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Words Can Hurt Us
Sticks and stones can break our bones but words can never hurt us is a lie. Words cut into our soul and leave an indelible print that can last a lifetime. They are tattooed on our life and stay with us until our grave.
Bruises heal and cuts mend but words stay forever in our heart and mold us into the people we are. The opinions of the people around us are responsible for our growth and create the person we are today.
If you have a complex about a body part, your size or the way you speak it is the fault of someone in your life putting an idea in your mind that you don’t quite measure up.
They have lied to you.
You are great the way you are. There are no perfect people. We all fall short of perfection. Who are they to tell you that a certain hair color or attribute are better than what you have? Who are they to decide, judge and govern what is beautiful and what makes a wonderful person?
Think back to that individual or those people and pick them apart. They aren’t perfect. They have birthmarks, crooked teeth and feet that are too large. Look at their flaws and pick them apart in your mind. Certainly, don’t tell them or make it known or we stoop to their level of ignorance but in your mind you can overcome their hate.
See? They are not qualified to tell you what is wrong with you when they are not models themselves. How dare they make judgment when they are uneducated, unattractive and most surely unqualified to make an assessment?
Why do we allow such people to change our view? Why let them control our perception of who we are and whether we are worthy?
People who sit around looking for fault in others are generally unhappy with themselves. They hope that in pointing out another person’s transgressions people will be less inclined to see the cracks in their own character. Maybe others won’t notice the problems in their life.
Until they point out a difference or a unique part of us we would not see it. We would look in the mirror and not care if our part was crooked or our nose was a bit large. Without these idiots who feel the need to make ugly remarks we would be secure and happy with the way we are and live complete and satisfied lives.
So right now go look in the mirror and see the beauty that is there. Look for the goodness that is within you and tell yourself, "I am just fine the way I am and no one else has the authority to tell me otherwise."