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Why Should All Couples Have a Money Date Night?

Updated on September 15, 2016
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"Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty." Proverbs 21:5

Money and Love

Money and love.
Money and love. | Source

The Most Un-Romantic Date Ever ... Once a Week Even!


Reading my title up there at the top, one may think, "Alright ...what fun, a date night to go on a spending free together with my sweetie; spending money as if there is no end to it!"


Alas, the bubble is burst, when the subtitle here speaks of the most un-romantic date ever. Now, I know you may be thinking …who even wants to go there? I do not think I do, well, wait a minute then, why am I writing on such a topic as the most un-romantic date night and to add even more insult, suggest that such un-romantic date night should be scheduled once a week!


Okay, bear with me here, and let us not lose sight of the big picture when it comes to money and love. Money and love …sounds like an oxymoron to me, for can the two even co-exist? Do not get me wrong, for I am not writing on the love of money, as that is a whole different ballgame. In that scenario, it is without a doubt the root of all evil.


So, why the scheduling of a weekly most un-romantic date night ever?


I am reminded of that song from back in the day by Pink Floyd, when it comes to couples and their money and the line, “…keep your hands off of my stack.” In my younger married days, I may have even stated such ...just kidding, maybe. We were married five years before we had children and I worked and contributed my fair share, as I do now, even after my children are grown, so why not, keep my stack to myself, even though married?


I am not too sure that many couples have heard of setting aside time once a week for a money date night and exactly what does such entail. Well, I will tell you that it does not involve a spending spree! Quite the opposite in fact is true. To be honest, it is the most un-romantic kind of date, yet possibly the most important to the life of one’s marriage in terms of being on the same page when it comes to money issues.


More couples than not, experience tension, if not actual all out arguments when it comes to money. Unfortunately, such money issues are truly one of the leading causes of divorce.


On my commute home the other night I was listening to Faith Radio Broadcasting and they were discussing this very issue of having a weekly money date night.


One of the biggest mistakes that a couple makes is going into debt, which is so huge today. Be that as it may, however, with marriages, it usually involves a lack of communication between the husband and wife. To help in the area of such lack of communication, the idea of a money date night is born!


Talking About Debt

Young couple calculating their domestic bills at home.
Young couple calculating their domestic bills at home. | Source

God Cares About Our Finances

  • Money is mentioned about 2,000 times in the Bible.
  • Jesus spoke about money more than any other subject.
  • In the New Testament, money is mentioned more times than heaven and hell combined.

Money Date Night Involves Three Important Factors


First, pray!


As one can imagine, it may be good to begin to pray a good bit prior to the arrival of the first scheduled weekly money date night! It is important to look to what God has to say about money in His Word. God intends for us to be wise stewards of our money, no matter how much or how little we possess.


Each spouse should simply ask God to reveal the areas of problems in the marriage as relates to money. He will answer. When He does reveal the specific areas of concern, write them down, ask for forgiveness and then share what has been revealed to you with your spouse. This is the first step (admitting areas of failure to your spouse) in tearing down any walls that may have been built up over money in the marriage.


If your spouse does not respond positively, do not become upset, for you will have peace about it before God. If you continue to do this week after week, with loving words and acts to show that you are sincere about wanting to make changes, then, hopefully, your spouse will respond in a good way.


Secondly, review.


Come together once a week to review what monies you had coming in as a couple and what monies you had going out as a couple. Treat it as a fact finding mission together and not as a time to argue or fuss at each other. It is a fact that husbands and wives make better financial decisions when they both know what is going on with their money in their marriage.


On another note, sadly, it is often the case when one spouse loses the other due to death, the spouse who is still living, sometimes is totally lost as to finances, for there were no discussions together as a couple. Although, the death of a spouse is certainly something one does not want to think about; however, your love shines through for the other, when it is imprinted on the mind of your spouse that should such happen, there will at least be peace of mind when it comes to what is what as to the finances. What a beautiful gift to leave behind ...peace of mind.


Lastly, celebrate. This is really important because when husbands and wives usually talk about money, there is already a problem. It is either due to one not earning enough or one spending too much. It corrodes and damages the relationship. So couples must do their best to create an environment of gratitude with one another and celebrate when the Lord allows for a debt to be paid off. Celebrate together!


Going over the Budget Together

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"You're blessed when you're content with just who you are---no more, no less. That's the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can't be bought." ---Matthew 5:5 The Message Bible


Staying Focused on Life Goals Together


Although financial planning might not be romantic, there is some peace of mind in sharing the same goals for building a life together. Research has shown that the more couples pool their money, the happier their marriage.


Financial decisions that impact the success of the family are a shared responsibility. Whatever the source of God’s provisions, whether the result of the husband’s employment or the wife’s employment or both, the assets accumulated are the responsibility of both partners together as a team.


Establishing a budget is most important to a couple when it comes to handling money in a marriage. Surprisingly, most couples do not have a budget, and sometimes even the mention of the word “budget” causes a lot of couples to go into trauma because they simply do not want to be under a budget. There is really no need for such a traumatic reaction to establishing a budget, for it is simply a plan for handling your money.


Even those couples who are single, but in a serious relationship, often begin to share their hopes and ambitions for life, which then become central to the relationship.


Financial Strain Takes its Toll on Marriages

Financial strain taking a toll on your marriage.
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The Security and Ingetrity of the Romantic Relationship


Fear can certainly undermine that feeling of security and integrity of the romantic aspect of the relationship; that is fear of economic insecurity.


Different couples handle this fear in different manners, and if not handled appropriately, such fear can lead to many relationship problems.


