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Why Do Women Yell at Men?
It Pays to Know Why Women Yell
I have read this somewhere I couldn't remember...
When a woman cries in pain and yells at you, oh man, be thankful because she still cares. But when a woman suddenly change her ways, cries in silence and keeps quite all throughout, beware, she is getting ready to LET GO of you.
... if she smiles at your irresponsible behaviors, that means YOU already lost her.
What is Yelling?
Yelling is one of the most intense form of expressing emotion, usually when feeling too much anger, inside making it a little more aggressive than shouting. Sometimes we yell when we are overly excited, when we cannot contain our emotion either when we are happy or angry. But yelling when happy is a positive display of emotion, while yelling when angry becomes a very negative verb that defines well the words despair and frustration within the existing relationship.
Yelling in a Woman's Perspective
For us Women, we differ in ways of releasing that anger inside mostly by intensity. But men do not view it that way. Yelling for men is a very disgusting attitude that shouldn't be tolerated.
More often than not, you'll hear the line, "Im not deaf, you don't have to yell at me". But what they failed to realize is that women yell when angered over a repetitive, unpleasant, and totally unacceptable action that has been talked about calmly in the past. Moreover, yelling most likely happens when the conflict recurs out of men's careless attitude and seemingly high-sense of self-pride. Helplessness over an utterly abusive situation often makes women yell, except of course when it is habitual. For sure yelling as a habit is an entirely different story.
Though I agree at some point everything can be talked about calmly, I came to realize more what yelling really is, and what do women want to convey when yelling. Its more of a it's-too-much line, Im-in pain-but you-dont-care, I-am-yelling-because-I-want-you-to-see-my-pain, or it could be oh-gosh-please-do-something-about-it-I-don't-want-to-leave. Sentences could go on and on as we try to deciper why do women yell. One thing is clear though, women only yell to men they care about. (I'm talking about romantic argument not a threatening hold up scenario where we have to yell. Lol!)
Watch out When Women Stop Yelling
Yelling can also be used as a warning sign, telling men on what she is thinking up next. When the time comes that a woman couldn't take it anymore, and she arrives at a point when all she could do is to weigh if its worthwhile to stay, she normally stops yelling, and cries silently. So men should beware when a woman change her attitude. When she sobs silently at a man's anomisity instead, certainly she is thinking about how she could let go, carefully checking whether she is ready for it or not yet, and how to end such daily tormenting scenes without getting hurt. This explains why it usually is faster for a woman to get over after a woman-initiated break-up.
A little farther and further to this, it will then be worst when she yells no more. When she stops crying, it means she is in an entirely different stage,fed up with unresolved things, finally realizing yells aren't enough to point out her frustration. When she comes to a point that she thinks smiling is the best way to deal with the situation, it is for sure a sign of surrender. Good if it leads to acceptance, but worse when she is ready to go and leave that senseless, hopeless, and unhappy relationship. She will then prefer to silently make-up his plan, and reassuringly whisper to herself "Enough is enough!" or "Get out of my way, you insensitive idiot!" (Opps sorry for the word but that's the truth). So it pays a lot for a man to listen in between yells to make the relationship work, rather than abhorring it without giving it a closer look. It is possible to wake up one day without any single sign of her on the other side of the bed. Women can just leave without a trace after she has done everything, and had given the situation a careful thought. (Normally, it takes one year or more of weighing the situation)
I know for a fact that women will agree with me in this,.I have lots of "likes" in my FB and retweets in Twitter when I posted the same foreword I have in this article.If you think otherwise, let me know.