8 Reasons Why Women Actually Fall For The Nice Guys
There's a huge misconception about Nice Guys that always finish last in terms of dating. This fake assumption makes guys desperate, and they either start blaming and generalizing all women or acting like assholes. Yes, assholes might have a bigger success with women, but in most cases, they don't have healthy relationships that require skills of real nice guys.
Being genuinely kind and compassionate are very attractive traits. And real nice guys have these traits. They don't pretend interest, they're not dishonest with a woman by agreeing with everything she says, and they're not trying to avoid conflicts. Got it? Typical Nice Guys are terrible human beings, and it's pretty straightforward why they're unsuccessful.
Real nice guys have a different approach. They're neither jerks nor Nice Guys, they're only genuine to others and usually have these traits:
1. Real nice guys are honest
Real nice guys are honest and open about everything they say, and that makes them attractive. They're not ashamed of their interest or sexuality and let the woman know their intentions. They're also honest with themselves, and if they don't like something, they express it a good way.
2. Real nice guys are assertive
Being passive isn't a way to success, and that's truth in dating as well. If they aren't confident enough to approach a woman, tell her they fancy or love her, then they're not going to date her especially in cultures where it's a norm to be more initiative than women. Yes, you can find a partner by being passive, but it's faster and more attractive to be proactive in dating.
3. Real nice guys are transparent
A genuinely nice guy is transparent with a woman. Being open and vulnerable are key traits to succeed in dating. If you are vulnerable to other people, they likely won't judge you, but rather start feeling a deeper connection with you. Also, it's much better if both of you know where you stand in the relationship.
4. Real nice guys set boundaries
Do you know why people never take advantage of real nice guys? They have set boundaries in the early stages of relationships. It filters out possessive people that are entitled to you and attract people that respect your decisions. Having boundaries is a key to healthy relationships, and this advice applies not only to dating.
5. Real nice guys are respectful
To follow-up the previous trait, real nice guys also understand others' needs. They're not selfish. They know that other people might have a different opinion or make a decision that isn't for their benefit. But they still respect it because they're not a center of attention.
6. Real nice guys are truly compassionate
Real nice guys don't pretend a compassion. They don't just nod their head and fake understanding of her feelings. Instead, they try to genuinely understand a situation from her point of view not because they want to get into her pants, but because they see more than just a sexy body. They see a vulnerable human being full of fears, insecurities, anger, and problems. If they do understand woman's feelings, they can build a deeper connection that leads to a better relationship.
7. Real nice guys know when to "lose" a woman
The truth is that you'll meet many people you won't click with. You're not compatible with everyone, and real nice guys know when to leave a relationship. You can be incompatible for various reasons – politics opinions, relationship goals, life values, and so on. If you don't ignore these things, you'll filter out incompatible people in the beginning.
8. Real nice guys treat women as individuals
There are 3.5 billions women on this planet. Do you think that you can treat all of them the same way? Every woman and every man are different. They possess different values, hobbies, goals, and needs. To be successful in dating, you must treat every woman the way she wants to. Respect her decisions while maintaining self-respect.
It's a disappointment that society doesn't teach men these traits. Being nice means to be kind and compassionate to other people. You should treat people with respect especially if they have different opinions. Being self-confident and respectful is a good way to start dating, but be also honest with yourself. If you don't agree with something, then set boundaries and don't let other people take advantage of you. If you don't have boundaries, then you're losing your identity and who wants to date people without an identity?