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5 Ways To Keep Your Wife Happy

Updated on August 28, 2008
The international symbol for marriage =P
The international symbol for marriage =P

After the honeymoon is over...

At our wedding, my husband's best friend (the best man) made the toast. During his speech he said, "I work at a hospital and get to meet all kinds of people. One of the things that I've learned from older men when it has to do with marriage is this: 'If your wife's not happy, then NOBODY'S happy.'" Everyone laughed, but every generalization or stereotype has some truth in it, isn't there?

Marriage is definitely challenging and takes a lot of consistent effort, compromise, patience, and considering one another's feelings. Complicated as women are, there are 5 things a husband can remember to keep his wife smiling:

1) Eat dinner together everyday.

With the average husband and wife both having to work full-time, sitting down to have dinner together is probably one of the most important things you can do. And by sitting down for dinner--I mean it! No eating in front of the TV--sit down properly at the table and talk to each other about how your day went. This is a good habit to establish, as studies have shown that families who have dinner together are less likely to have children who get into trouble. And while you're at it, why not take it a step further? Take turns cooking for each other. Ask your wife if there is a particular recipe she'd like to try. Set the table nicely and ask her what she'd like to drink with her meal. She'll do the same for you, and you'll both enjoy it.

2) Keep the romance alive with creative little things.

A sweet note hidden in her purse, a small gift, a quick e-mail or phone call telling her you love her and miss her: all these things can still bring the butterflies in her tummy. How about sending her flowers "just because"? Last week my husband was on business travel, but I got a surprise gift from him every day that he was gone. Each day, he would send me an e-mail with a photo clue of where a gift was hidden. The photos were taken at weird angles so I really had to figure out which part of the house to look in! Each little gift (coffee, iTunes gift card, a book) came with a cute card and sweet words. =) He also told me he was coming home a day later than he actually was, so imagine my surprise when he unexpectedly walked through the door! I couldn't stop smiling the whole week.

3) Learn to communicate well.

The number one source of conflict is lack of or mis-communication! Make an effort to read up on communication skills. If you have a problem listening, try ACTIVE listening, where you repeat back what she just said to you so it helps you absorb the information. If you have a hard time verbalizing what's on your mind, take a minute to think of what to say, or use analogies to better explain your thoughts. When your woman vents about her feelings, just let her--don't judge or lecture her about what to do with whatever it is she's complaining about. Unless she asks specifically for your advice, really, she just needs you to be there to help her process her emotions. Finally, no relationship will work without honesty. As a married couple, there should be complete trust and you should be able to say what you are thinking candidly.

4) Practice thinking for two.

Before you were married, you probably spent a good part of your life thinking just for yourself. Marriage is a union, therefore every decision you make affects her. If you're coming home late, call to let her know so she's not at home worrying where you are. Don't spend money on anything significantly pricey without consulting her first. If you get invited to go somewhere, or want to have friends over to watch the game, check with her first! Also, think of how you feel when you're around your in-laws; chances are she probably gets a bit nervous or self-conscious when she's around your family (especially your mother!), so be considerate to your wife whenever they're around.


5) Never, ever take her for granted.

Not being appreciated is probably one of the worst feelings one can have in a relationship. When you love someone, you go far and beyond to do things for them, and it really sucks when that person is selfish and doesn't say "thank you" or return the favor. A relationship consists of a lot of give-and-take, and there should be times when you reflect on all the things your wife does for you and your life together. My husband and I make it a point to thank each other every time we complete chores or remember to consider each other's feelings before deciding on something. I really love it when he tells me he loves me, he's happy he married me, and that I'm the "best wife in the whole world"! Compromise has a lot to do with the give-and-take, too. I support him on his interests and hobbies, and he appreciates that and returns the favor when I want us to do something that I like.

Obviously marriage can be quite a complicated thing. There will ups and downs, good times and difficult times. Just like any other investment, how much you put into it will determine what you will get out of it. Since marriage is a two-way street, be sure to share these tips with your wife as well!