The following are two extreme examples of how some couples may cope when fear of economic insecurity sets in:


1) Denying the need for any material possessions.


2) Spending lots of money on financial “feel goods.”


In the first scenario, where every penny must be saved, there are never any financial risks taken and no room for the couple to enjoy any financial recreation. Obviously, such restrictive coping behavior leads to many relationship problems.


In the second scenario, where money is spent to make one feel better, is usually short lived. This type of spending is called emotional spending, which many of us are familiar with the problems associated with this type of coping behavior. Ah, yes, I must buy those beautiful new pair of shoes for I will just feel so much better about myself … and when this happens too often, the feel good aspect is replaced by a worse feeling when the credit card debt starts to pile up and then comes the shock into reality.


Couples who work together to identify, and balance, their financial obligations and their financial recreation time, are achieving the same goals in life by working together at it.


No Secret Spending

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Image ID 100171565 27 May 2013 Women pulling out the cash card from boyfriend's pocket. It's Time to Shop Secretly! | Source

The Most Commonly Misquoted Verse from the Bible


"Money is the root of all evil" ...do you see what is missing? The words "the love of ..." and the context. Read on ...


1 Timothy 6:9-11

"People who long to be rich fall into temptation and are trapped by many foolish and harmful desires that plunge them into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. And some people, craving money, have wandered from the true faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows. But you, Timothy, are a man of God; so run from all these evil things. Pursue righteousness and a godly life…" (Emphasis added.)


One may have the impression that money is always bad. It’s not.

Avoiding Problems Later


In the image above, it may very well be obvious she only desires to purchase a new pair of pants for her sweetie ... kidding, of course, well .... on the other hand, she may want to buy herself ... I am sorry; I digress. The bottom line is that secret spending is out of the question in any marriage.


Of course, for a person to have to report to his or her spouse each penny or dime that is spent, is a bit ridiculous. Therefore, it is good for the couple to determine an amount that they each receive every month that each can spend at their own discretion. This is money that does not have to be accounted for to each other, so that one person is not asking the other one for money every time they want to purchase something or go out to lunch with a friend. If the person wants to spend it all that month then he or she is free to do so. If a spouse wants to save it all and purchase an expensive item in the future, again, that is fine.


It is helpful for couples to determine what amount of money needs the approval of both people before it is spent. For instance, couples can agree that they will not purchase something that costs more than $100, or whatever limit they set, without first discussing it with their spouse.


Deciding these things ahead of time, before faced with financial decisions, will help couples avoid problems later. Once a couple is in agreement on how they are to handle their money, the issue of money then becomes a whole lot easier. There will not be as many conflicts.


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Time to Celebrate

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Romance Does not Have to Cost A Lot

  • Watching the sunset together.
  • Volunteering somewhere together. It will be quality time spent together while helping others. How cool!
  • Feel like children again while flying kites together in the fresh air.
  • Go for a nice drive together, with your favorite tunes playing and ride off into the sunset.
  • Taking a walk together holding hands, and do not forget your dog or pet.
  • Watching your favorite movie together at home, snuggling under the blanket.
  • Spending a lazy afternoon together in a hammock under the beautiful blue skies, talking, reading and listening to the birds chirping.
  • In our small town, we have free movie night on Friday nights in the spring and fall. Just bring a blanket or lawn chairs and enjoy the cooler night air together.
  • On those brisk Autumn nights, have a bonfire, complete with marshmallows for roasting and add chocolate squares and graham crackers to make delicious s'mores.
  • Go on a second “first date” … Get dressed up, drive separately, and pretend you have just met. Hold hands. Ask questions awkwardly. Get butterflies.

Finally ...Time to Celebrate Together!


After all of your hard work together as a couple in working through matters related to money and, when the benefits of such are beginning to be seen, it is so important to take time out to celebrate together when you reach a milestone such as paying off one debt.


Back in the day, my husband and I always enjoyed going to concerts together (rock concerts then), and believe me, we saw many of the great bands of the day. Of course, the ticket prices were not as insane as they are today!


Nowadays, we enjoy the comforts of sitting at home watching a live concert streamed to our television ... boy, we are getting old for sure now!


I am sure most couples experience set backs as relates to money matters no matter how long they have been married. My husband and I certainly do, and we need to set a date each week to begin to go on this most un-romantic money date night ourselves!


Watching a Sunset is Romantic and Free

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File: Couple 01.jpg Author: murmasa CC-BY-SA-3.0 3 May, 2008 | Source

Grand Funk Railroad Ticket Stub

Grand Funk Railroad ticket from a concert in Tampa, Florida on November 11, 1981.
Grand Funk Railroad ticket from a concert in Tampa, Florida on November 11, 1981. | Source

Going to a Concert was Our Thing back in the Day


I am reminded of one time way back when my husband and I went to a Grand Funk Railroad concert on November 11, 1981, in Tampa, Florida. I do not know how many of you remember that band, but I loved their song, "Some Kind of Wonderful." That was the same year the band released Grand Funk Lives.


Anyway, in thinking back of that time, I decided to go to YouTube, where I found an amazing remake of "Some Kind of Wonderful" by Mark Farner, one of the lead singers of Grand Funk Railroad, who became a Christian. I really got a kick out of this new version here, and I hope you enjoy it too. I still love the original version; however, this new version seems to work well here, as you will see if you watch and listen to the video. Please enjoy!


I Don't Need a Whole Lot of Money ...

I Am Mindful of the Following Scripture

Matthew 6:19-21

“Do not store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.(Emphasis added.)

