

There are many reasons as to why a person may cheat in a marriage.

  1. A person who is promiscuous will always cheat in a marriage. The person seems not to be sexually satisfied by one partner. The person enjoys the escapades of lying in several beds. The case may arise out of psychological issues. It may be something that occurred in their life when they were still young and carries on to the present.
  2. There are people who are not satisfied in bed with their partners. Such people may look for a person who will fill the void that is left empty in such a relationship. Mostly some ladies may suffer in silence when such occurs in their relationship. Others cannot and end up in extra-marital relationship. The case may have been solved by good communication skills in the relationship but the silence and looking for pleasure elsewhere never facilitated such.
  3. There are some spouses who enter into extra-marital affairs because of their drunkenness. It is proved beyond any reasonable doubt that some people become sexually weak after taking a bottle or two. Such people may find themselves always pried upon by sexual predators who know will catch their prey when they are drunk and so the culprits end up in cheating bouts.
  4. The saying,’ Man will die unsatisfied,’ do apply maybe to individuals who want to lay all people on earth. These people seem to be competing to make sure they conquer sexually every other person on earth. It is as if sex becomes the power by which they subdue their prey. Their mission seems to be sex driven. Their talking is always based on that topic. Such people are sick and needs medical treatment.
  5. There are other people who are driven into extra-marital affairs due to problems. Fighting in the family, poverty, death and other problems may drive one into pulling it out of the matrimonial home. They end up having extra-marital affairs.
  6. An absent spouse in the home may drive another partner to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere. A spouse who works very far may not get time to come to the aid of the other person sexually when the need arises. The spouse may seek somebody to stand in as the other partner is away on work. There are other spouses who work night shifts and when they come at home they are too exhausted to attend to the marital matters. The aggrieved spouse may seek solace elsewhere.
  7. Sickness is another factor that may drive one spouse to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere. The other spouse may be mad or bed-ridden making it hard to attend to matters pertaining to conjugal rights.
  8. Boredom is another factor. It is said that familiarity brings contempt. It happens when a thing is done in the same manner all the time it becomes a habit. Habits bring boredom and a person may seek change elsewhere.
  9. Some people may accidentally fall in love with a new person and therefore involve in cheating.
  10. The ancestors were not wrong when they said that, ‘stolen fruit is sweeter.’ Some people just cheat to taste stolen fruit.

Some Men That A Woman Is Likely To Cheat With


Whom Will A Married Woman Cheat With In A Relationship?

Whom Will A Married Woman Likely Cheat With?

According to the above a married woman can cheat with nearly every man. Yet there are some men that are more prone to be tangoed with than others. It makes two to tango so the adage says.

  • Perhaps the person whom a woman can easily tango with is her ex. We have a saying in my community which says that a river will always pass where it has passed before. The adage in English says that a river follows its course. The course here is her ex. You know there has passed many things between these two people and an encounter always brings fond memories.
  • There are some people whom the woman encounters with on her daily business. These people include among others the grocer, the mechanic, the butcher, the milkman and many other men who are close to her in many respects. These are the people whom the woman always talks to and there might be a joke here and there. Some of these jokes may turn into something tangible.
  • House helps are also other people whom a woman can tango with. The house boy is the first one on the list. A woman may find herself confiding in this man as they meet daily and may be alone in the house at times. The house boy also has access to most parts of the house including the bedrooms. The milkman happens to be another one and the barber, cobbler and others.
  • The boss and workmates at work are the other people whom the woman can get herself flirting with.
  • The husband’s best friend is another dangerous rival to the husband.

The list here is inexhaustible as there are many to whom a woman can fall prey to. What matters here is how close the two can get together. What they discuss is another factor that can ignite a deeper relationship.

Milkman And Ex Are Candidates

What Measures Can Be used To Prevent Cheating?

There are many solutions to prevent cheating in marriage relationship. Some are indicated here.

  • Proper communication should be done in marriage relationship. This vital ingredient of marriage is normally overlooked and thus creating more deeper problems. A woman should always state to the husband what she needs and likewise a husband should state what he needs in a relationship. The two should come to an understanding..
  • Distance relationships should be narrowed by the wife or husband moving in with the spouse. If it is not possible then a proper arrangement should be made where the two should meet frequently. They should try not to give their marriage to the devil.
  • Where very high libido is involved or then a doctors advice should be sought. It is good however for the culprit to understand that there is a sickness involved and a cure is needed.
  • Psychiatric treatment should also be sought in other cases.
  • Two people in a relationship should strive to satisfy each other sexually so that there is no room for grazing outside.
  • Drunkenness in a relationship especially the women should be avoided.
  • Seek God for it is only Him who can quell hungers and thirsts of the body

What Is Your Take

Do you think cheating in relationships is healthy?

Do people cheat because they are not in love with their spouses or there are other reasons?

Should men be allowed to roam outside marriage while women are caged inside the marriage relationship?

What is your take?

What do you think is the reason why human beings have burning passions for partners who are not their spouses?

