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Why can't women be friends?

Updated on June 5, 2015

Women seem to have issues when it comes to jealously, envy, and all around mean behavior. While not all women display these qualities it seems to be prevalent with women. Why? Why is it that there is a larger propensity for women to be-friend women they envy or do not like but continue to spend time around them developing information on another women. Have you been a victim of this?

Can you pinpoint issues you have had with women and why you feel your friendship went bad? Was it because you found the man of your dreams or received a promotion that paid you more money or do you look significantly better than your friends? The evidence of such issues resulted in the creation of the word frenemies. The urban dictionary defines frenemy as: An enemy disguised as a friend. A person who you treat and whom treats you as a friend but if they are given a chance would "cut your throat" or get one over on you/put themselves first.

Friends, How many of us have them?


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    • peachpurple profile image


      3 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      women are full of jealousy, just like two cats fighting over each other

    • realtalk247 profile imageAUTHOR


      3 years ago

      Dashingscorpio you are right! It's interesting that you said men keep conversation light around their friends because women are always/often asking questions about everything going on in someone else's life. Those women lacking morality who have no self-respect or boundaries are interesting to say the least. I've been told that my single girlfriend "wanted to meet" the guy that mentioned taking me on vacation. Needless to say these type of phrases make it clear that every person around you is not happy for the things you experience. Women, on the whole, talk too much and reveal too much information about men of interest to their friends.

      Shortage will result in more animalistic behavior, true but people ideally should be governed most be morals and the golden rule: do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

      Many women, not all, are jealous and compete with their friends. Many women aren't really friends to other women but have their own agenda with everything and it's sad. Men are capable of having better friends that last a lifetime than women.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      One other quick note women have deeper expectations of their friends than men have. A guy may have a friend he hasn't spoken with in years and still consider him to be his "best friend".

      When they do get together to share a few beers they don't really talk about anything "heavy". It's usually about sports, current events, or something funny they saw or heard. Never does a married man ask his friend for marital advice. There's no crying on each other's shoulders or revealing insecurities.

      Now if the guys are single they'll talk about women they hooked up with the other day or want to hookup with to their friends. However if the woman is their significant other they shut down when it comes to talking about things going on between them.

      Women would consider our "best friends" to be acquaintance level! :)

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      I've known women who have best friends and there are no problems.

      However very few women trust their "acquaintances" and women they barely know around their men or men they are interested in.

      I can't say it's all that different for men either.

      Most men think other guys will try to hit on their woman and no guy wants to come home from work and find another man sitting on his sofa even if he's (his) friend! LOL!

      Reminds me of the O'Jays old "Backstabbers" song. "They smile in your face all the time they want to take your place...." Why do they keep coming when I'm not home?!

      When it comes to women however most of them see themselves has being the "superior gender" when it comes to orchestrating relationship maneuvers.

      A woman sees another woman with a short skirt/dress "up to there" and a plunging low cut top laughing with her man it's not her man she will be angry with as much as that "B" flashing herself to him. LOL!

      Lots of women look at men as being (weak creatures) who are hopelessly guided by their "little heads". The real "chess game" in a woman's mind is outthinking her female competitors!

      Even with over 7 Billion people on this planet and about half are men there is still the belief there's a "shortage" of (good available men).

      Whenever people believe there is a shortage of anything they're not going to be trusting and oftentimes are willing to go to combat if necessary to stake their claim!


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