Keeping Priorities in Check


It is easy to fall into the trap of storing up your treasure here on earth, especially with the pressures of today’s world. Again, keeping our priorities in check is a must.


The next time you are trying to decide between buying something you do not really need, like new clothes or a fancy new car, or better yet, giving your money back to God or to someone in desperate need, think of this verse.


Store up your treasures in heaven, not here on earth. Moths eat clothes. Rust destroys cars.


Treasure in Heaven is everlasting.


© Copyright Faith Reaper, October 14, 2013

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      Rayne123 3 years ago

      HI faith

      I think this is a fabulous idea, so many couples argue over money, why not get together and discuss it openly and honestly and have fun with it.

      I think that every couple (according to ones finances and family life) should also have one night where they go and just buy whatever they want with a set limit and laugh and play while doing so.

      Take turns pushing the cart, go grocery shopping together and each one throw something different and unusual in the cart.

      Life is too fast and we need to see it with an open mind.

      Your hub is very well written and very informative.

      Blessings

      Laurie

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      Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Faith,

      I kinda had a feeling this is where you were going when I saw the title.

      I wish we had done this consistently as a young couple but we surely do now, 26 years down the pike. I can relate to so much in this, dear friend...especially all the wonderful (reasonable ) concerts we went to in the 80s and 90s.

      Beatuful work ...Voted UP and UABI. Love, Maria

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      What a clever introduction, Faith! You had me hooked as I tried to figure out what in the world you were talking about. LOL Well done! As for the message...it is vital that communication be open and honest about finances....remove the mystery and doubt and life is much easier on both members of the marriage.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Marvelous, Just Marvelous, My dear my sweet my Faith complete. As soon as I build some bigger barns to store all my harvest. I will find the time to do this. That is if I can get her to pay for the dinner. LoL

      This is really just a great idea.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Laurie (Rayne),

      Thank you so much for reading! Sadly, finances are the number one reason for divorce, when it could all be avoided, if the couple would just take time out together to go over the budget, well, actually have a budget and then go from there. It is so vital to the marriage that all are on the same page when it comes to money matters.

      Yes, discussing such matters does not have to be a stressful time, but discussed in love, makes all the difference when the couple has the same goals for their marriage in mind.

      Thank you for your comments!

      Hugs and blessings to you. Have a great rest of the week.

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Maria,

      So great to see you here this day reading, as always! Yes, I sure wish we had too ... a good long time ago. Well, it is never too late to start, but the sooner the better for all concerned.

      Lol, yes, those were the good days of the more reasonable concert tickets for sure! We went to every rock concert back then from the Rolling Stones, Heart, Genesis, Foreigner, Tom Petty, Nazareth, Journey, REO Speedwagon, even Alice Cooper (yikes), Aerosmith, Blue Oyster Cult, Rush, Joan Jett, Electric Light Orchestra, Van Halen, Stevie Nicks, Eddie Money, Robert Plant, Don Henley, Chicago/Doobie Brothers, Styx, .38 Special and Eric Clapton ...woo hoo and many more ...too many to list ... lol, yes, Faith Reaper enjoyed the 80s and 90s and beyond a bit too much and I am glad the Lord's mercies are new each and ever morn : ) and I am still here to talk about those days. Hey, we even went to an all-day rock concert in Lakeland, FL, where the ticket was $6.00 ...oops telling my age now! Now, hence, the need to stream concerts in the comfort of our own home. hehehe

      I am glad you can relate too, makes me fell much better! I appreciate your generous comments.

      Have a great rest of the week sweet friend, and I appreciate the vote up.

      Love, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Bill,

      LOL, I am so thrilled that my introduction had you hooked. See there, I have been reading your hubs and taking them to heart. Thank you for such generous comments, especially coming from you; I know I must have done something right here in this one!

      Yes, communication is key, especially in the area of money issues in marriage.

      Have a great rest of the week.

      Blessings,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Aw Dear Eric, you are so kind to me. I know the harvest is coming for you dear Eric, so start preparing to build those bigger barns. hehehe I understand about how hard it must be to get her to pay for that dinner LOL

      Yes, it is always in the best interest of couples to discuss such, even though no matter how un-romantic it may be to do so.

      Hugs and blessings to you always,

      Faith Reaper

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      This is good and leave the rest of the week free for everything else! There would no doubt be fewer money problems and marital problems if this were practiced and since most people live from week to week (payday to payday) maybe it should be done the night before payday, lol.

      Actually when I saw this in email and clicked on it I was hurrying since I had missed it all evening and I thought it said Monday Date Night, lol, I was really wanting see what you had to say there! Since it is Monday! HAHAHA

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Jackie,

      Yes, depending upon the specific night of the week that the money date night is scheduled. LOL

      Yes, sadly, far too many marriages end in divorce due to money problems, when it just does not have to be, if each spouse is agreeable to setting up a budget and talking about money at least at some point and once a week seems reasonable. You are so right about that payday to payday lifestyle, which gets old fast!

      Hahaha, well, in that case it, Monday Date Night, I guess would be, especially this time of year, Monday night football night! LOL

      Have a great rest of the week dear friend.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Joanna Chandler 3 years ago from On planet Earth

      Well written Faithreaper :). I believe every Husband should give their wife an allowance more so if she isn't working everyone needs their own money and yes the finances should be disgust as to how the bills are paid etc. Interesting Hub.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Jo (LadyFiddler),

      Thank you so much for reading. Yes, indeed, matters not if the wife works or not, you are so right about that, as that is so important. It is also important to sit down together as a couple, no matter who is making the money, and talk about finances and life goals together.