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      dled 4 years ago

      My wife was never happy with me cause I worked lots and never paid attention to what was going on but now that I read this I'm gonna change things and make her happy

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      matthew 5 years ago

      Thank you for these tips i am going to use every one. Wish me luck

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      sarfraz ahmed 5 years ago

      really very good tips.and so simple way to teach me. . I like this.00966596113939

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      Amy 6 years ago

      My husband could care less if I'm happy !!!!!

      Been married 45 yearsonly had sex once, day after we were married he moved to the basement and is still there. We never talk or see each other, he won't even park his car next to mine. We are just two people who live in the same house but in two different worlds.

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      steve 6 years ago

      you can never keep ya wife happy, trust me married to her for 22 years !

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      Tom 6 years ago

      I echo John's comments. There is nothing like watching your wife get ready to go out by herself on a Saturday night and returning to your bed on Sunday morning. It is amazing. While on vacation, I regularly give me wife her own night out. It is sooo erotic watching her get ready. I can't begin to tell you. When she leaves the hotel room, I watch her from the window as though she has been released into the world. I lay there for hours thinking about all of the men she is doing.

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      John 6 years ago

      Let her be free. Trust me, she will come back. Women generally are not stupid. I let my wife do what she wants and we ha e a really good relationship as a result. Totally in love each other. Yes, that means she has been with other men. It makes her happy and she always comes back to me.

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      victor usifoh 6 years ago

      wow! i just got married and i think its a wonderful piece. i knew these tips by intuition..but kinda tot it kinda being a wussy. now i know.i will fix maself up.

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      zahid 6 years ago

      Thanks a lots....hope it will help me to make wife more happy then before.

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      SupremePundit 6 years ago

      Married 32 years and raised 3 girls with a wife that is an alcoholic and has real mental illness.

      It is not the mans job to make the wife happy or the wife's job to make the man happy.

      Fairy tales and emotional porn have driven reality out of relationships. The emotional pornography that women read as romance novels places unreal expectations on relationships in the non-fiction world.

      This is the source of most conflict in marriages.

      Women in all civilized countries now expect to be treated like princesses in the fairy tales they have been told. The goal of all fairy tales is to marry the prince but there is nothing about how to live happily ever after. It is assumed that the prince and his servants will do that for you.

      The media programming is that for women to be equal they need to suppress and dominate men not to rise to the level of responsibility and commitment that men must operate at. The divorce and family laws are all so oppressive towards men that what we see now is relationships can go for many years but as soon as the marriage CONTRACT is signed the relationship changes since the woman knows she has the man pressed in the corner with the full force of the state.

      While all of the articles points are sound relationship advice for any relationship be it marriage, kids, parents, friends, or business associates the constant whining that men have to make their wives happy is just more of the entitlement attitude that is causing problems. Just look at the so called "international symbol for marriage" that accompanies the article.

      There are three billion women on the planet if it is not working . . . . NEXT!

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      eric 6 years ago

      so true been together 12 years 3 kids been through best and worst. good and bad dont explain it. no one could ever replace her basic respect and being in love with her, not just loving her means everyhing her and you take care of her and shell take care of you neither will remember everytime you said i love you but neither will ever forget the time you said something mean or hurtful.

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      Chris 6 years ago

      This was obviously written by a woman.

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      Moh'd Arif 6 years ago

      First of all,we need to understand each other's feelings.

      and obviously respect as we respect our's parent's.That's very important for a husband to full fill the desire of his wife.and wife always keep her husband happy.Then only life will be pass happily.

