- Gender and Relationships
Women Who Like Men in Womens Clothes
I get a lot of very kind emails and comments full of appreciation that I speak positively about men who wear womens clothes. Many of them “wish there were more women who love cross dressers”. And a lot of them say how hard it is to find such women. So there’s obviously something of a shortage of such women. I have touched on this in other articles and here I want to take it further and try to help those of you, who are searching but not finding.
Much of what comes now is not rigorous research or analysis on social studies but mostly opinions that I came to from my own life story and my encounters with the people in my life. I know, that might not help you terribly well, since I’m not exactly a ‘normal’ woman. But I’m not a total nut job either. What gave me the attraction to cross dressing men was not a freak incident or a birth defect that only few women have. It was a series of experiences and I’m sure that many other women, surely the majority, would arrive at a similar place if they had made the same experiences. From my point of view, I can’t see how one can not appreciate men willing to wear womens clothes. But that view is where I am AFTER undergoing the process that led me here. Before that, I was just as ignorant and dismissive as everybody else.
How is that supposed to help you?
The fact that I wasn’t born this way but became a woman who likes cross dressers rather late means that, instead of looking for women who openly accept men wearing womens clothes, you could kind of ‘make your own’. As with everything involving people, it won’t always work but I am sure that, given enough chances, most men could make this happen. I also believe it’s probably more successful than going out looking to date women who already say they like men wearing womens clothes.
I have had a reader tell me he finds it best to go out openly from the start, so perhaps I’m wrong. But I obviously can’t comment on his experiences. I can say, however, that many ‘normal’ women would reject a man who wears womens clothes openly from the start. I probably would have, if I’d met one when I was 18. But, because of what happened with me, I think many of those same women who dismiss and reject cross dressers, might very well learn to love them if they had the same things happen to them.
How to help your partner to like you wearing womens clothes
The most important thing here is how you tell her that you cross dress. If you haven’t yet, then I suggest that you read that article now. In my case, that turned out to be crucial and I am certain this will be the same for most women. I’ve heard many stories about men who keep their lifestyle a secret for many years and then get caught. That, for example, is not the way to go about it.
But that isn’t enough. Another important part of the story is that I was completely in love and my boyfriend could have told ma a whole load of things and I wouldn’t have minded. Maybe my attraction to cross dressing men was down to my associating it with someone I love. That could very well be and then it could also work for many others.
The problem is, you don’t just want her to put up with you and tolerate you wearing womens clothes. You want her to appreciate it and perhaps even love it as much as you do. I won’t lie to you. This is much harder. It’s always a tough thing to try to make somebody like something but it’s not impossible. Again, I’ll try to describe how I started liking it and maybe it works similarly for others. Read my article on why I love cross dressers to get an idea. In short, it’s down to him trusting me with such a secret, the fact that I’m attracted to vulnerability in men and the fact that he has a gorgeous body that looks stunning in anything that reveals or flatters his shape. Those three things are what drive me nuts about it and any one of them would have been enough to make me like it.
It’s not just about clothes but also about taste
The fact that men wearing womens clothes is an issue to many people, is mostly down to ignorance and intolerance. We all know that but there’s another side to it that I rarely see mentioned by anyone and that is taste. If you wear something that doesn’t suit you at all then you’re not going to win people’s appreciation. That has little to do with gender. You see, not all women get away with wearing all the clothes they want either. For a laugh, I put on my boyfriends casual wear and it looked absolutely hideous on me even though it was ok on him. Or as another example, try to imagine a very overweight woman with hairy legs, be honest with yourself about how you’d think of her wearing sexy lingerie. And the reality is that most men don’t look after their bodies like women do and so there are a lot more men who aren’t suited to that kind of fashion. It’s not because they can’t become suited or because the male body isn’t suited for it per se, but simply because they didn’t prepare enough.
As far as I’m concerned, I even love those men wearing womens clothes whom it doesn’t suit in the least because it has something endearing and helpless about it. But this is the part where I’m the weird one and you shouldn’t count on meeting many others with such a preference. Then again, I don’t really know that - just a guess based on my observation of the people I meet. The bottom line about this “taste thing” is that, something like sheer tights or suspenders look amazingly hot on the right legs - that is every bit as true for lean muscular mens legs as it is for lean womens legs (far more so in my opinion) and I’m sure most women would agree with me.
Please share your experiences or grievances in the comments.