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Reasons Some Men Cheat on Their Wives or Girlfriends

Updated on June 19, 2016

He Had Nerve To Cheat In Your Bed? Preposterous huh!


The Word Cheat

First of all, I hope men and women will find this article interesting. I hope that this information is a benefit to many. I use the word cheat because it is the more resentful word to a cheater. Cheating on a spouse or girlfriend is an unfair thing for a man to do. It is taking advantage of her trust.

Lack of Communication Can Cause Cheating

There is no excuse for a man to cheat on his woman. If there is a problem between them then they should attempt to talk thoroughly about it and not allow it to be brushed off. They must allow each other to speak their minds. Remember, communication in a relationship is what it is all about; communicating thoughts now and later with openness and honesty.

Somebody Just May Get Caught!


Not Seeing A Man's Point of View

Now, I’m going to speak from a man’s point of view. Here is a scenario; I want to explain to her how she can please me more intimately. Well, after I start explaining she interrupts and says, “I do not want to hear that or I do not do that.” Well, that cuts him off. He is not allowed to fully explain himself to the point that she understands. This may be one reason why he will be compelled to cheat and have his desire fulfilled elsewhere.

The Lack of Being Heard and Understood

We all need to be heard and understood especially by our mates. One major issue that may lead a man to cheating is that another woman may listen to him more than his own. No, a man should not share a problem between him and his mate with anyone, let alone, another woman. The other woman may not have had any intentions of cheating with him but constant communicating his feelings to the other woman can cause her to get familiar with and attracted to him. He should be allowed without interruptions or anger to communicate his thoughts and feelings to his woman until the situation is clearly understood.

Lack of Keeping Up With His Intimate Needs

He may feel that having sex with his woman has gotten boring. It should never get boring. There are many attributes that go along with the sexual act to make it more interesting. Another partner may do additional things that he likes like, talking to him during the act if not communicating in other ways. In other words, the main woman may want to do more than just the plain act. It is most important to ask him, how and what does he want at that particular time.

Think about it: a man may cheat on his wife because of her being un-lady like. The wife should try to find out what attracted him to her. It could help as a learning experience.

Is Giving Him The Best That You Have Apparent?

Is he getting the best out of his woman every time? The best thing is not to give him a good or bad reason to go elsewhere for pleasure. A man does not go cheating by just talking. He may likely go further than that if the opportunity arises. His mate should always look her best for him no matter what the circumstances are. I can really appreciate that. If he expects the best from her then he should give it in return.

My Research

In my research about this I found that women are high I the work force now a days and after putting in eight to ten hours of the day, they may be so tired and cannot measure up on some days to what the husband may desire or the timing may not be right. Well, whose fault is that? Devotion to each other is supposed to be the priority without any excuses.

Faithful Love and Respect

Treating each other with love and respect are the highest treatments to maintain the relationship within. If love and respect exist every day with every encounter including in the most difficult discussions then there is no reason for him to venture outside of the main relationship or marriage.


Even though every one is different, there is no reason not to treat your spouse with what he needs and desires. Educate yourself to treating your mate the best. (No fair getting tired and ending sessions too soon. The “I got a head ache” will have him making plans to cheat. A man’s sexual drive can cause him to cheat with a woman or a different one for every day of the week if he feels a bit neglected. By the way, his woman’s unnecessary insecurity can push him out there too. His woman should solve her insecurity issues before it kills the marriage or relationship all together and finally. There are men that do not cheat but unfortunately, because he may be a people’s person; his woman treats him as if he is. That is falsely accusing him and that also causes neglect to him. I hope this was as realistic in a good sense as life should be.

Give Him So Much That He Has No Room To Receive From Someone Else

What It Took To Get Him Will Take The Same to Keep Him


Look out for the lust. A man can build up lust by altering his thinking and caring away from the one he is supposed to be in love with by alcoholic drinking. That is why most people that consume alcohol cannot believe that they have indulged in lustful acts after they have become sober. Many times there is guilt and regret for such acts. Being yourself in sobriety is the best way for a man to be and he will not get as caught up in unfavorable situations.


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  • MsDora profile image

    Dora Weithers 

    4 years ago from The Caribbean

    I want to emphasize Mona's point that many men are lonely in old age, because of unfaithfulness. Woman and child(ren) stay away and look after each other, leaving him deserted. Wish the men would think about this and change their cheating ways. I know they can, even if it means getting professional and spiritual help.

  • ocfireflies profile image


    4 years ago from North Carolina

    You have taken on a problematic topic and addressed it with honesty and observations. All of us should be so straightforward and perhaps, there would be less infidelity.



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    Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

    4 years ago from Philippines

    I just can't tolerate cheating. While you have some valid reasons, there are also men who are compulsive cheaters like Bill Clinton and a host of Filipino actors, one of whom has 45 children. I've also seen compulsive cheaters grow old, unloved and alone. Rich cheaters end up with opportunist young wives who don't really care about them. Cheating may be a fact of life, but it isn't always the wisest choice. But as you pointed out, sometimes perfectly good men cheat but may not do it compulsively. Those are the types of men where cheating can be prevented. It's the same with women.

  • Eiddwen profile image


    4 years ago from Wales

    It is sad that today for many cheating is becoming the norm but for me definitely not. You have covered the subject thoroughly and portrayed it in a very interesting light leaving much food for thought. Voted up, across and shared.

    Enjoy your weekend.


  • word55 profile imageAUTHOR

    Al Wordlaw 

    4 years ago from Chicago

    Hey Jodah, being committed to one woman should be the norm and I'm glad to see that you are... After cheating, eventually a man will realize that when he is ready to settle, a good woman is hard to find because like you said, it happens on the other side too. Thanks for your comment and stopping by!

  • word55 profile imageAUTHOR

    Al Wordlaw 

    4 years ago from Chicago

    Hi oldies, Um, some men just have the "dog" in them. They seem never to be satisfied with only one but what he dishes out may come back to haunt him in return. If you were faithful to him then he'll realize one day, that he missed out on a real good thing in having you. The best is yet to come for you. Thanks for your comment and thanks for stopping by!

  • word55 profile imageAUTHOR

    Al Wordlaw 

    4 years ago from Chicago

    Yes Devika, cheating on your mate is a low down thing by either side! Thanks for stopping by.

  • Jodah profile image

    John Hansen 

    4 years ago from Queensland Australia

    Interesting advice word. I agree with a lot of it, but I think it all goes both ways. Whatever the woman needs to do to stop her man cheating, should be expected of him in return. Cheating is too common but shouldn't be accepted as the norm.

  • oldiesmusic profile image


    4 years ago from United States

    I was a victim of cheating, so I could relate to some of the scenarios you've put there. But I didn't do anything to push him out... I was happy with him, or so I thought. I was never insecure or pushy, and gave him my best that I could offer. I guess once a cheater isalways a cheater (you point out sexual drive).

    Really interesting hub.. thank you for posting :)

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    Devika Primić 

    4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

    Cheating is so common most partners just can't stop thinking or doing the same over and over again to hurt the other and wait for forgiveness. Interesting tips mentioned here.


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