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Why Modest Clothing Encourages True Love
Lack of Modesty Negatively Affects Behavior
Modesty is a behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency. As a man, I it is very uncomfortable when I communicate with an indecently dressed woman. What does it mean to be indecent you may ask? Indecent is when a woman wears skimpy clothes and shows cleavage. Why do women feel the need to dress this way? Perhaps the male culture is to blame, but what does a woman's choice of clothing say about that person. A woman that wears tight or revealing clothing is screaming for someone to notice her. Unfortunately for her, she is labeled as loose, not a person to spend a lifetime with.
When I was in college, being the curious person that I am, I overheard a conversation between one brave boy and a group of girls. The boy asked if girls know what they are doing when they wear skimpy clothing and there was an emphatic "Yes." They know exactly what they are doing. Women want to look attractive, but at what cost? I would never advocate a woman be covered from head to toe, but what they wear should say what is in their heart rather than I want to sleep with you. This shallow behavior encouraged by men should not be endorsed by women. I believe so many men and women are starving for affection that they are willing to do whatever it takes to get noticed.
Early in my life, I can certainly remember being attracted underdressed dressed women, but that was before I understood "true love." As I matured, I began to ask myself what type of woman would be perfect for a wife. A woman more interested in her appearance or her heart? A woman concerned about modesty became more important as I thought about the future.
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Modest or Immodest
As a man, does clothing affect the way you see a woman?
Men Are on the Hook
Over many generations it is easy to see that our culture has become completely sexual. It seems that in order to sell anything in our current culture, a half dressed woman is necessary. I challenge anyone to find any advertisements without the use of a woman's body in the sales pitch. Men are largely responsible for the rise of inappropriateness expressed in women's clothing.
When Did Sloppy Become Cool?
I am not sure when it happened, but somehow sloppily dressed boys and men are considered cool. Ripped or sagging jeans, simple t-shirts are not only adorned by children, but grown men have seemingly joined in on the fad. Places of business trying to make their employees feel comfortable have gone from suits to t-shirts. What does this say about men? Are they worthy of a woman's respect?
Slob or Sleek
As a woman, does clothing affect the way you see a man?
How Does Clothing Choice Affect True Love?
The title of this article is "Why Modest Clothing Encourages True Love," how does clothing choice have any affect on relationships?
- First of all, people, especially men are visual. The first thing a man notices about a woman is what she is wearing. He may at second glance notice her other features, but the clothing is what typically catches his eye.
- If all a man sees are the cleavage and tight dresses, he is not thinking potential commitment, but fun for the night.
- If a woman does not show everything she's got to everyone, a man is forced to look for what is inside the heart.
Obviously relationships are more than just clothing, but if a woman wants to win a man by simply the curves of her body, then her insecurities will keep her from finding true love. If a man is only interested in her curves, he may be interested in someone else's curves sometime in his future.