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Will I Ever Find Love?

Updated on October 10, 2013

One question that many single men and women ask is “Will I ever find love”? While you might feel lonesome without that special someone in your life, it is not the end of the world. One of the best parts about falling in love is taking your time. You could go on a few blind dates or simply take up speed dating if you want to find someone. However, it is a good idea to seek someone who shares the same likes and hobbies as you.

But what about that term we have always heard - opposites attract? This is true but in the long term, a relationship isn’t compatible. Before you settle for anyone, you should look over their habits, what they like, how they treat people and even how responsible they are. Looking into things like this will help you find someone you can truly fall in love with.

If you are wondering if you will ever find love in your life, there is no need to ask this. It is a matter of “will you find love” but instead, a matter of when… By engaging in certain activities, meeting new people, and also spending time with friends, you can increase your chance of finding love.

How to find love

The first step in finding a mate is putting yourself out there. You really need to start meeting other people in order for this to happen. It doesn’t matter if you are shy or very talkative either. Anyone is able to find love. Let me explain this to you.

When I met my first boyfriend, I was extremely shy and he would talk most of the time. I didn’t have to worry about anything really. However, he was mostly interested in being my friend in the beginning. Later on, my love for him bloomed and I had pronounced it over the phone. It was an awkward moment for both of us because I said it very early. Over the years, we grew very close even though after a five year relationship, things ended abruptly.

The next guy I met was actually my best friend. I wasn’t interested in dating him because I thought he wasn’t my type because he would barely talk to me or even look at me. I did most of the talking since I learned in my first relationship how to communicate effectively. One day out of the blue, we were hanging out and he said he loved me. I was very surprised and after this, we kept a steady relationship. Today, I am married to the same man and love him dearly.

How to find true love

So, how can someone find true love? There are a couple of signs that indicate you are dealing with true love. Let’s look over a few things that indicate you are in love. You sometimes get tongue tied around that person. If they were someone you weren’t interested in, this probably wouldn’t happen. Coming up with topics to talk about is difficult for you, unless you are a talkative person. You might begin to sweat when you are around that particular person.

Okay, but what about if you have never even introduced yourself to your crush yet? How can you find true love if you have never even talked to them? This can be difficult and somewhat crushing but without taking a chance in life, you won’t get anywhere. Here are a few things you can do to become noticed by your true love.

  • Ask them simple questions like where they got their shirt from or anything that will allow them to interact with you

  • If you are in high school, ask them to be your study partner. Only do this if you know that they are smart at what they do, otherwise they will know what you are up to.

  • Gain their attention by meeting eyes and holding the look. Don’t do this for longer than 5 seconds though.

  • Smile whenever you pass by. This is giving them the invitation to talk to you. You can instantly tell if a person likes you with a facial expression.

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Finding your soul mate with online dating

Okay, so you aren’t very good at finding a soul mate because of your horrible conversational skills. The best way to find a soul mate is by using online dating websites. Simply talk about your personality on your profile and list a few of your positives. You should never try to change your personality when looking for a soul mate but at least try to be “warm” to them. If you aren’t someone who talks much, then smile and listen to what they have to say. Here are a few tips to set up online dates:

  • Wait at least four months to meet the person you have been talking to. You want to be safe.

  • Before you decide to meet up with them, bring a friend to escort you there. You don’t have to introduce your friend or anything like that but at least they can watch you to make sure your safe.

  • Smile when meeting your date for the first time. Impressions are very important.

  • Never wear too much cologne or perfume. One spray is fine but no more than this. Also, make sure you have showered one to three hours before going out.

  • Know what you are going to say before going to meet them so this way everything sounds natural.

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This might be difficult for anyone, especially if you have been dating a particular girl or guy for a few months. You so desperately want to tell them how you feel but you keep holding back out of fear. Chances are, if they have not left you any hints - they are either scared or not interested. The only way to move ahead is by being blunt with them. Obviously though, they would not keep on dating you if they weren’t connected to you “romantically” and this is a problem for many who are steady dating.

  • If you are scared to ask the person in person, present a card to them that asks if they will be your boyfriend/girlfriend.

  • Be upfront by asking them face to face if they think that the two of your will be a good couple instead of beating around the bush.

  • Ask one of their friends if you are afraid of rejection. This can be extremely useful if you are very shy and don’t know how to talk to your true love.

By doing this early, you will save yourself time in being with someone who is not truly interested in you. Actually, if they do tell you they aren’t interested, think of this as them doing you a favor so you can find someone else who is worth of your time.

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