Why Some Men and Women Stay Single
Nowadays, more and more men and women stay single in their late 20’s, 30’s & up. Why? Here are the common reasons why some men and women choose to stay single:
1. Family or parental obligation
Some cannot marry because they feel the need to attend to either one or both sick parent/sibling. Others allocate their time and money to support the education of their younger sibling/s. This involves a certain degree of commitment and some choose to prioritize their family and set aside their personal life.
2. Trauma from Physical/Sexual Abuse
A person who has been a victim of child molestation, rape or abuse would tend to fear physical intimacy.
3. Insecurities from Broken Relationships
Some kissed dating goodbye after a painful breakup/separation. Others choose to be alone rather than be in a relationship full of insecurities.
4. Financial Instability
It’s quite expensive to get married these days, moreover to raise a family. So others choose not to enter into the relationship and be frustrated by not being able to fully support so. Also, it would be too selfish to drag your loved one to poverty.
5. Self-contentment or Gratification from Family, Friends, Hobbies, Career & Other Life Goals
Sometimes when you’re already happy with the people around you and/or satisfied with one’s career, you no longer seek for romantic affiliation. For what has been lacking was filled by other forms of love. Further, you enjoy freedom & independence more than anyone else.
There’s really nothing wrong with staying single/unattached. It's just a matter of choice especially if you find happiness and fulfillment in other things and not relying on someone to be happy.
I believe that you should not depend your happiness on someone else. You should know how to make yourself happy and make others happy. Having someone beside you to love you unconditionally should be like an icing on the cake.
But why do some people ask a single person, "Why are you still single?" with a tone of pity. Why, does it make one a lesser person? Does it make one's life incomplete & miserable? Does it make one uglier & less attractive? Are all married couples happy?
Hell no! As what Princess Diana once said, “People think at the end of the day that a man is the only answer to fulfillment. Actually, a job is better for me”.
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© 2009 Caroline Guillermo