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      Giving up 6 years ago

      Ive been married just over four years now and I really feel like all is lost. I feel like a lot of the other men here and feel that I am being treated unfairly. I love my wife so much. I do everything for her, cook every meal, clean, do the grocery shopping, laundry, all the outside work. I pretty much treat her like a princess and I think this might be part of the problem. I earn most of the money in the marriage but I am not allowed access to any of it (only when shopping). She doesn't even give me an allowance. I would be happy with even $5 a week! I let her go out and see her friends and I'll pick her up after. If I want to see my friends she gets so pissed off that we get into an argument every time. I don't do anything bad, I don't get drunk or get locked up. It seems she is just angry 24/7. Its just so disheartening as I have changed so much over the four years. I quit smoking, reduced my drinking significantly, I don't spend any money, sold my sports cars, become successful in my career, hardly spend any time with my friends but she still isn't happy with me and wants to control everything I do. I am writing this now in a separate room because I wanted to skip going to the gym for 1 day to have dinner with a friend. I am just about to give up on my marriage. I have read the 5 tips but none of them have worked for me. I really hope the women read this and try to understand what their husbands have to go through. Women know they are emotional and sometimes just plain crazy but please don't take try to remember that before going mental at your husbands.

      I am so depressed. I want to disappear.

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      JKV 6 years ago

      I strongly believe that let her breathe !! Allow her the freedom to do it her way and your 1 suggestion for the same is sufficient and no more is required. Also as a husband don't poke in to every thing. As far as kids are concerned one parent needs to be strict and the other needs to be loving and accepting. The parents have to decide who will take what role. Things will run in auto mode without problems. Also remember, when the oars creek too much, the sailor puts a drop of oil... LOL... take care..thanks all for your lovely comments.

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      vinoriz 6 years ago

      It is very help full for all.

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      Confused 6 years ago

      mI glad to here somebodys marriage is good. Ive been with my wife almost 12 years and married almost 2. I do all 5 of those steps on a daily bases and still 90% of the time shes still not satisfyd. I do the cooking, cleaning, washing etc. We both work. She shouldn't ever have anything to complain about but she does. Now she says I try and control here. If wanting to ly down and watch a movie instead of her going to sit up and look n other ppl faces and play cards is controling then I am guilty. I mean its cold outside we had a wonderful date nite lastnite, why stop now? Anyway to all that the 5 steps wo

      rks for, congrads on havn a good spouse. As for me, I think its time to throw n the towel!

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      Directos solly 6 years ago

      This is a wonderfull tips sho sho makoya love a real marriage

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      hasan 6 years ago

      i am happy as my wife is like my friend.

      she is very caring to me.

      whenever it is time for lunch she gives me sms to lunch.

      it gives me lots of pleasure.

      i also taking care for her.

      plz pray for us.

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      elijah lilemo 6 years ago

      this is powerful for my marriage was about to die but most of the tips i applied worked out God bless.

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      lax 6 years ago

      the problem inmy marriage is that my husband doesn't communicate at all.He doesn't like to express love, eating is only in front of TV,no communiaction, no opening up in front of me is frustrating me.. how to cope with this

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      vijay 6 years ago

      thanks 4 gud ideas. Lovely comments

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      mj 6 years ago

      If you can help it...let your wife work as little as needed...part time is great for us...she makes extra money and does all the housework and makes me a wonderful lunch and dinner almost every day...and we are so happy she does not have to work fulltime:-)

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      marco 6 years ago

      hi fab site i found it by chance. 5 fine points, you have here. its took me 27 years to , lets say to some form of degree or other to nearly master the above 5. question is my partner sits back and laps it all up to the full and gives 30 percent back. so i tell her this my thought and then i lay of been so on the ball in the relationship then she will moan that she has had A BELLY FULL OF ME AND TO GET LOST.So im made to feel guilty and start working on the 5 points to the fullest and shes brimming again. ps I LOVE THIS GIRL

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      amit sharma gsp 6 years ago

      these are good comments I will try my best to follows these steps

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      mannu 6 years ago

      gr8 tips sply 1 n 2

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      jay 6 years ago

      if she dont put out i put her out

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      Truth 6 years ago

      1) Eat dinner together everyday.

      Work second shift doesn't happen often.

