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Why A Man Needs More Than One Woman

Updated on November 5, 2016

For centuries this has been a subject of contention, among men and women. Despite all wisdom surrounding modern religion and cultural transformation, there doesn’t seem to be a well-developed answer to convince one beyond reasonable doubt about man’s need to have more than one sexual partner.

Many (men and women) argue that men are simply selfish insecure brats, with an enormous appetite for sexual relations which cannot be successfully satisfied by one girlfriend or wife. I know some men who support this school of thought, adding that men who go out with more than one woman are in fact natural adulterers, who can’t control their passions, lust, need for pleasure and the like. Whether this is true or not, is food for thought for you and me.

There is absolutely no harm in attempting to use logic to solve this dilemma which seems to be as old as mankind. This article attempts to shade some light on a few meaningful facts one should consider before throwing men to the Gallows. Its important to note however that no religious or cultural disrespect is intended and so we shall try to be as objective as possible in the matter.

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Genetic Programing

Despite their different paths in the history of evolution, all organisms in the animal kingdom share certain traits. This could be because all life started from the same source; the primitive single celled organisms. It is therefore a miss conception to view mankind from a totally unique perspective from all the other species traversing the planet (especially in the issue of sexual relations and reproductive science)

In many other species, once the female is mated, she no longer wants the male around. Her interest is now the well-being of her future children. Some actively chase the male away and in extreme cases they eat or kill them after mating. Situations in which the male’s life is spared, he wonders off looking for the next available suitor. Among our closest cousins-the primates-there is an Alpha male who will breed with any female within the family group in order to instinctively propagate his traits into the next generation. He often fights off other males to protect his territory.

In humans, the story is similar. Ounce a woman is pregnant; her chief concern dramatically switches from her mate to the well-being of the baby growing in her womb, and the life there after. This goes on until way into the babies first few years of life (and men need to understand this). The usual requirement for the male is to provide food and to protect the family unit. Now the difference is, humans are emotional beings. So if this goes on long enough the male starts to feel the need to find emotional attention elsewhere by instincts. (And for men this comes with sex) This however doesn’t mean that the man no longer cares for his family unit.

The point is this. Without disruption from modern social and religious values, men would be like the primates who work hard (by instinct) to propagate their gene to the next generation. Men are genetically programed that way. Therefore trying to make men monogamous is fighting natural genetic programing.

You will also note that women play along to the basic masculine instincts. They work hard to look beautiful and seductive through make up, mini skirts, tight fitting pants and swaying bottoms falsely, all to highlight and give the impression of availability.

Simply put, men are naturally ready to breed with any available mate. And like our animal relatives, women express their availability through accentuating their features to try and get the best available male eye.

Men are Naturally Insecure

Sounds pathetic, yeah? Believe it or not men are afraid that they aren’t that cutting in life. Not just at work but also at home as husbands and in their private lives. They may not necessarily vocalize this, but are secretly vulnerable.

To a Real man, affirmation from a female is everything, and they just can’t seem to get enough of it. This is why they are constantly going after the most expensive watch, tie, car and so forth in order to impress. It’s this affirmation that grows their confidence and turns them into the most attractive guy every girl covets. I know a guy who openly confessed that it was a life changing experience when one of his secret girlfriends told him that his new pair of boxers looked amazing on him. It helped him feel more comfortable in his body. And don’t be fooled to imagine that it has anything to do with flattery. It must be genuine affirmation, because flattery will soon be busted. The more they get, the more they need.

Sex, Duh!!

But sex means more than just sex. Of course its true men want more sex naturally. It’s also easy to assume that men want sex simply to satisfy their lustful desires. Many men will tell you that casual sex is in fact not that fulfilling if there are no genuine heart feelings. Surprisingly, men have this burning desire to be desired. They simply need to be wanted. A man needs to feel desired before they can find sex fulfilling. If this is not availed, they will keep trying elsewhere. Regular fulfilling sex is important to a man’s general wellbeing and it has a profound effect on the rest of his life. As a real man slowly works his way around his woman's neck, down her spine and so forth, his heart beats faster, blood rushes to his big bulging brain, and his mind goes at ease. A sense of selflessness fills his mind and all he can think of is how to bring ecstasy to his woman’s life. No moment in life matches this.

Sex is thus good for a man’s heart. It seems to bring out the best in any man (the selfless nature of a real man). The big question is: “can’t he achieve all this with ONE woman?” truth is everyone is entitled to their opinion. But I will tell you, the more he gets, the better he becomes. And like we agreed women are simply not as interested in sex as men are. So a brother needs to have options in case one is not in the mood.

With all said, it is also a fact that men enjoy romance but often doubt their skill to be romantic. Being glued to one woman doesn’t help this at all. He needs to explore and learn. Learn that romance is not just about the art of sex, and the bitter fact that every woman defines romance in her own language

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      RENE 22 months ago

      I DO BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT IN YOUR CONTEMPLATION OF POSSIBITIES. I DO THE BEST I CAN. I'M ALL ABOUT TRUTH. I DON'T HAVE A CLUE HOW TO LIE. I LISTEN TO MY GUT. IT'S NOT EASY. THANK YOU FOR YOUR INPUT. TRUTH.

