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Putting the toilet seat down. Why do men refuse?

Updated on February 10, 2013
Please remember your toilet manners men!
Please remember your toilet manners men!

I'll Never Understand It

 Men and a toilet seat. It's a relationship I'll never understand. Take my husband for example. His theory goes a little something like this "If I have to do the work to put the seat up, then you should have to do the work and put the seat down when you need to use it"

Ok point taken. But one thing I'll never understand (partly because I'm not a man, nor do I pee standing up) is the need for the toilet seat to be up. I mean is the hole of the toliet seat really that small that they need that extra few inches to take a whizz? I understand the whole trickle effect. So just clean up after themselves maybe? Could someone (a man preferably) please help me to understand what it is that makes you have to have the seat up in the first place?

It usually isn't such a big deal to me. Actually never really was an issue either. But then again I've grown up around all girls. I have 13 sisters. So no matter what the toilet seat was always in the down position. My dad and mom had a completely sepearate bathroom, so I never had to experience using a toilet after a man until I went out on my own. But the only time I ever had an issue with the toilet seat being up was just last week. I was groggy, not thinking about where I was going, just knew I needed to make it to the bathroom and fast. I had taken a sleeping pill, so my focus was just getting the deed done and getting back into bed. I'm sure you women get where I'm coming from. Up to this point I've kept the peace about the toilet seat. The the resounding "theory" ringing in my ears. I usually just grab a few pieces of toilet paper and put the seat down. Then go for the hand sanitizer. But on this particular night I wasn't thinking. I didn't even bother to turn the bathroom light on. I knew where I was going. I get ready to sit and PLOP! No warning no nothing. There was no seat there. Needless to say I was awake in a hurry and NOT happy. Yes you may be laughing your tails off on this one. But I was fuming. And he was sleeping soundly in the bed. I got back up not saying a word, finished my deed and hopped in the shower. Talk about feeling gross!

So men, I get where you are coming from when you put the seat up. In retrospect you are inadverantly keeping the peace with no lingering after maths of your urine on the seat for us ladies, and for that we thank you. But when it comes to times when we are unable to process what is around us and not take a look before we sit, maybe you should rethink your leaving the toilet seat up which also could be out of common courtesy for us.



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      5 years ago

      I don't understand why women think they are entitled to say which way the toilet seat goes. They are only one half of people who use the can. Not many of us close the lid of it either, so why do women keep complaining about the seat being up all the time? Toilet paper AND hand-sanitiser after lowering the seat? Seriously? Another little bit: The average kitchen table top has more germs on it than the toilet seat. Healthy urine is sterile and not many people poop on the rim. No need to fuss about it.

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      How to hubs 

      5 years ago

      That photo is hilarious!

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      6 years ago

      Would you want to site bare-cheeked on a set which some guy had previously urinated on? Exactly. Thus, the seat goes up so if a mess does occur, no one has to sit on it.

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      6 years ago

      If you think about it 3/4 of things done on the toilet the seat needs to be down. Women seat needs to be down for 1 + 2 men needs to be down for #2. So why leave the seat up for 1/4 it just dosent make sense.

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      6 years ago

      ^that's anonymous guy is totally just a female imposter

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      6 years ago

      Im a man and i sit down all the time, i think more men should do it, its cleaner, its more relaxing and it keeps the ladies happy. I love it

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      7 years ago

      Two obvious things:

      1. Having fallen in there and went through all the trouble of cleaning yourself, wasn't much of a nice experience would you say? Would you STILL fall for it the 2ND TIME?

      2. Just look before you sit! Stop daydreaming about random things.

      Easy enough?

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      8 years ago

      Why not reverse it?

      What if, in fact, each time a young lady used the restroom after having done so, they were told to place the seat upright? How would the ladies feel? Likely, something akin to it isn't their responsibility?

      Instead of consistently asking a single party to take sole role of adjusting the seat for use of a uni-sex toilet (almost as if it is a toll for use), why don't both take consideration of the other, by the men putting it down and the women putting it up? That way both would have to take consideration of the other and adjust where need be?

      Would this not equate to an equal partnership plan of attack? That way no one person would be asked to simply consider the other, instead both were asked to consider each other?

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      Martie Coetser 

      8 years ago from South Africa

      Yes, I laughed my tail and a leg off. I think the act of putting the seat down by the one who put it up is called ‘consideration’. Thanks for the laugh.

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      8 years ago from New York State

      You are right I did have to laugh about you falling in the john. But as a man I never have that problem, I always put it down when done out of respect for the wife. Even though we are taught in the Military, the seat has to be in the position of attention, which means lid standing up ready for inspection.


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