- Gender and Relationships
Why Friendship Matters
What is friendship?
Friendship is a form of interpersonal relationship between two people. It is an association based on choice. Friendship makes life better because you have someone close to you, someone you can trust and rely on.
A friend is there for you in any circumstances, good or bad. You can tell your friend everything without being afraid that he or she will judge you. A true friend will support you and be there for you whenever you need it for the rest of your life.
The friend is someone you listen to when you are needed; someone you help or advise if you can; the person who will open it's heart, home and arm for you when you are in need.
What if the friend deceives you?
I have a friend who betrayed me once. I thought I will never forgive her. We had a real fight and we didn't talk to each other after that. The sad part was that we worked in the same place, our desks were located next to each other. The situation became awkward because we worked in a very small team of eight and everyone started to look at us with a questioning face. Therefore, 3 days later, I went up to her desk and told her that we should at least talk to each other at work. She reluctantly agreed just to keep the peace at our workplace. It looked like our friendship was over.
Should you forgive and forget?
Meanwhile, my friend told her husband what happened and asked for his opinion. He analysed the situation and told her that she did betray me. It took her a few days to think about the next step. Then, she apologised. I didn't know how to react. I was not sure that the forgiveness was the right think to do. BUT, given that we were friends for 10 years, I gave her another chance to redeem herself. This turn out to be the BEST choice I made. Why?
Since then, we did not have any arguments. My friend changed her behaviour towards me completely. Now, we are very close to each other and we did learn to respect each other feelings and decisions.
Because of the fight with my friend, I started to search for another job. It took me 1 week to get an interview. The interview went very well. I had the second interview in a couple of days. This went better than the first. Two days later I got a job offer. When asked how much I expect to be paid, I said a very high figure in the hope that I will be turned down. I didn't want the job anymore, because meanwhile I made up with my friend. BUT, the salary offer was so good, so I had to accept it.
It was my friend's birthday a few days ago. I did buy her a nice present, sent her an e card and did ring her first thing in that morning. We did meet at lunch time and I was blown away when she said: "The fact that you didn't forget my day is the best present for my birthday!"
After all, my decision to forgive her paid off big time.
Morale of the story: forgive your friends because maybe sometimes you will need their forgiveness too.
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