      This is something I should work on to stay away from TV while eating... Harder to do being there isn't enough room at the table for everyone. Personally think its more important that I let the kids and my wife have the best seats in the house for supper.

      2) Keep the romance alive with creative little things.

      If you have to buy gifts or do arts and crafts for your wife to keep her interested in you you're wasting your time... Gifts only go so far and oh my lord why be up there ass 24/7 for real? Yes occasional call from work (unless you don't work the same shift then suggest to call every day at least once from work). Flowers are good but not all the time or they just take it as your just trying to mark you territory by letting all the guys she works with know she's taken... If you send flowers, call every day when you work the same hours, and see each other every afternoon every freaking day your just smothering them. At first this might be cute and cuddley but believe you me eventually in time your going to drive her away!

      3) Learn to communicate well.

      Only so much a man can take ladies of your not communicating with them at all...

      I can try to communicate with my wife but she never truly opens up to me, not even after 11 years together.

      She starts in when we start to open up with "Not to start a fight but". Then she says something way off the topic or is totally selfish and expects me not to get mad. LOL? (When sexually frustrated men tend to not be so forgiving here ladies, it's a 2 way street here) When at work on lunch I always call her to see how things are going at home and with the kids and see how her day was. Most of the time its good but she still never opens up about her feelings, and I don't care who you are... If you have been with a person for 10+ years you know them in and out you can tell when somethings bothering them!

      4) Practice thinking for two.

      This is important and we do very well here. We have 5 children so it's important that we not over spend on garbage, have people over at random, and speak to one another.

      5) Never, ever take her for granted.

      My wife does the majority of the house work I work second shift and deal with our 2 year old while she gets up in the morning to get the older 4 (15-11-6-5) up and ready to go to my mother and father in laws so they can take them to school. I don't do quite as much house work as I should but I do the dishes 1 once a week. Do at least 1 load of laundry a week, do all outside work, and of course maintenance on the home. I love my wife hands down. Sex used to be very frequent now never... And if anyone thinks that this is not a problem for a marriage your dead wrong(keep thinking that your husband isn't getting sexually frustrated with you and see how healthy your relationship stays!)! I have a good paying job she works part time. She has so much potential its sickening. Just doesn't want to try at anything and is so quick to blame everything on me when in argument (that she starts) soon as I try to make any valid point to defend myself after she bashes me she just immediately starts "That's right it's always my fault" bullshit... Why do we always have to be wrong for you to be happy even when you women know that your wrong? I know it doesn't always end up like this and sometimes it is my fault we argue but at least I can say I was wrong I'm sorry please forgive me and mean it, they can't!

      Sometimes I feel like a king other times a turd LOL. Get used to this up and down feeling fellas because this is how it really is. When its that time of month and you have a very moody wife give her space and try your best not to blow up at her when she seems a bit pushy. If you have kids help out as much as you possibly can at this time, also when there sick. It hurts me to read what I'm writing because it seems more and more like my marriage won't last... I can't keep being ignored by my wife sexually its ruining our relationship. I will not cheat because I am one of the good guys! But I will not sit idle and stay frustrated forever! We used to have good sex like 1-2 times a week now its once every 3-4 months... I would be more loving and understanding if our love life was more frequent and I didn't in the back of my mind think that somewhere I lost my wife to someone else and now she's just here for the kids.

      Go ahead and try to analyze this ladies and tell me how wrong I am LOL. I used to be a hopeless romantic and somewhere deep inside of me that guy is still in there, but from not opening up to me truly emotionally and sexually cutting me off has made me bitter and numb. Sexually frustrated hubby makes for an unhappy wife/marriage! So sit on facebook bitch about how your husband is a dick to all your friends keep ignoring him when he tries to open up to you, keep cutting him off sexually, and I promise your marriage will fail in time!

      Good luck!

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      Kenneth Avery 6 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Amazing hub.Voted UP, what else, and all the way for this was written by an amazing, talented writer. Loved the lay-out. Text. And overall common sense approach to a commmon area that needed some help. I am very glad to meet you on Hubs and I invite YOU to check my hubs if you need a good laugh--and also follow me. That would make me very happy.