      God bless. Hope you have a great rest of the week sweet lady,

      Faith Reaper

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Oh gee, I forgot about Monday Night Football, no bill talking that night, more like tailgate night. (Gee, what was that?) Hey when did I go back up to an 8 wow, that robot must know more about how hard I work than I thought. Had you noticed? Just went back up to read my last message and saw that 8! Whoopie!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      LOL, no bill taking on Monday Night Football that is for sure, for those who watch it!

      Ah, yes, surely he knows how hard you work! Whoopie indeed!

      Hugs and smiles,

      Faith Reaper

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      Romeos Quill 3 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      My 'ol mum and dad were married for over forty years and he still used to keep his Post Office Savings book stuffed under his matress haha! Way to go pops : ) I love reading your Hubs Faith, and the blue sections are always interesting to read, adding a couple more suggestions to ideas already honed. ( And that guy in the pink jeans deserves to have his cash card felt, just for wearing pink jeans lol! ).

      I hope you are well, and reckon that all couples should have some kind of little ' slush fund ' for nights out and such like.

      Great Hub article!

      Warmest Regards,

      R.Q.

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. Arlene and I learned to live beyond money. Amor has the gift, but she hasn't discovered it... yet.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Romeos,

      Well, I see two of HP Town's most romantic poets have graced my hub space, only to read about the most "un-romantic money date night" LOL, which I am sure was thrilling to read hehehe. That is too cute about your dad and his savings book stuffed under the mattress hahaha. Thank you for sharing that ... yes, he did good for himself! I am glad you love reading the blue sections, and that one about romance is more in tune with you as you are such the romantic one. Yes, the guy with those jeans, really does need to have his card used in loved so that his sweetie can buy him something new to wear for sure. : )

      Well, no matter how "un-romantic" it may be, all couples do need to have a budget and talk about such money issues, as to prevent any future problems down the road.

      Yes, thank you for asking, I am well. As always, thank you for adding your special flare in commenting to add to the subject of this hub.

      Blessings to you and from reading your last poem, I hope your suffering is not prolonged. I just know that true love will find you and soon. We all deserved to know of a love that is true indeed.

      I hope the rest of your week is much better for you, day-by-day, I pray.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Mh,

      As I was telling Romeos up there, it seems two of HP Town's most romantic poets have graced my hub space overnight, only to read about the most "un-romantic" date night ever. lol

      Many couples do live beyond their means as relates to money, if that is what you are saying. However, I do hope you are saying you saw past money and learned to love despite how much or how little money you had. Alas, though, ....aw, I am sorry dear, Mh.

      Well, seems the two most romantic poets around, who deserve true love and romance, may need to be blessed more so in the area of love and romance at this time, unless I am reading something into something that is not the case. I pray this is not the case.

      Mh, you have been in my thoughts and prayers each night, and I pray your physical health is recovering each day and hope the doctors know what is going on by now.

      Hugs and blessings to you. God bless, Faith Reaper

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Especially since money is a key conflict area between spouses, this is such a good idea. Establishing a regular date night rather than just getting together to hash it out when the bills are late keeps things positive, keeps the conversation flowing and allows the couple to track progress. While others have tossed the idea out there, I've personally never seen this approached from a Christian perspective so big kudos for your creativity! Well done!

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      ocfireflies 3 years ago from North Carolina

      Faith,

      This hub, like all of your other hubs reveal the kind of wisdom so much needed today. Loved the song, too. Thank you for always thinking of others and ways to help keep others together. You are truly an inspiration.

      Blessings to you my friend,

      Kim

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Great article! Sound, sensible and relevant. Very important counsel to help the marriage stay financially sound and happy. Voted Up and Sharing!

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Great hub, Faith! And a very important subject! May be people avoid talking about money because they are afraid of their financial situation and what they don't know will not hurt them.... and it's the contrary! Being in control of the financial situation will give any couple more strength. So many people divorce because of financial problems!

      Thanks for sharing your wise thoughts about this important subject!

      Have a great week!

      Voted up, very useful and interesting!

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      Awesome advice Faith! We've had a rough two years. My son was diagnosed with Autism and I have had multiple surgeries. Insurance doesn't pay for everything. Talk about tension! Oh, boy! Do we ever have our share of financial stressors. But through it all, we've kept it in prayer. We've cut back on things we don't need and we try to keep it all in perspective. Like you say, store up your treasures in Heaven! Well-done.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Flourish,

      Just grabbing a bite for lunch and checking in here. Wow, I appreciate your insight you have stated in your commenting, which adds much to the subject of this hub here. Yes, much better than hashing it out for sure, when all can be on the same page week-after- week to prevent such overblown arguments about money in the future. I appreciate your wonderful and enthusiastic comments as always!

      Hugs and blessings to you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Aw, well thank you so much sweet Kim! So are always so kind and most generous in your commenting. I do hope that couples can get together without so much strife when it comes to money matters, as life is too short for all of that for sure. Then they can get down to the good stuff in the marriage as far as spending time together as they should in harmony and love. I am glad you enjoyed that remake of that old song. I know the original and maybe even the remake was done way before your time!

      You are such a joy and I am glad to have meet you here in HP Town!

      Blessings to you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi MsDora,

      Always so great to see you stopping by to read and leave your valuable input, especially here, as to this subject of money and marriage!

      I do so appreciate the vote up and share.

      Have a blessed day,

      Faith Reaper

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      Diana L Pierce 3 years ago from Potter County, Pa.