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      Amy 15 months ago

      This is retarded. Girls are just a horny as men are. You don't homo women are tempted to be with men other than their partner? Nice try. We're all humans. Not animals. We make conscious choices.

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      Amy 15 months ago

      This is retarded. Girls are just a horny as men are. You don't think women are tempted to be with men other than their partner? Nice try. We're all humans. Not animals. We make conscious choices

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      dashingscorpio 13 months ago

      I don't believe a man (needs) more than one woman but most go through a period where they (want) more than one woman. They admire playboys!

      This is especially true when a guy is young and single. The thought of settling down and "becoming his parents" is like watching his life flash before his eyes. And yet there is this constant struggle between wanting to hold onto that "special girl" who wants monogamy while he "samples" other women.

      Being with many women is a dream come true for a lot of guys!

      Generally as men get older and become more mature they seek out (one) woman who "gets them" and wants to give them everything they desire.

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      Truth 4 months ago

      Look the the truth is science vs nature let's go back before condoms birth control and abortions woman where getting pregnant over and over again some even died from child birth. Some got so sick of having baby's they killed themselves trying to abort the baby so the fact is from nature men had to spread there seeds out with other woman to balance output of baby's. Try asking woman from that time how they felt about shearing theirs men !!!, You can have him young girl I am sick of having baby's I've been having kids from 16 to 46 I'm done fact facts facts

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      Truth 4 months ago

      Woman have been given their freedom and liberty from birth control condoms and abortions woman always compare them selves by saying woman can do the same as men, why men get mad when we do it , what if there was no birth control I don't think woman will be saying that, we have been indoctrinated and confused with the Cinderella story. Science and technology has spoiled woman to the point nature is out of question we are living someones agenda!!!

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      ian 12am 4 months ago

      Nature is the only factor of life we can not change. The harder we try, the more complex our relationships become. Although I would be hurt if my woman slept with another man, I wouldn't kill myself over it. And the reason is monogamy is simply not natural.

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      Paula 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      ian....You are a brave man to have written this !! LOL. I'll try to go easy on you, but I can't promise.

      I'm well educated on all this instinctive, "nature-driven"....how-men- and-women-are-made-to-be....scenario. All you have shared here is 100% accurate, according to the study of man.

      However, as civilization came along, human beings had to accept the fact that although we are at our basics~~"animals"~~we're vastly above in intellect, behavior and evolution. So much for the uncontrollable need to spread their seed and multiply. Enough.

      The world now is OVERpopulated. All men make line up for their vasectomies....and women who are DONE having babies can line up right next to the men and have their hysterectomies (or at least have their tubes tied.) There's a whole hell of a lot more to life than having babies, for the LOVE of Pete!!

      As for sex and number of sexual partners? We can see through history and life's experiences that men certainly like that concept of multi-women. There are probably more and more women who might like to have more than one man. It's just not the way we do things anymore, now is it? Call me crazy, but I think there's a lot to be said for decency, respect, humility, monogamy & loyalty. This is a HUGE topic.

      You did a fine job on this hub. Thanks for sharing your opinions.

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      ian 12am 7 weeks ago

      Thanks Paula for that insightful comment. I do believe that humans are highly intelligent, but you can not disassociate human behavior from the scientific animalistic nature. It's not just about sexuality. Have you seen how humans compete for dominion to the extent of killing each other? While we can and must control our decisions and choices, it's dangerous to overlook the reality of nature. We must understand who we are in order to make a practical difference.

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      ian 12am 7 weeks ago

      Arlan thanks for the comment. My opinion in this article is based on factual observations. It is not intended to offend any personal or religious values and beliefs. Under no circumstances am I trying to implore You or anyone else to abandon their sense of moral judgment. Am simply exploring the issues surrounding human sexuality. We need to be able to openly discuss and address the facts, in order to make society a better place.

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      Paula 7 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      The answer here is so simple. Men need more than one woman, so that these women can help him see and get around easily, after his wife pokes both his eyeballs out. Have a wonderful day, Don Juan!

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      Ella 5 weeks ago

      Why do so many men try to make excuses for their unacceptable behavior? If you don't intend to stay loyal to one girl, then make it straight and tell her. But don't get angry if your girl wants to see other guys as well then. I just don't understand these double standards, women can have strong sexual needs as well. If you expect you can go after any woman then your woman can go after any man. Why do men get angry at that though? Ridiculous...

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      ian 12am 4 weeks ago

      Ella you have a serious point. While I believe its natural for men to desire and need more than one woman, the same is true for women. If a man decides to take that path, they shouldn't be too selfish to deny the same for their women.

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      ian 12am 4 weeks ago

      https://pairedlife.com/problems/A-man-canbe-in-lov...

      Ella the hub on that link can explain more about what I mean in the comment above

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