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Why Women Leave Men Who Wear Women's Clothing (Part Two)

Updated on October 16, 2009

This article continues on from Part One, which I advise you read first, unless you take a Tarantino approach to reading, in which case go ahead and read this first.

Problem Three | Maybe It's Not The Panties

If you have a healthy relationship, no woman is going to leave you because you wear panties. If your relationship is plagued with many problems, then wearing panties can become a helpful scapegoat which both parties can use when avoiding the real issues at hand. The female partner declares the man a freak, and the man declares her an intolerant bigot and they go their separate ways.

I must stress this point again. If women are leaving you repeatedly, it is not because of the panties. It may be because of behaviors related to the panties, if you prefer to express a feminine quality and your partner is not attracted to feminine qualities on a basic level, then you may be a poor match for one another. There may also be other issues in the relationship, money issues, trust issues, daddy issues, who knows.


When the 'panty' issue comes up again, examine your relationship for what is really going on. Is she feeling left out? Unloved? (It's easy for women to start feeling unloved, some women, actually, make that most women need daily reassurance in the form of kisses, cuddles and the like to reassure them you are still tight.) Are you worried about money issues? Is one of you undergoing a quarter or mid life crisis. Remember: panties alone will not end a relationship.

Problem Four | Non Consensual Panties

If dressing in female clothing makes you feel vulnerable and passive, there is nothing wrong with that, but some men who wear lingerie for these reasons can end up engaging their partners in a role play that their partners never signed on to, agreed to or are interested in. This problem ties into problem two, identity issues, but takes things to a whole 'nother level. Be honest with yourself, have you found yourself trying to manipluate your partner into treating you in a more feminine way? Have you, without her consent or knowledge, tried to fulfil some panty related desire? Women are not stupid, they know what you're doing and they don't appreciate it.


If you want to play the girl, then talk to your partner about it. If she refuses to play, then respect that. It is very damaging to use your partner like some walking talking toy of carnal delights.


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      passable cd 8 years ago

      My girl friend buys me outfits all the time she enjoys shopping for me. We also go out shopping all the time. Poeple compliment me all the time on how nice i loook.

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      Sis 8 years ago

      Their is nothing wrong with a man that wears womens clothes.

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      Jackie 8 years ago

      Maybe that's why I am still single, but, most of the genetic women I have met in my travels are accepting of it. Hmmmm.

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      highheellover 8 years ago

      its frustrating and baffling to me also i can relate to your story well

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      Erica4U 8 years ago

      I have had a very difficult time finding a woman to accept my persona within the dimension of lingerie while intimately playing. It however, includes dressing up totally with the woman being the "Mentor" in makeup and even eyebrow shaping, lipstick etc. Reinforced heel and toe nylons, bras, panties and heels. Where we both dress and basically just spend a few hours together as "The Girls" and eventually become intimate within the realm of "The Dressing Up" and afterward it is shelved for another time. Now, I was introduced to this scenario by a very attractive woman who had moved to Europe after two episodes and I was completely hooked and have been since! It was 24 years ago! I only experienced it once since then but I am practically possessed by the "Wanting" to find a regular "Mentor!" I have enjoyed wearing feminine items under my male clothing since! It is completely frustrating and baffling to me!

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      iloveps 8 years ago

      these two hubs really have shown some great insight into the world of panty wearing relationships (is that the proper term for this? oh well).

      its really cool that you have this ability to look into the man's problem in the relationship. is this a super power? i think you might have been bitten once by a radioactive panty wearing man just like spiderman was bitten by a radioactive spider..... wow... i am a nerd.