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Will Love Actually Find You?

Updated on April 14, 2016

Will Love Actually Find You?

Are you faced with doubt on if love will find you? Are you worried that love will not find you in time? If so here is a better view on the quest for love.

Let us acknowledge what love is before we get started shall we. Love is a mutual connection of emotions, and feelings between two people. Love can be between anyone no matter what gender you are. Love is the connection that you have with your cup of coffee every morning. Let’s just say you don’t have that cup of coffee tomorrow morning, but let’s think about how that will make us feel. Some may feel unstable, frustrated, or even as if something is missing in their life. That is the essence of love. It is the thing that if it is missing we will immediately become unstable.

Now that we got that example out of the way, let us focus on how and if love will actually find you. Finding love is an odd thing to search for. Not like a fairytale Romeo and Juliet movie where two people are integrated in love, but real life. It is possible to find love, but that is not the right mind set to be in. No one will tickle your fancy by approaching you and saying “Hey are you looking for love, because that will just be plain weird. What we all fail to realize is that love can’t be predicted with anyone. Love does not have a plan to hit your life at a certain time or place. Love does not clock in and stay the entire shift. Scary as it seems, you may have already turned down the person that may have loved you the way you want to be loved.

Hunting is when you are constantly dating to find a quality that tickles your fancy. This is the quality that your old significant other gave to you to make you fall for them. This is the quality that is the key to your heart, so that you can feel the feeling of love. Hunting is very dangerous for anyone. Hunting opens your ears to false accounts of what the other will tell you. During hunting everyone you date will be looked on as prey. They will be contestants for auditions for your time and you will be sitting there waiting for their big move. This will delay love, the sooner we realize that the better. There is a fix to this and it is very simple. Below you will find ways to avoid hunting for love, by letting love form naturally.

  1. Do not expect people to give you butterflies right away

Why? It will eventually happen time is of the essence

2. Allow the person you’re dating to have a fair amount of time to get used to you.

Why? Late bloomers will surprise you with the best results

3. Do not date multiple people at once.

Why? One person can lie and ruin the chances of someone more genuine.

4. Do not look for that simple quality in them to make you like them.

Why? The person you are dating will show their special quality to you.

5. If you enjoy yourself keep enjoying it with that one person.

Why? You got the relationship started, keep going at it!

Following these steps will give you better results to find love. This is a way that you both can find love in each other. Even if it begins being just a regular friendship, you both will find your way. The moral of this is that if there is connection there is love. It is fairly easy to find mutual love in others by giving people the time to blossom. Most importantly is that giving yourself time to form into something special will be a huge payoff.

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      dashingscorpio 17 months ago

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      We (choose) who we will exchange our contact information , and who we will spend time with, kiss, have sex with, and continue to see.

      Essentially in order for a relationship to develop and love to occur we have to say "yes" over and over again with someone. A "no" stops everything.

      "Scary as it seems, you may have already turned down the person that may have loved you the way you want to be loved." - Very true!

      Placing people in the "friend zone" because one has no chemistry with them or is not attracted to them is common.

      Oftentimes it's not about finding someone (who loves us) or wants to be with us but rather (finding someone who WE want to be with).

      Everyone has their "shopping list" or "must have traits list" they want in a mate. For many folks it starts with physical attributes; height, weight, color of skin, hair, eyes, and move on to other things such as education, income level, hobbies, along with their reputation and how they are commonly viewed by others.

      It's not just about being loved by someone. People want to (choose) who that person is! Therefore the notion of (finding love) will forever be with us. If everyone automatically loved those who loved or admired them there would be no such thing as rejection.

      Most people would consider being someone simply because they are "into you" but you're not into them as being a form of "settling'.

      Last but not least each of us is entitled to have our own "deal breakers".

      Someone may have a crush on you but they smoke cigarettes and you hate the smell of tobacco. It makes no sense for you to go out without with them with a hidden agenda of getting them to stop smoking.

      Most people aren't walking around with one hand raised in the hair screaming: "I'm looking for someone to change me!"

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships; we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      Thankfully there are over 7 Billion people on this planet!

      Odds are in everyone's favor that there are more than a few who make an ideal mate for each of us. Choose wisely!