      This is great advice. Believe me, it is no picnic to be the only one to worry about the finances and how much juggling needs to be done. My husband always put his check in the bank for the bills and I bought the groceries and other essentials with my check. If there wasn't money enough to pay all the bills due, I borrowed from Peter to pay Paul until Peter was screaming loudly at me. Thank God those days are behind me. I sincerely hope the young couples out there think about putting your idea to work for them. Voted up.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Joelle,

      Always so lovely to see you stopping by to read and leaving such great comments to add much to the subject of this hub here!

      I appreciate your wise thoughts on the subject.

      Thank you for the votes up.

      Have a great week too,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, Dear Crafty,

      Bless your heart. You have certainly have had a time here of late. I am keeping you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. I am glad you are praying and He will work it all out for good, although it may not seem like it at the moment precious heart. Yes, storing up our treasures in Heaven, where it counts indeed!

      God bless you and yours always,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Diana Lee,

      So nice to meet you and thank you for reading. I appreciate your insight here which truly adds much to the subject of this hub. I do remember those days myself, believe me! Yes, it is my prayer that young married couples may read and take this to heart. I wished we had learned to do so when we were first married, would have saved a ton of headaches for sure. However, we are still married and still not perfect by any means.

      I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and voting up.

      God bless you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

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      Romeos Quill 3 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Dear Faith,

      As an addendum to your awesome Hub, it seems as though the financial priorities of courting couples compared to marriage partners, changes.

      Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I believe that as a date, the man should pay for everything; the only time I'd want to see my lady put her hand in her pocket is when she's reaching for a handkerchief to dab the excess caviar from the corners of her mouth ( or the barbecue sauce from a Mc Heart attack and fries, depending on the woman ;)

      Man isn't always the breadwinner these days, as you allude to, but it seems fair to split everything down the middle in a marriage - if the two are one flesh then truly, how can one really be witholding or giving too much, for that matter?

      Have a lovely evening Faith, and thank you so much precious one.

      R.Q.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello again my dear debonair friend, Romeos,

      Your addendum is most welcome here, for I agree completely!!! If I were a single woman and a man asked me out on a date, then I would not expect to pay one cent for such a date, which I know many women nowadays may disagree with me, and that is just fine. I am a bit old-fashioned myself. I never once paid for my half of any date, for it was he who asked me to go on such dates, and not the other way around. You have brought the smiles with your dining choices there ...lol.

      Here, I am writing about couples in a serious relationship who are contemplating marriage, as in being engaged, or those who are already married. It is best as you say so beautifully, "if the two are one flesh" then together means together in everything, having the same goals and dreams to realize together.

      Now, due to so many divorces and remarriages, then that is another whole issue, for the newly married couple may have already raised a family with the other spouse and have all of their assets tied into the children receiving whatever after their demise. In addition, they may have inherited money or property or whatever from their parents, and in such cases, it may not be feasible to pool the money in these older years of remarriage maybe after the first spouse has passed on, etc.

      I am so pleased that you feel well enough to grace my hub space with your presence. I have been keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for such pain in your heart. This night, I am dedicating my poem about broken hearts that I have highlighted on my page to you. Maybe some the words in my poem will be a salve to your wounded heart.

      Hugs,

      Faith Reaper

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a great hub, Faith! It's filled with wonderful and very useful advice for couples. I suspect that many money problems could be avoided if a couple followed your suggestions.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Alicia,

      Thank you so much for stopping by to read here this night. Yes, many problems indeed, I would suspect could be avoided. Money seems to be such a sensitive issue for a lot of couples, when it really does not have to be for couples should discuss such matters a mature adults and set up a budget and stick to it. Life is not over with a budget, but could be the beginning of a more fulfilling life when we are wise stewards of our money, no matter how much or little we have, as discussed here.

      Have a great night,

      Faith Reaper

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Why Should All Couples Have a Money Date Night?, so true and money is always an issue in a relationship often repeated in new relationships. You have created a great idea here and definitely needs to be put into use. A useful, and well informed hub on this topic. Voted up, useful, and interesting also shared on Facebook

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      Genna East 3 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      If I could somehow bookmark this in every couple's computer, I would, Faith. Excellent, sage words of advice. Voted up and shared. :-)

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Awesome article especially for those who are going through financial difficulty or arguing over finances. Fight about money are so common, so this is a great idea to talk civilly about it instead of having a screaming match. Great job!

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      Romeos Quill 3 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Dear Faith,

      Thank you for that dedication last night of your beautiful poem, which I remember commenting on about three months ago. You're such a fine woman.

      In regards to your very useful Hub article, I thought you were applying your principles and practical help to Christian couples exclusively, so that is why I commented as I did. Divorce through unfaithfulness can create financial problems for the afflicted, Christian and non-Christian, who wants to move on into a fresh relationship, as court decisions are often arbitrary, and do not always administer true justice in the way in which a Christian would expect, seeing as they are still having to deal with the world in such matters, as you know.

      It would be good if wealth could be administered according to need, using the example set up by the early church ( open accountancy ), most notably when the community wealth was laid at the Apostle Peter's feet, and given according to need ( not surprising, especially after the Judas Iscariot debacle ). Some communities do this, but understand that it is not for everyone; after all, it is about exercising freedom, which includes matters of personal finance, but I can see that it would reduce a lot of fiscal anxiety, and no one would miss out, seeing as young widows are encouraged to re-marry, and the older widows' needs are sufficiently met.

      Just a few thoughts, with some cross-over to your article.

      I hope you doing well today, and again, many thanks for you're always kind and thoughtful actions.

