Why Men Want Women, Not Little Girls Masquerading as Women
Men Respect Independent and Self-Assured Women
Any intelligent, mature, and self-respecting man would prefer an independent, self-sufficient, and aware woman. Men today value and respect women who are their equal. It is less stress on the relationship when a man has a self-sufficient and independent woman. Men want a woman who is able to be an equal participant in the game of life.
Men can easily spar with independent women who are their social and intellectual equal. Men can be themselves around an independent and self-sufficient woman and does not have to resort to mind playng and manipulative games with them as he would a more submissive, damsel in distress type of woman. A self-sufficient and independent woman is very attractive to men because she does not "need" them as she is quite capable in making and earning her own way. The self-sufficient and independent woman views men as desserts and as equals. Just think of Katherine Hepburn as the prototype of the self-sufficient and independent woman who could hold her own with any man.
Sexually, the self-sufficient and independent woman is a dynamo. She is not afraid to ask for what she wants sexually. She does not adhere to societal sexual rules and roles and is quite comfortable venturing beyond the traditional sexual arena. She is not afraid of being a wild person or a sexual initiator in bed. She is also quite frank regarding her sexual likes and dislikes.
In the job/career arena, the self-sufficient and independent woman is a plus for any man. Many men in committed relationships whether traditional or nontraditional appreciate the fact that their significant other is an equal contributor to the household. This means that he is not overburdened with being the main provider which means less stress for him. In fact, he admires and respects such a woman because she represents an adult who can equally carry out her responsibilities, not a child who needs to be taken care of and supported.
The self-sufficient and independent woman makes for a stimulating companion to a man. She is proactive and a participant in life. She is not a passive little girl to be pushed around. In fact, men respect her more than he would a damsel in distress who is constantly needy. Men actually despise needy women for they are drain emotionally, financially, and psychologically.
In fact, nothing is more distressing and more onerous to men than to be in a relationship with a woman who is needy i.e. a damsel in distress. In this "relationship" , the man is the dominant partner while she is the passive partner. A man in this relationship is the father, the ever omnipresent one, and "the master" who assumes all or most of the responsibility. He is the one who always gives and gives without anything being given in return. A "woman" who assumes the role of the damsel in distress always wants to be rescued and supported. She is under further assumption that because she is a woman, she should not have to burdened with the responsibilities of life and that she should be taken care off.
Progressive, modern, and intelligent men do not appreciate nor want to enter into a relationship with such a type of woman. She would be considered an onerous burden to him. This type of woman is a harbinger of a bygone era where women were expected to be taken care financially and emotionally by men. However, in this day and age, women who are damsels in distress are derided and viewed as immature little girls or prima donnas, not strong and mature women who are equal participants in life. . Damsels in distress or passive women are the weakest link in womanhood and they have no survival skills either in work or in life.
This type of woman is not savvy and is more likely to be abused and manipulated by men because she is not assertive enough to express what she wants out of life and relationships. The damsel in distress is to be avoided like a bad habit. She is just a little girl masquerading as a woman. She is the type of woman that any right thinking man would leave for a more assertive, strong, independent, and intelligent woman. While the damsel in distress is a dinosaur on its way to extinction, the self-sufficient, independent, and assertive woman is here to stay and is growing in numbers. To paraphrase the song by Aretha Franklin and Annie Lennox-there was a time when people used to say that behind a great man was a great woman; however, times has changed and there is something that I have to say to you sisters are doing it for themselves. We are standing on our two feet and ringing our own bells! Amen to that !