      Kenneth Avery, a HubPages member from Hamilton, a small northwest Alabama town that looks like Mayberry from the Andy Griffith Show.

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      Kul 6 years ago

      Grace of God.I I'll be with my sweet wife.I love her so much.mean whole world for me...and I know well how my wife happy...I am very lucky to have in my life...I wana say for everyone...we have a good life which could not be again so love our wife as much her u so much Nonu...muuuuh

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 6 years ago from Chennai, India

      Good Advice for many married couples! Vote Up!

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      row 6 years ago

      You ppl spend to much time debating go out and make ur wife/husband happy!!!

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      mahmmod 6 years ago

      thank you so much , i really do a lot of things to make her happy but sometime she dose things i dot like it and its hurt me and i ask her to change but just the time i start talking about it she gos crazy ? what should i do in this situation plz ?

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      Nepalese Guy 6 years ago

      Everybody love wife........... depand on culture to treat to wife will be diffrence........... i love my wife.... but she is nuty and younger age than me..... hahaha.... but wife can help to make can beleive me or not up to you????????????????

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      Corey 6 years ago

      As a husband that's went through and had infidelities, this rings true, I've been my own maker of life, so to speak, I've went through 2 marriages, still with the 2nd, and have realized it was not only my doing but satan himself trying to wreck this one, due to the fact I found a christian, because I have, in the past 2 weeks, found Jesus again!! I've taken my current and past wife(s) for granted but I've learned that its give and take, with the Lord on my side now, there's nothing that can defeat this marriage!!! I look at her as if I met her for the first time 11 yrs ago now, we've grown stroanger than ever and I do agree with the helpful tips but its different in each marriage, if God is not number one then the temptations of life, sex, money, alcohol, etc, will ultimately ruin a union of two hearts............

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      BIGHNESWAR KABI 6 years ago


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      Ohene Kwasi ANNOH 6 years ago

      It's a very good piece of advice for all marriage couples. One can never deny the fact that marriage is a training school that it's a must to attend.

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      ala 7 years ago

      very nice to share some idea to help others to improve there life together with the family. cos family is the rough rough road to trevel when having a kids, but always remember children is the gift from God. the family problem always have a solution in different way and never give up cos God can help you when you ask him, tell Him your problem and He will show you the way.

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      BIG 7 years ago

      Try something different sometime and she will come around

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      Frustrated 7 years ago

      I do all of those things but for some reason, she is still not happy. I do the dishes, i do the laundry, I clean up, I do it all. We have dinner at the table some. We go out to eat together. Our kid is living with a grandparent for school so it's just us. I really wish I could make things romantic with her. I just feel like I lost my drive. It's not what I want but it's what happens. I love my wife but she is tired of telling me that we need to be more physical. I want to be, the timing just never seems right. I guess I need to create the mood and not wait for it. I don't know.

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      rahul 7 years ago

      Thanks man now im feeling some one is with this advise is very help full for me.

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      husband 7 years ago

      I read this trying to see if I am doing wrong to my wife. Only to find out im the wife in this case she needs to do some reading not me.

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      ADDI 7 years ago

      WHT I DO FOR HER ......................

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      Muhammad Abbas 7 years ago

      Great advice !!

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      byee 7 years ago

      Thank you for all the compliments! Eyes, what a GREAT and uplifting story. It really is the little things...glad my hub helped!

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      eyes 7 years ago

      Thanks to this, I got my wife a little coastal surprise just to thank her for the laundry she does for me. It does make me simply happy to have underwear in my drawer everyday. So I put a nice surprise from daisyislands in the clothes dryer. She love it and I love my reward for thinking of her.