      You're such an amazing example for all younger women to follow, as you are a hard act to beat.

      You're the best.

      R.Q.

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      drbj and sherry 3 years ago from south Florida

      I wasn't quite sure where you were going with that Hub title, Faith, but I remained faithful to your image and read every single word. You are so right. Financial planning may not be romantic but it IS essential. I like the idea of a money date night.

      My hubby and I also shared decision-making. He let me make all the small decisions like how much to pay for that new home or that new car, and I let him make all the big decisions like should the U.S. support Egypt now after that military coup, etc., etc. :)

      Voted up, BTW.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Devika,

      Thank you so much for reading. I appreciate your insight and the wonderful comments you have left to add to the subject of this hub here.

      Thank you for the votes up and share!

      God bless. Have a great day,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, Dear Genna, you are the best! It is my hope that couples do take this to heart and begin that money date night each week, to reap all of the benefits as discussed here.

      Thank you for the vote up and share sweet lady.

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Liz,

      Always so great to see you here reading! Yes, fighting about money issues gets old fast, when it certainly does not have to be the case, if the couple would simply create a budget together and talked about finances together. Together, is key! I appreciate your comments.

      Blessings to you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Well, hello there again dear Romeos!

      I just love and welcome your 'just a few thoughts, with some cross-over to your article" here! Wow, you could have written a hub from your comments, which are so insightful and add much to the subject at hand. Thank you for taking the time to further comment here. I am always blessed when you grace my hub space with your presence and most notable knowledge on many topics indeed.

      I realized you had read my poem before, after I suggested, but alas, I just wanted to provide your heart a bit of comforting words during your difficult time here of late.

      No ... you're the best! : ) Well, there seem to be a lot of "bests" around here ... and what a blessing they all are indeed.

      Hugs,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Ah drbj,

      I just love you so much! You bring so much insight and many smiles each time you stop by to read and comment, and I thank you for being you! You know you really do have a gift and I am thankful you share it here with us all, blessing many, please know!

      hehehe, yes, that title does make one wonder a bit ... Thank you so much for remaining faithful and reading every word and agreeing! LOl, dear drbj, I believe you won out there on his allowing you to make the "small" decisions! hehehe

      You certainly deserve your Funniest Hubber Hubbie award, which I voted for you!

      I appreciate the vote up.

      Keep bringing the smiles and laughs precious heart, Faith Reaper

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi Faith, this is such a good idea, and one that all couples should implement, there is nothing worse than not knowing what money comes in or goes out, who pays what, and who has forgotten something. its so important to keep on top of it, loved it! voted up and shared! nell

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      Meg Moon 3 years ago from United Kingdom

      Great idea- although I think a plain old date night would be more fun lol

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      wetnosedogs 3 years ago from Alabama

      Great hub on money and not having to be romantic about it - LOL.

      This is really a hub to have to grow on in a married life.

      Great work.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Nell,

      Thank you so much for reading. Yes, it certainly makes life much more bearable and then after the budget time is over, the romance time can happen without any tension and ease, hopefully! I appreciate the vote up.

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Meg Moon,

      So nice to meet you! Yes, it certainly would be a lot of fun after the budget time is over and then the fun can truly begin, once it is known just what is what as far as finances. It is very important for all couples to set a date, as you suggest, especially when there are little ones at home, to get away and just be together and have that alone time as a couple for sure!

      All of the suggestions here at the end of this hub are fun dates, as you speak of, and really do not cost much money at all, if any, and are all certainly romantic.

      It lessens the tension in a marriage or serious relationship when there are no money-related problems hindering the happiness of the relationship. Together is always betters in all areas, especially discussing financial matters. I appreciate you stopping by to read and comment.

      Have a great weekend,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi wetnose!

      So great to see you stopping by to read. Yes, the sooner the couple establishes a budget and discusses all financial matters together, the better the relationship all around, and then time for the real romance!

      Hugs to you and all of the wetnoses this evening and we know how important it is to have the treats for the wetnoses figured into the budget!

      Faith Reaper

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      Frank Atanacio 3 years ago from Shelton

      Faith i don't know how I missed this one maybe been out of the loop..but first what another great idea for a hub and secondly the young couples today will gain a great deal from this article/hub useful and as always faithfully written

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      Madeleine Salin 3 years ago from Finland

      Very interesting! It would be very hard for me to have a money date night, even if it sounds very interesting and important. My spouse and me never argue about money. He buys things he needs and I buy things I need. We simply don't spend money on things we don't need, and that seems to be working, as long as we both have a job. I really liked this hub, though. :)

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Frank,

      Oh, I know I threw you off by publishing too close together lol. Yes, if the younger couples put this into practice right from the start, they will have a lifetime of less stress and more harmony. Thank you so much as always for reading and leaving generous comments.

      Have a great weekend,

      Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Made,

      So great to see you stopping by to read. That is wonderful to never argue about money and to not spend it on things that are not needed for sure!

      I am glad you liked the hub.

      Have a great weekend,

      Faith Reaper

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Hi Faith I voted up, useful, awesome and interesting! Oh how right you are, and the money date night is a terrific idea! I knew a couple who just kept using their credit cards and did not tell each other...or would write checks and not tell each other. Needless to say, the card bottomed out, and the checkbook was overdrawn. Long story short, ended up filing $75,000 bankruptcy...it was a nightmare. Oh, how I wish I could have even thought of what you share in this terrific hub. COMMUNICATION in a marriage is so vital, ESPECIALLY in the area of finances.

      One must inform the other! AND the money date is a terrific idea.

