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Why Does My Husband Ignore Me?

Updated on September 13, 2013

My husband ignores me... What can I do?

If you are asking why does your husband ignore you, there are a few things that aren't understood. Men and women are quite different. One of the things that I learned about relationship is patience. So many people are impatient when it comes to marriage. This is one reason why the majority of married people end up getting a divorce in less than two years. They simply don't have the patience to get to know each other.

I do admit that my husband and I moved in too quickly. After 4 months of dating, we decided to get married after I had moved. I was 23 at the time and he was 26. I thought I knew him well but apparently not.

He is an incredible man but one thing that drove me crazy is that he did not even try to communicate. I knew he was shy and everything but honestly - it took him 1 year to finally open up. I thought I was crazy that my spouse would ignore me and I was always wondering why.

Thankfully, I am a woman with patience. Ladies, to those of you who have been patient for over 3 years then it is time to get some counseling. Prior to doing this, see how he responds if you leave for a week. If he steps in and says no to this, then it is true that he really loves you. He might not be a man who talks much. Either he is too comfortable, doesn't know what to say, or just had a long day at work.

Why does my husband ignore me constantly? This is a heavy question and we cannot tell until we've seen some of the things that take place in the relationship. It's up to you to find out.

Does he only make discussion at certain times? There are some men who feel that they've been with their wives for so long that they don't feel the need to make conversation. If this is the case, there is nothing to worry about. He will only ignore you from time to time but in this case, he might say something every once in a while.

You might feel incredibly lonely and ask your girlfriends "Why does my husband ignore me" just so you can see if they are going through the same thing. Want to know why? This article goes over the many instances on why he ignores you.


How to talk to your husband about problems

Marriage communication skills

If you are wondering "why does my husband ignore me" all the time, it is apparent that there are some serious problems in the relationship.Here are some effective skills for communication if this is lacking within the relationship:

First of all, pick the right time to discuss these serious matters. This really does matter otherwise the conversation won't go as planned. When the baby is crying or there is a blaring TV, this is never an appropriate time to talk. If y'all are settled into bed, ready to sleep - this would be a perfect opportunity.

Making eye contact let's your spouse know that the subject is serious. They can see how you feel about a certain topic just by making eye contact. Speak calmly and also listen to what they have to say. Don't start raising your voice, especially if there is something is said that isn't agreed on.

Never accuse him of anything or start name calling. This is not an acceptable way to handle things and it's also considered childish.

Does your spouse ignore you and not try to figure things out? This means it is time to take the first step. Come to an agreement after brainstorming ideas with your spouse on how to help the situation. If the two of you really work hard at this,it is possible to fix the marriage. Maybe he doesn't talk to you because he feels like all the talking is done for him. Stop trying so hard!


My husband is mean and angry

Anger management techniques for men

My husband is mean and angry so what can I do about it? Usually there is nothing you can do but you can point them in the right direction. Go ahead and have a serious talk about his attitude. Use the methods we have taught on how to engage in a conversation without turning it into an argument.

If he is someone who is angry and abusive, it is time to leave the relationship quickly. Let him know that the next step is filing for divorce if he does not look for some help. He may change his ways because he is afraid of losing you. It's one thing if you are wondering "Why does my husband ignore me" but when he is abusive, this is another story.

Here are some anger management techniques for men:

  • Take a timeout whenever you get into your angry mode. This means going outside or away from whatever it is that is making you angry.
  • Whenever possible, try to take a break by going for a light jog or just walking around in the park. Think back to the happy times and remember why you got together with your wife in the first place.
  • If you are in an area where you can't walk away, simply use the counting to ten technique. This can really help if you cannot seem to let go of your anger. For some people, this does work.
  • Have you ever thought about practicing meditation to clear your mind? It can do wonders for people who have a lot of stress and feel angry often.
  • If the wife is always is looking up on the Internet "why does my husband ignore me" - this is a sign that she is lonely and wants attention from you. Try to open up discussion and think back to the time when you were both teenagers.

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Online Marriage Counseling

Spouse abandonment

Why does my husband ignore all day? We have a list of reasons why which should be discussed later. There is one thing you need to understand though and this is your husband's personality. Does he have mental issues like suddenly becoming angry or depressed? Does he shout often? These are a few signs that your husband might need online marriage counseling.

One of the things about online marriage counseling is that it is a great way to connect with a counselor without having to actually go out. The best thing about this type of therapy is that it is much more affordable.

It works like this… You and your spouse should set up a webcam so this way it feels like you are having a real session. The counselor's job is to take some notes and track your progress in the marriage. She or he will see where the problems are coming from. Remember that with a marriage therapist, they won't ever judge you nor blame anyone. This is your spouses biggest fear when the term counseling comes up. They are only there to make it better.


Why does my husband ignore me?

Reasons why he ignores you

You don't let him breathe when he comes through the door
By giving him some space, he will come to you soon. Just smile and say hello. No need to have a long conversation right away, he will come to you sooner or later.

Your topics for conversation leave him in deep thought
Some men might not talk much but they definitely hear you. Anything you say could get his mind to run in another direction to the point he doesn't pay attention to what you are saying.

When you are beside him, he's content
Generally when men feel secure, they don't feel the need to conversate. You make him feel as if he is in a secure relationship. He's not hovering over you or blabbing on just to get your attention. The relationship is perfect to him, despite if you say anything or not. Some guys are just happy to see their wives in the same room as them.

His life is going downhill
Believe it or not, but he might be depressed. Does he seem like he doesn't enjoy doing certain things anymore? Problems at work or with the kids can easily spike stress. If he's been going through the same problems week after week, you may notice some changes in his personality. It's also easy for men to become depressed just as easily as women do. Try to cheer him up if he is this way.

You talk too much
Your spouse is ignoring you because you talk too much. Well, he is listening but sometimes it is hard to get a word in. The majority of men will think before they talk while there are some who can be much like you. Allow a moment of silence and he will open up.


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    • Shyron E Shenko profile image

      Shyron E Shenko 

      3 years ago from Texas

      There are as many reasons that a man ignores his spouse. And there are women who do the same.

      Communication is the key to knowledge and the key to knowing you partner.

      I wish you well.

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