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Why Am I Still Single? Part 3
Become A Sweet Fragrance
The perfume Mary used to anoint Jesus’ feet depicts your flower time. When you see a flower at its blooming stage, it is beautiful and full of life and gives a sweet fragrance. Beloved, your singlehood phase is meant to distribute sweet fragrance to your generation. 2 Cor. 2:15 says “For we are a fragrance of Christ to God, among those who are perishing”. The perfume Mary brought was saved specifically for Jesus’ burial. Everything about you is supposed to produce a sweet fragrance. A sweet fragrance cannot be hidden, no matter how one tries to suppress it; it’ll find a way of spreading. The fragrance you produce tell people more about you. Fragrance in this context refers to your disposition, relationship with people, manner of approach and manner of speech. It also refers to your perception of God and people around you, and the value you place on Spiritual things. Any good fragrance that comes out of you becomes pleasant to those around you, which makes you happy. On the other hand, if the fragrance coming out of you is bad, then it becomes an odor that is repelling. As singles who are called for good works, you ought to be sweet at all times because bad character like pride, anger, arrogance, bitterness etc, will make people avoid you. Mary’s selfless act was felt by Jesus and everyone that was present, Jesus said of her in Matt 26:18, “I tell you the truth, where ever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will be told in memory of her”.
What a great testimony. Your life is worth more than what you think about yourself. You are to live a life of impact, whether you’re married or single. The world is looking for people with sweet fragrances. Your parents, pastor, friends and colleagues want to feel your impact.
Someone out there is desperately in need of love, care and kindness. Don’t just live for yourself, but reach to as many as you can. You can put a smile on a sad face by caring for that person. You may not have money or something tangible to give, but a phone call, a visit, words of encouragement can go a long way to heal a broken heart. Whenever you sow love, you definitely will reap love. It is sad to see that many single ladies pile up boxes of clothes for years without giving them to people that need them. The countless number of boxes you have full of clothes is not impact, it is merely a waste of resources.
Single-hood is an opportunity for you to be a blessing to someone, because you may not have the same opportunity later in life. You can provoke heaven to notice you with what you do as a single. For example, you may decide to support an orphan through school; you can also perform the responsibilities of a mother or a father to someone that needs it. This may sound and look insane to others, but continue sowing good seeds and keep on doing what God desires. As a single you make yourself a wife before the man will see you; Prov. 18:22 says, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the LORD”. The bible didn’t say whoso finds a girl or a woman, it says; He who finds a “WIFE”. This means that you make yourself a wife before the man finds you, and not after marriage. It is the attributes of a wife in you that propels a man to propose marriage to you. Don’t be deceived, men are always on the lookout for wives and not ladies, girlfriends or roommates. Instead, they are looking for characteristics that make a lady outstanding among many. Ladies, stop building castles in the air, men are also on the lookout for women that can mother their children and not murder their children.
- Be kind to people, smile and be friendly.
- Let your lips be filled with sweet words.
Opportunity To Maximize Your Strength
One of the reasons why you are still single is for you to maximize your strength before it begins to fade. Jesus understood the principles of timing, no wonder He said in John 9:4-5, “I must work the works of Him that sent me, while it is day; the night cometh, when no man can work. As long as I am in the world, I am the light of the world”.
The “night” in this scripture means “strength”. After marriage you’ll hardly find time for yourself because you have a lot of responsibilities, so don’t deceive yourself by saying “I want to settle down”. When you are single you make decision alone, but once you get married, you take decisions that wouldn’t hurt your partner and children. Eccl. 9:10 says “Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might, for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom in the grave whither thou goest”.
The best time to utilize your strength is when you are single. The time of singlehood is a phase of laying foundation for the future. The foundation you lay will determine the success of your home. Whatever it is that you are doing as a single, keep doing it, the good works you do will lay a solid foundation for your marriage. Once your singlehood is being utilized doing the right things, you will not be overwhelmed by marital responsibilities and demands, because in marriage, there are many things that will take your attention; like your husband, wife, children, house chores, official demands, extended families etc. The demand will multiply with time so much that you’ll hardly have time for yourself except you squeeze time out of the little time you have.
When Mary found Christ, she cleared her life for Him, she refused to be distracted. She knew what to do at the right time. She became sensitive to the move of the Holy Spirit and was always at the feet of Jesus to drink from His Teachings and His Word. Luke 10:39 says, “She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what He said”. Mary discovered the secret and she decided to make good use of it. What are you waiting for? It is time to use your strength for the kingdom, there’s no time to waste. The presence of Jesus makes a difference in your life whether single or married. God wants you to focus on Christ with everything you have. Heb. 12:2 says “Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith”. Jesus should be your main focus. Mary discovered Jesus Christ, she got him and clung tightly to Him and never allowed anything to come in between them.
The only assignment Mary was to fulfill on earth was to anoint the feet of Jesus, because she was passionate about Jesus, she was in her place of assignment and fulfilled her assignment. She saw the opportunity to fulfill her purpose and she grabbed it, that’s why she was able to anoint Jesus at the right day and at the right time.
God creates opportunities every day; it is left for you to be sensitive enough to make good use of it. As a single, you have more opportunities and strength to carry out any assignment given to you. God speaks to us in different ways, if you open up your heart to Him, you’ll be able to hear Him clearly.
- The next opportunity that comes your way to do something good, don’t hesitate.
- Do away with every distraction and concentrate on Jesus.
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