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      me_him_n_the_kids! 7 years ago

      great great tips here, your number 1 has reinforced what i have been trying to convince hubby for so long, he never had it so didn't get it. now he's said wow ur right! yay meals round the table from now on. i agree with everyone else tho it should be aimedat both of us :) thank u

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      Huby 7 years ago

      Your tips are so simple and basic, but really true

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      Papa Sez 7 years ago from The Philippines to Canada

      Hey byee, great list! short and simple so it's easy to remember. I am learning these as Mama Sez and I go through life together. Communication and not taking each other for granted are key.

      Hope to read more!

      Papa Sez

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      byee 7 years ago

      Guy with a problem: sounds like it's time for both of you to do something about all your issues. It's going to be hard to get out of that rut. Everyday life gets in the way of a marriage, especially with kids and other stresses. You BOTH have to make a conscious effort to make things work. Try to seek counseling if you can--that will get you out of the house and have a third party to help you communicate with each other. Don't wait--the longer you wait the more your bad habits will get worse. You need to remember that you are MARRIED and made promises to share a life TOGETHER! Don't let her blow you off so quickly. You need to tell her when she's not being fair and that you need to make the marriage work. Something needs to change or else this marriage is going nowhere. Good luck!

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      Guy with a BIG Problem 8 years ago

      Ok, I have done #1 my whole marriage so far, but all I come back so far is that my wife tends to eat dinner while we both watch TV, or one of us is taking care of the baby while one's eating dinner. #2 She has lost all sexual feelings after having kids, so I am all alone on this one, which sometimes I feel like she is getting it from someone else, It's horrible on how I feel like we can't act kinky and have fun together. It's always, I don't want to, or I am bleeding, or blah blah. There is always an excuse for her..... Communitcate for #3.... Ok try to communicate when you are sexually frustrated, or when the baby is crying, or when you both don't want to take care of the baby... try to have a normal conversation with someone like that.. and #4 Can't practice thinking for 2 when the baby is invovled. Having this baby, which I do love, but is a huge pain in my butt because all he wants to do is have everything evolved around him. I can't go anywhere, my wife is tired of having to take care of him. I can't do anything fun anymore... I really don't take her for granted, but all she does is ramble on how this is messy or how shes fat and I tell her to do something like go to the gym, but then she blows me off like I am some freak of nature... She never accepts my apologies. I feel like she wants it her way my whole life or she wants a devorce with me... I hate my life as of right now.

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      byee 8 years ago

      Thanks for the comments, everyone! Peter, in response to what you said, "what can make a wife happy is to give her liberty to think and make decisions and you have to support her a try to be a good hubby." I think this does not always work. There will be times when you disagree and you will HAVE to find a way to compromise, or you know she is making a mistake and you have to try and voice your concerns. Letting her do whatever she wants all the time is not healthy for your partnership. That's one of the things I've learned with being married!

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      Peter George 8 years ago

      nice advice.. thanx.. my name is Peter im not married yet but im in relation with my love.. i love my honey. yeah but what can make a wife happy is to give her liberty to think and make decisions and you have to support her a try to be a good hubby. i always try to keep my wife happy and i will after we're married. cos you know a girl leaves everythin for a person and when the person for whom she's leaving everything her family her home her mum dad. all she knows about you that you're going to be the one to keep her smiling, taking care of her... so everyone should love their wifes.. cos when ur life partner is happy and understanding you are going to be the luckiest person in whole world. and also a good wife is blessing by God. so always love and keep your wife happy.

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      ameena 8 years ago

      Every union is unique n making a marriage wrk is entirely up t d couple, patience, tolerance n understanding should b d motto.

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      ali  8 years ago

      great advice

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      aman 8 years ago

      very right advice and i try to do just like this

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      jamesp 8 years ago

      thank you so much this is grate advice. I like how it isn't overbearing or condescending towards men it helps without offending. and i think that it's fare.

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      Varinder  8 years ago

      Good Advice

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      Chris 8 years ago

      I like the 5 steps, but I feel like no matter what I do, when her mood swings, all hell breaks loose! So I guess the five steps would be a'ight if she can get on medication! Oh! FYI I didn't realize she was crazy til I married her. When we were dating, she stayed on her best behavior.