      So grateful to you and your wonderful hubs that are not only inspirational, but informative and helpful. You also have the gift of diplomacy. You continue to be a wonderful treasure not only on Hub Pages, but to me as well. GOD BLESS YOU REAL GOOD. Sparklea :)

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Sparklea!!!

      Always such a blessing to me when you are able to stop by to read and leave your enthusiastic comments. Oh yes...I sure can relate to all of what you have stated here. Live and learn as my sweet mother would say, but alas when we are younger sometimes we do have to learn things the hard way. I do hope and pray all who read will get something out of this hub, especially the younger couples for they can save themselves a lot of years of headaches and enjoy more peace when it comes to finances.

      Thank you for being the wonderful person and dear friend you are in this life, not only to me but to all who know you...I am sure! I tried to comment earlier via my phone, but it messed up and I could not fix it in time, so I had to start over ... LOL

      God bless you real good too. Have a lovely weekend and give Frodo a gentle and loving hug from me.

      Faith Reaper

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      Few things break up a marriage as fiercely as money problems. Your tips are quite helpful for couples to follow. My husband and I get paid once a month, so we don't have weekly meetings, but we do come together once a month to discuss finances. We each have a maximum amount of money that we allow the other to spend without having to have a full blown out conversation over it. It's not freedom to spend money willy nilly, but that policy is in place so that we don't have to get on the phone and call each other to buy a pack of gum or other small items. Other than that, we talk about all spending because it all affects our household's bottom line.

      I'm really enjoying your hubs about how to keep love and romance in the marriage. This one is especially helpful.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Marlene,

      Always great to see you stopping by to read. Wow, you and your husband have a great understanding when it comes to money matters. Thank you for sharing here, for your comments certainly add much to this subject here. Yes, it is so important to talk about it at some point to be effective and each couple should determine how often is best for them as a couple.

      I am glad you have been enjoying these hubs of late about keeping love and romance in the marriage and so glad you found this one helpful. Sounds like you and yours already have it together when it comes to finances.

      God bless you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Dear Faith, this is excellent advice for all couples. This content should be a topic for all couples before they enter marriage. Wonderful and voted up++. God bless you, sweet lady.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear teaches,

      Always a blessing when you stop by to read! I appreciate your insight into this topic here and generous comment. Thank you for the vote up.

      Hope you have a lovely rest of the day on this beautiful Sunday.

      God bless you too precious heart,

      Faith Reaper

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      Richard Ricky Hale 3 years ago from West Virginia

      Faith, amazing article and spot on! Voted up, all the way across, liked on Facebook. Loved your Pink Floyd reference :) You're absolutely right. I never knew that money was mentioned in the Bible that many times, who would have thought? No matter what situation your in, money matters and will always matter. I've been married for nearly 10 years and it takes us both working. In fact, if it wasn't for me working online, we'd barely make it. Marriage always needs compromise and money is included. Very wise words as always, great advice, and even inspirational. Just to know that God does care about our finances is inspirational. I've been on both spectrums, homeless to having anything that I want. Money troubles can cause the strongest marriage to become weak. Amazing work Faith!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear lyric,

      I am always blessed when you stop by to read and leave amazing comments to add much to the subject matter of the hubs you are reading, especially this one.

      Yes, no matter how little or much we have, God expects us to be wise stewards of our money and remember to store up our treasures in heaven and not on earth. Thank you for sharing here precious heart.

      Also, thank you for sharing your awesome prayer request about little Gabe, and please know he is being prayed for as well as his family. You have a heart of love for all.

      God bless you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Very nicely done. I have given money to a couple of friends to do things with recently. We really do need to learn to take care of each other again like we used to do in the old days when life was simpler.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Deb,

      Always so nice to see you stopping by to read! Thank you so much for your kind and insightful comments. Oh, yes, you have made a true statement there about learning to take care of each other again, like we used to do in the old days when life was much simpler! Very profound statement there sweet friend!

      Hugs to you and all the beautiful life on Boomer Lake,

      Faith Reaper

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      Joseph De Cross 3 years ago

      What can I add, when all has been said. You wrote a on very important topic. Media our society make us expend more than we can afford. Just a quick example: Halloween is coming... so we are pushed to match the neighbors' front yard state-of-the-art cemetery. Forget about Christmas, we live in a consumer's society, away from God. So many get divorced at a young age, and marriages stay together for convenience and not for real love. Your hub open new horizons for many couples, and I applaud your efforts Faith!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Joseph,

      Always so great to see you stopping by to read! Wow, thank you so much for leaving such an awesome comment which adds much to the subject of this hub here! Yes, excellent points you have made dear friend. You are so right about those marriages of convenience, which is sad, for it does not have to be the case!

      Bless you for your most kind and generous comments here this day!

      In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

      Faith, in our culture, the husband has to contribute to the family expenses even if the wife is earning. Some liberal people work together to run the family, however, traditionalist women leave financial matters for husbands.

      For unmarried couple, it is the man who has to bear the cost of making his girlfriend happy.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Hi, Faith Reaper! Miss you! Your hubs are always so uplifting and positive, very thought-provoking. I agree with these thoughts of yours. It is definitely not an ideal situation within a marriage when one partner makes money a status symbol for power control. Building and maintaining a life together should be team work. Many strengths and weaknesses are brought together, but one strength as a couple should be discussing money, as it effects most everything other part of life in some way or another.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Vinaya,

      Always so great to see you stopping by to read. Thank you so much for sharing your culture as relates to this issue of money and marriage and those in a relationship!

