Why Does Love Hurt So Bad?
She Chose to Walk Away
I remember her kiss, the taste of her lips.
I remember the warmth of her embrace.
I remember her words of encouragement, and comfort.
I remember her.
The day we broke up that all came to an end. There would be no more kisses, no more late night video chats, or phone calls. Her presence in my life that was once so radiant and powerful would become dull, and vague. Somehow for us, returning to friends means distance, space, and the disappearance of her touch. It seems almost empty. Compared to our passionate, all encompassing love, breaking up was staggering.
I wanted her, I didn’t want her. I wanted to hurt her like she hurt me.
Alas, I realized, love is more than what we perceive it to be. Falling in love allows us to grow through relationships with our partners. It doesn’t have to be everlasting. Even short passionate encounters can fill us with happiness, and help us to learn about ourselves.
The mistake we make is trying to hold onto those we love when they want to leave.
Not every person is meant to be in your life forever.
Not ever relationship is meant to last.
But we learn a great deal through this encounter with the other. We learn how to lose ourselves in a sense of bliss and acceptance, and join with someone else. We learn that’s alright to lower our walls, and let someone climb over them, and embrace our complexities.
We see ourselves in our lover’s actions. Soon, it’s like we move as one.
When it ends, it can be an abrupt separation that jars the senses for some. For others, it may be a chance to learn what they may improve about their selves.We can be sad, we can cry, we can throw fits.
But eventually we reach a place where we are ready to accept that which we cannot change and move on. When that occurs, we realize that a broken heart isn’t the end of everything, but the beginning. In order to fill the gap of that which was lost, we search for who we are. We can take up activities, and busy ourselves with personal growth.
If you’ve always wanted to travel, you can travel.
If you desire to start boxing, you can start whenever you’d like.
You realize that while love has been dominant in your life for so long, it isn’t everything.
When love fades, you exist. You are free to explore the world, make new connections. You don’t have to be with your lover 24/7 to be happy, you just have to enjoy being in this world as you. And realize that you are your greatest treasure. You pick yourself up when you fall before great obstacles. You battle waves of depression. And you desire to prove you worth.
A lover makes it easier to face tough times, but you’re perfectly capable of facing each and every challenge on your own. Once you realize that, you are truly free to embrace the world on your own.
I’m not saying you should be alone forever, but if you’re in a situation where you’re about to lose your lover or partner, don’t fear it. Because you are strong, you are powerful, and you can do anything with a focused mind.