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Why Do Younger Guys Fall For Older Women
Young Women Take Note
In this ever changing world, the norms of the 90’s have been regarded as prehistoric by the teenagers of the twenty first century. The evolving society has changed its views on many issues over the years influenced by advances in research, plain acceptable and non acceptable norms and of course the experiences of people. With dating and relationships, society has somewhat accepted the standard the men date younger women. But what of the opposite, younger men dating older women?
Everyone is entitled to have their own opinion of the subject. A Lisa Musser described a relationship as not being defined by the ages of the people in it. But, by the feelings of the hearts involved.
What do the younger guys think the older woman has to offer in a relationship?
I asked a couple of my male friends about this at lunch the other day and the following is a collection of their responses. Young women take note.
It must be stressed that trust, respect and of course love are very important components to any relationship.
In general, younger men prefer older women because of the following;
Older women know what they want in life.
The younger men feel that older women having more experiences in life have a clear focus on what they want. It is so much easier being with older women as they are more mature. Older women are not always uptight and crying over the smallest of things. The portion of younger guys dating older women, see their peers dating girls of the same age group experiencing problems that are preposterous. They often see younger women as irrational and immature. Younger women are childishly out to conquer the world and are often unrealistic of their goals and ever changing ambitions. Older women are more grounded and realistic. The guys I talked to concluded that they do not have time for foolish and immature behaviors associated with girls their age and prefer the “mature woman.”
Older women do not constantly nag you.
Some younger men feel that older women give them all the time and attention they need, not to mention the space. Older women offer space, they allow you to have time for yourself. They offer their wholehearted devotion. Older women are not nagging for attention. The older woman is not constantly whining for you to get dressed early on Saturday morning for that dreaded picnic with her parents. Younger women are often clingy and self centered.
Older women are more emotionally stable
The older woman is more emotionally stable in a sense that she is sure of herself and will not be overly upset in unfavorable circumstances. She has a broader sense of needs and wants and will not tend to become depressed if things do not always go her way. The older woman does not need to pretend to be someone else to get attention. Ben (not his real name of course) says that he is attracted to a woman who has some degree of self control.
Older women make mature dinner conversations
Some younger guys prefer the spur of a sharp intellect. Who wants to come home after a hard day at work to enduring a dinner conversation with someone raving on about how she met her friends at the mall and them getting their hair done. A good percentage of the men I spoke to would rather sit down to dinner with some one who has a mature level of conversation that he can appreciate and enjoy. Girls lets face it, younger men want to talk about something other than you, your friends, your parents, your job….Older women are not self centered.
Older Women are often financially Secure
So guys are you after a Sugar Mama?
Not really but if she does want to go that way, then may be. Who would jump off a cruise ship in the middle of the ocean if someone offered to give you a million dollars if you stayed?...Seriously, the older woman is attractively more financially secure. She is not just looking for the guy who will be a good father and provider. My friend’s perception of younger women and what they want in life, “younger women are often just looking for the guy who they can marry, raise a family with, settle down, write a book and that is that.” Hang on, what happened to the having fun bit. Travelling to India or buying that Harley and just cruising down the afternoon sunsets. Older women are more fun.
And, no, money is not the underlying factor here. Of course love, trust and respect are by far more important.
Older Women have a Sense of humor
Some younger guys claim that older women being more confident and mature have that wonderful sense of humor. They are open minded, confident and can freely talk about anything.
Older women offer a deeper sense of friendship
With this aspect, I was told that a great friendship is the basis of their relationships. Older women are by far, friendlier, have a deep sense of understanding and are more patient. They are generally less mean after an argument or misunderstanding. Older women are quick to forgive and more often do not give you the silent treatment for eternity.
In general, the guys I interviewed agreed that the age difference is not a barrier. They say that their recipe to a great relationship would have to contain the following ingredients;
- A great friendship
- A sense of humor
- A dash of financial security, not important but great if available
- Intellectual dinner conversations
- Emotional Stability
- An extraordinary bed life, an important ingredient they forgot to mention earlier….
Older women are pre packed with all the above…
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore are a very good example of older woman and younger man couple. She is an irresistibly attractive older woman and Kutcher is a mature young man. Dream on (young) guys…not every older woman younger man relationship will make it into the Demi-Kutcher category…
As I said before, everyone has a right their opinions but for this group of guys (who prefer dating older women) the youthful ‘girls just wanna have fun’ philosophy is just not making the cut!
So girls let us ask ourselves are we really that bad?? Are we high maintenance? I thought men had the general perception that all women were high maintenance. Not just the young…
Well, whatever the situation we may like to take some notes so we can keep some of those potential good fathers to our peer group.