      Yes, God tells us that the man is to provide for his family, and the woman is his helpmate, and she is to see to the affairs of the household, and use her gifts to contribute in helping her spouse. They are both equal in being, but have different roles. (Some men will attempt to abuse and twist this part of scripture to abuse his wife ... when it is, His Word tells us, that it is a Godly man/husband who his spouse is to respect.)

      Yes, way back when I was single : ) ... if the man asked me on a date, then I had no thoughts of paying for anything, especially if it was considered a date. Now, if a friend and I decided to go to a movie together, or go do something together, that is a different scenario.

      I love it, as you state, "... it is the man who has to 'bear' the cost of making his girlfriend happy." Yes ... please keep them happy ... and I can imagine, with some girlfriends ... it may cost much more to keep happy than others : )

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Shan!

      So lovely when you are able to stop in for a visit here! Miss you too!

      Thank you for your insight and thoughts as to the message of this hub, which add much to the subject of this hub. Yes, all should be open and discussed together as a couple and their life goals, to include money.

      I pray you and your family are well. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

      Hugs and love,

      Faith Reaper

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      Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

      What a great hub and filled with sound advice, Faith. My gosh, the divorce statistics rate finances as one of the prominent reasons for marriages breaking. UP/A/U/I and sharing.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Denise,

      Thank you so much for reading. I appreciate you kind comments. Yes, my prayer is that many will read and take this to heart, for it is so very sad for a marriage to end over finances.

      Thank you for the votes up and sharing

      Hugs, Faith Reaper

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      Stephanie Marie Severson 3 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Thanks. I need to do this with my husband.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Stephanie (StephSev108),

      So nice to meet you! I am so sorry for missing your comment here from .... wow, 12 days ago! Oh, my goodness, please forgive my oversight, as it was not intentional!

      Thank you so much for reading. I do hope you and your husband do set that money date night at least once a week, and then do not forget about the other fun date nights too!

      It truly makes sense for a couple to sit down together at be on the same page when it comes to financial matters. Then there are no surprises on either side about what money is going out and what money is coming in.

      Again, thank you so much for your comment and reading.

      Blessings to you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

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      Chris Mills 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO until the end of June, 2017

      Faith, My wife and I did this very thing through most of our marriage. It became a very special part of our life together. Not all of our decisions were wise, but I'm sure we avoided more trouble than we got into. This is a very fine hub. I hope others take your suggestions to heart and begin a weekly Money Date. Yes, the guy in the photo does need a new pair of pants. No question.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi cam, Thank is so great do did this very thing through most of your marriage and that practicing this has avoided a lot of trouble. I am glad you have shared this and it has become a special part of your life together. Thank you for the great comments and I do hope, too, that others do take these suggestion to heart. Lol on the guy who needs new pants for sure in the photo! Have a great weekend and keep making that weekly Money Date! Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Chris Mills 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO until the end of June, 2017

      Faith, I should have added a little more to my comment. We kept those dates throughout our marriage. Sandy passed away in April 2008. Lots of great memories.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, dear cam, I am so sorry for your great loss. Sounds like you had a wonderful marriage and life together.

      Hugs and much love to you,

      Faith Reaper

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      Chris Mills 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO until the end of June, 2017

      Faith, thanks for those thoughts. Yes, we had 24 wonderful years together. Not perfect on my part, but nearly flawless on hers.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, cam, I know you cherished those 24 years together. No marriage is perfect, and we all have to work through things as we mature together. I was married young and we are still together. It seems the trials we faced together made our marriage stronger and we grew wiser too.

      Bless you,

      Faith Reaper

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      Chris Mills 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO until the end of June, 2017

      Thank you Faith. Keep up the good writing and bless you as well.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Thank you dear one, you are so kind and I appreciate the generous comments as to my writing.

      Hugs,

      Faith Reaper

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      Steel Engineer 3 years ago from Kiev, Ukraine

      This is a great article. I just this morning finally got my wife to commit to a weekly finance sit-down. What a joy to see this article. For me, very timely! Thanks for the reminder to pray first. We should pray first in all things. Excellent.

      Now, you just need to recommend some good household money management software, and add an Amazon link. Be blessed, Faith!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hello Steel Engineer,

      So nice to meet you. Thank you for the great comment and thinkong this article is great and that you and your wife are now on the same page when it comes to having a weekly finance sit-down, as it is essential to one's marriage and future when both know what is coming in and going out each week. Yes, praying in all things prior to doing anything helps tremendously!!!

      Oh, I am not a techy person, but all I do know is that prayer is the answer in all situations. However, as far as the Amazon link, I just looked at mine and ironically it has a link to computer software on this topic!

      Blessings to you and your wife and for taking positive steps in making that weekly Money Date!

      Faith Reaper

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      Patsy Bell Hobson 3 years ago from zone 6a, SEMO

      This is a new idea to me. Very thought provoking. Great Hub. Thank you,

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Patsy,

      So glad you have stopped by to read! Yes, most likely a new idea for many, but it works! It is so important for a couple to sit down together at least once a week and discuss the finances. They both need to know what monies are coming in and what is going out so that they can understand exactly where their money is going.

      I am glad you thought this to be a great hub.

      Have a lovely rest of the weekend,

      Faith Reaper

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      my hubby never gives me the chance to touch his money!

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Hi peachpurple,

      Hmm, well, he should understand that when you are married and it comes to money, there should not be any his or her money, but our money.

      Maybe you can try to talk to him about it each week and show interest in the budget or if you do not have a budget maybe suggest one.

      Blessings

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