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      GLORY 8 years ago

      I think giving independence to wife is necessary to keep her happy.Never impose anything on her.Husband's love,respect and trust can keep wife happy forever.

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      Muhammad Nomaan Asim 8 years ago

      I have no wife but iwould say to live with peace and make ur wife happier as possible. AND nothing with advertisement of ur HOUSEHOLD Affairs.OK GOOD BYE---WISH U BEST OF LUCK!

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      muhammad zahid nissim 8 years ago

      i love my wife very much but after the birth of my first child our relations are becoming bitter, it is a great source of saddness for me. pray for me and for my wife and child.

      zahid nissim


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      jjrubio 9 years ago

      wonderful hub!

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      Sarah Love 9 years ago from Bay Area

      I'm going to have my husband read this when he gets home :)

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      Lisa Sousa 9 years ago from Veradale, Washington

      This was a fun article. I paticularly like Number 2 on the list. It the little things that mean a lot (at least to me), that make me feel appriciated.

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      adelacuesta 9 years ago

      "takes a lot of consistent effort"

      Another option on the poll is -'while you're in it!' Ha ha ha

      Nice Hub! Thanks

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      livelovecoffee 9 years ago from Georgia

      I could not agree more with your first point - eating dinner together. I find is so hard to understand why people cannot do without television (although I am a little guilty) it is so nice to not have that noise. Eating dinner together ends up leading to cooking together at my house. What you find is that the more you get involved with things other than television the more refreshed you end up feeling. You start accomplishing things you've been meaning to do. Working out, music (if you play), chores, house work, errands and even just time with your companion. I can't really get past the first one since it leads to so many other things. GREAT HUB!

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      brayan 9 years ago

      thanks a lot about that go on

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      George Nigeria 9 years ago

      This is just wonderful cos a lot of couples neglect most of them. Nice one !

      My wife feels so great each time I do her personal laundries (not undies).

      Nice tips

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      1stevedw 9 years ago from Europe

      Great hub. I always wonder: why don't we learn to communicate at school?

      It's an essential skill in life.

      Warm regards from Belgium,


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      GuruBurt 9 years ago from Internet Zone au.

      As one who did many of those things and the relationship still failed I can say that none of that will work if your partner is always supicious of your motives.  If they are not receptive the relationship is doomed.

      In my current relationship it is completely different and it is great.  We do spend a lot of time together whenever we can, our blended family is also happy with us, for us and with each other.  We are very lucky and blessed.

      I am still a little sad that my marriage was't all I had hoped for and that I was unable to make my wife happy but that's the way life works sometimes and I don't take it personally.  Nor do I blame her, it just didn't work.

      Great post, those things do work if you both want them to.

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      BizzyMuse 9 years ago from Southern California

      I loved this hub! You outlined great tips that are often times overlooked. I especially liked #1: eating dinner together every day. It's so easy to get so caught up in the business of everyday life, that couples forget the most basic things. Sharing and communicating strengthen the bond. I also find that taking the extra 2 minutes to dim the lights and light a few candles, can create a warm and inviting environment. Thank you for sharing.

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      Cindy Lawson 9 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands)

      Great advice and great Hub. I am lucky, my Husband is one of the romantics who emails or phones me several times a day or more and constantly wants to cuddle me.

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      efeglo 9 years ago from Nigeria

      Ofcourse thats how to build a sucessful home, and when one person fail, please try to keep the fire burning so both of you do not fall, cause you started the journey together and you must fight to get to the end of the road.

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      AndyBaker 9 years ago from UK

      Great advice - many thanks.

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      byee 9 years ago

      JerseyGirl: of course! Thanks for visiting.

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      JerseyGirl 9 years ago from Jersey Shore

      Good advice here..... Can I print this out and let my hubbie read it? Thanks much.