The opinion is yours

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    • Kiss andTales profile image

      Kiss andTales 

      4 years ago

      Another thing to remember if your mate is unfaithful the bible gives you grounds to divorce , so if the innocent mate is over sadden and betrayed from the heart he can be release from the bond.

      This would be better then to allow hate of the person to feaster ,because hate turns into actions, they can not be approved by God keeping you and God in a good relationship. Move on let God help you find your next mate that may be a whole different outcome.

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      Meshack Bwoyele Keya 

      4 years ago from Vihiga County,Western Kenya

      @Dana Tate Any woman unless she communicates how she wants to be treated emotionally then no man will be angelic enough to guess what she wants. And believe me you unless she can communicate then she will jump from bed to bed and from one arm to another without any satisfaction

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      Kiss andTales 

      4 years ago

      Sad but true ! I believe people jump into marriage and relationships they did not do their home work on, some people just jump in because of lust and infatuation, when that wears off they are back where they started,

      Some people have not matured enough to know what they are vowing and how serious that vow is before God!

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      Yoleen Lucas 

      4 years ago from Big Island of Hawaii

      I understand while men are more likely to have several anonymous flings, women tend to have fewer affairs, but it's more likely to be with someone really damaging; the husband's brother, boss, best friend, etc. Women are also more likely to leave the marriage to pursue the affair.

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      Dana Tate 

      4 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Mainly women, unless they are promiscuous, cheat because they are not being fulfilled emotionally and sex has little to do with why the step out of their marriage. I agree with dashingscorpio. Marriage is like a garden which must be tended with loving care daily. Marriage should not mean neglect now that the person has a ring on their finger. Some people's expectations are unrealistic when it comes to marriage. They want the fairytale but not the work and marriage takes work. It's more than love and fluff its a promise and commitment and once kids come it becomes a legacy.

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      Kiss andTales 

      4 years ago

      Very true for a marriage is when two become one , if same mind and body, we are not to dishonor the union of the mind and body as you are one before God Almighty as you vowed!

    • stbrians profile imageAUTHOR

      Meshack Bwoyele Keya 

      4 years ago from Vihiga County,Western Kenya

      @dashingscorpio You have put it in the best way. Nobody would have put it better. Cheating is a sin that is not only against the body but against God. Cheating is a break of trust in your partner and also it is shaming ones body. You look lose.

      @kiss and tales We need to be faithful to our partners as we swore to be with them for good or for worse. Let us honor our bodies.

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      Kiss andTales 

      4 years ago

      Great reply I agree totally dashingscorpio !

      The problem with married people cheating is that they made a vow to their mate, and God for he created this bond of union for man and woman.

      So that also means you made a vow to God you broke while cheating, there is no good end to that.

      People take this very lightly they should not.

      And really cheating is the same as a betrayal of trust! Like Judas betrayed Jesus.

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      4 years ago

      If a woman (wants) to cheat she has unlimited options! Men flirt with attractive women everyday! All a woman needs to do say "yes". Most men could care less whether the woman is married or in a relationship. The men are just looking for some passionate sex. Women on the other hand it has been reported that when they elect to cheat it usually has very little to do with sex and more to do with appreciation of her and being in tuned to her emotional needs.

      A lot of people get married and then gradually stop doing all of the things that won their mate's heart! They don't look at marriage like it's a garden which needs to be tended to.

      Just because a company hires you doesn't mean they're not receiving resumes in the mail daily. In order to hold onto a job you have to continue to perform a high standard or risk being let go.

      The goal of most cheaters is hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side. The typical cheater is not looking to replace one relationship with another.

      I believe there are three basic types of cheaters.

      1. The Incessant Cheater - This person has never been faithful in a long-term relationship. They get bored easily and are always on the look out for excitement that comes with brand new adventure. Their motto is: Variety is the spice of life!

      2. The Unbelievable Opportunity Cheater - This person is not proactively looking to cheat. They may have a secret crush or they admire someone who is "out of their league" and one day this person flirts with them and the married person caves into "temptation" of living out their fantasy. This type of cheater has been known to confess weeks, months, or years later if they have a loving spouse just to rid themselves of the guilt they've been carrying.

      3. The Discontented Cheater - This person blames their mate for causing them to cheat. Lack of quality sex, no romance/affection, feel taken for granted, neglected, verbal/physical abuse, feeling isolated and not understood. It doesn't take much for a stranger to put a smile on the face and in the heart of an unhappy person.

      A man might tell a woman: "If you were mine I'd treat you like a queen!" She compares that to how her husband treats her and it's not even close!

      I personally believe the #1 reason why people cheat is because they're not "in love". I'm not talking about simply (loving someone) I mean being "in love" with them. When you're "in love" with someone you don't want to risk doing anything that could cause the relationship to end. You've invested your heart and soul into the relationship. That's stronger than saying some words or making a vow. Words without (emotional investment) are empty promises.

      Cheating is a "selfish act". The cheater is only concerned with their own happiness. A person who is "in love" wants their mate to be happy as well.


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