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Why people don’t like you: The truth about why people hate you
Why people don’t like you: The truth about why people hate you
If you happen to be a victim of hate or dislike just like every other person with two legs and one head, then I guess you fancy this hub for one thing: the truth and nothing but the truth. You may wonder why people can’t just learn to like and love every other person – come to think of it if everyone ought to like and love what about you, I mean you reading this article, how many people do you like or hate? I guess liking or hating anyone is almost compulsory, I am yet to find anyone who loves everybody and hates nobody.
But that is not why I am here, I want to talk about common reasons for disliking or hating other people such as our friends (some of us do), neighbors, colleagues, in-laws, what have you, you know what I am talking about don’t you?
Good Reasons why people don’t like you
If by chance you discover people don’t like you for any of these reasons, then it’s your fault they don’t like you. You have an attitude problem and really need help. Go and check yourself and make sure you are okay first before trying to make up or live with other decent people.
1. You Brag often
For you the loud mouthed person, you will discover people don’t like you because you can’t help but brag about things that really don’t mean much in terms of how honorable or dignifying you are. You have an expensive car so what! How does that affect the price of beef in the market? Better to disturb yourself and people like you because left to me, your fancy car and the noise you bring with it only disturbs my peace. I’ll rather find time watching television than to listen to your empty boasts so leave me alone and don’t bother me with your expensive stuff or so called achievements. They don’t make you a better person or improve my life in any way.
2. You Talk too much
What can be more annoying than someone who tells people everything, including ugly details of another person’s life? I for one can’t stand people who can’t see beyond their nose when it comes to keeping quiet and talking about only those things that are appropriate and necessary. Must I know what someone did when she was all by herself in the shower? Next time you are around me I’ll be careful to watch my tongue and my back as well.
3. You tell a lot of lies
Bloody liars are everyone’s nightmare including fellow liars. No one, not even liars like to have a liar around them. How am I sure you haven’t lied to me about what you were up to last week at the office when it seemed you where actually trying to nail me with stuff you made up about me? You smile to my face every time but you lie often about almost anything that you have a stake in may be to cover up your mistakes or to take me down. Whatever the case, I don’t feel secure around you and especially don’t like you.
4. You are ill mannered
Do you know how to insult people very well especially with clever sarcastic lines? You are a good candidate for hate. When people talk to you, do you make them feel inferior or unimportant with your bad manners? Do you ignore people, act rashly, flare up and spew poison from your lips? You are on course to being hated.
5. You are selfish
Me myself and I are my best friends mentality for you the selfish type. Have my way at another person’s expense what do I care if they suffer for it. Nobody wants to suffer but your selfishness causes another man to suffer and that is why he doesn’t like you.
6. You are lazy
When working in groups or teams failing to do your part of the team’s work will leave gaps that others have to fill up. That is not nice considering how inconsiderate and troublesome you are coming off as, that reputation will cause others to resent you.
7. You are quarrelsome
You are quick to pick a fight for flimsy reasons, guess who wouldn’t like you? Everyone who sees you immaturity, not only those who have quarreled with before but other people who just realize that you are anything but worthy of being liked.
8. You are condescending
The more you look down on others by your ‘superior’ attitude or superiority complex, the more people will like you less. See all men from their human perspectives and learn to accept them rather than seeing how you can bring them down so as to feel superior.
Bad Reasons for hating people
If on the other hand people don’t like you and you discover it’s for any of the following reasons then you are okay, it is your haters who have issues, they are the ones who need help.
1. You are unique/odd
No two men are alike that is why our finger prints and DNA are different. Likewise our personal attributes and experiences, our goals and destinies. Some of us are very different not like most people, their uniqueness is so obvious that they become odd. Such people may be disliked because they are not understood.
2. You are more successful than most people
Envy and covetousness are signs of a selfish, weak and foolish person. If people hate you for what you have it means you are okay and they are not, they need help. Their insecurity is their curse. Being successful (sometimes wealth is seen as success) is often a reason to hate for fools. If you are successful in your profession or social life and you are hated for that reason then that’s cool.
3. You are honest
An honest man has few friends because frankly speaking not many people want to hear the truth about themselves. Being direct or blunt would mean people will have to express so many emotions and thoughts they would rather keep bottled up, so they may not like you for making them feel so uncomfortable.
4. You aren’t who they want you to be
If people would rather want you to be like them before they like you then sure enough they are at fault. They are only being selfish and arrogant and I don’t see why being liked by people like that should mean anything to you.
So where do you see yourself, if you are liked by people it may be for the wrong reasons that shouldn’t make you feel cool on the other hand if people don’t like you for the wrong reasons, that is really cool. Overall it makes sense for me to be liked for the right reasons but disliked/hated for the wrong reasons, that means I am okay but that doesn’t mean I am perfect I definitely still need to work on myself.