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      hot dorkage 9 years ago from Oregon, USA

      Playing guessing games is a real romance killer and it goes both ways.

      Everything here is true. Except the little pressies. I don't care about that. And after the kids are gone is the hardest because the sex isn't a given in the older ones especially for the women. Sex is a much better fixall during your breeding phase then after it is over. At that point there better be something else there.

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      Rodney Fagan 9 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      Great advice, always spend that extra effort to go the extra yard to make each other happy.

      The easiest ways is to make her hyappy, and schedule each and every moment caring for her.

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      mattferry 9 years ago from California

      Great tips. I certainly agree although how you do these things depends on your style. Put in a unique touch.

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      Lazur 9 years ago from Netherlands

      Not being appreciated is probably one of the worst feelings one can have in a relationship; that is oh so true.:)

      Good hub:)

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      byee 9 years ago

      Anna: Sounds like you need to show this Hub to your husband!

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      Anna 9 years ago

      Good advice I supposed= but realistically who is going to continue hiding presents after being married for several years? I don't mean to sound pessimistic but I really haven't observed this happening.

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      Ananta65 9 years ago

      "Only two things are necessary to keep one's wife happy. One is to let her think she is having her own way; the other, to let her have it."  Lyndon B. Johnson

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      morrisonspeaks 9 years ago

      great advice! both must also give and take.

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      patnamohan 9 years ago from India

      My wife is always happy.....LOL..

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      byee 9 years ago

      Hey hey...I was answering a request that specifically asked "How to keep your wife happy"....A guy should write the other side!!!

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      freddiecox 9 years ago from Norman, OK

      Great advice. But where's the Hub on how to keep your husband happy. Today women are busier than ever--roles get reversed.

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      Chineze 9 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

      very practical, very true. whoever practices these five tips will not have any problem at all. I am a woman so I know that when I cook--especially when I take out time to make that delicious meal I want you(my man) to eat it with a lot of uhmms and aaahs and 'where did you learn to cook like this?'. And when I talk or whine about that dress not fitting perfectly I don't want to hear 'Then you shouldn't have bought it' I want to hear 'If you have it held here by the tailor it'll fit perfectly. It's a wonderful dress just needs a little mending.' And when I ask ' How was work' Believe me, I don't want to hear 'Fine' start yamming and moving that jaw until I place the meal on the table. Is that asking for too much? I don't think so.:-) And one more thing sometimes it isn't sex i want when I hold you I just want to cuddle--only cuddle. Just speaking for some women. Thanks.

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      hopefully 9 years ago

      Great advice! I agree it goes both ways, especially these days. Also important to remember these things when you have kids. We try to do a date night, just the two of us. That's a great opportunity to talk without the kids being the centre of attention!

      Love this hub, well done.


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      Shalini Kagal 9 years ago from India

      In India, it would probably be: If the King isn't happy, the kingdom's not's the Queen's job to keep her King happy so she better be happy doing just that!!!!! LOL...... truth be told, it seems to work quite well!!

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      guidebaba 9 years ago from India

      Nice Tips andf Advice. Thank you for sharing.

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      Hub-Ninja 9 years ago from in the midwest somewhere

      great advice :)

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      byee 9 years ago

      Thanks for the comments! My husband's retaliation comment is this: "If the King isn't happy, the kingdom's not happy. If the Queen isn't happy, the kingdom still runs!" LOL...

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      Airsoft Gear 9 years ago

      Your best man was right on....if she's not happy, your not going to be happy. It takes a smart man to realize that. You forgot one. Make sure you do things apart too. my wife and I each take a separate 3-4 day vacation every year. Helps a lot. You get to do things your spouse doesn't care to.

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      Rachael 9 years ago

      This should be advice directed at both halves of the couple.

      If both people in the relationship actively try to make life nicer for the other person, they will most likely still be madly in love on their 50th wedding anniversary :)

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      Write On! 9 years ago from United States

      Great tips and advice for keeping love alive over the long-haul.

      Write on!


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