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How To Make Your Relationship Stronger: Some Simple Steps You Can Implement Today
Do you feel like your partner is invested in your relationship?
As long as you are both invested in the relationship, it doesn't matter how far down the tubes your relationship has gone, you can make it stronger. You can make it healthier, happier, and more fulfilling by changing a few behaviors and habits.
Your relationship habits are really what determine how good or bad your relationship will be.
For example, if you are in the habit of coming home and immediately eating in front of the TV, then you are missing out on a time when you can reconnect after a long day.
Or, if you are in the habit of not discussing important things with your partner - and instead discussing them with your friends, family, or anyone else, then you are likely hurting your relationship in the areas of trust and communication.
Some healthy relationship habits take a while to build, but others can be implemented right away. Following are three habits you can start building today to make your relationship stronger.
1. Get To Know Eachother Better
Do you know your partner?
No - I mean do you really know your partner. The little things that don't get talked about or asked because they seem insignificant or they are too touchy to talk about.
Touchy things are topics that usually don't get talked about, such as how many kids do you really want, or what do you really think about religion and the afterlife?
The reason those seemingly small topics are left alone is because there is sometimes a difference of opinion in which an argument might pursue. But that shouldn't be a reason to stop learning about each other.
Think of it this way: You better have a difference of opinion once in a while. If you don't, then you are pretty much the same person and you might as well be in a relationship with yourself. Boring!
Try making it into a game and ask just one unique question a day. You and your partner can write down a bunch of questions that you would like to ask and discuss, and you can throw them into a jar. That way you will always have something to look forward to learn about your partner AND something that your partner always looks forward to learning about you.
The more you learn about each other, the closer you will become and that translates to more trust in the relationship. It gives you more insight into your partner and how they are thinking or how they will react to certain situations, which will ultimately make your relationship stronger.
2. Spend Quality Time Together
The more time you spend apart, the less you feel like a unit, a couple, a part of a relationship.
It's easy to get caught up in the day and go about doing your own thing. This is especially true if you have kids or family members living with you. Or, if you have other distractions that demand your attention.
I don't have kids, but sometimes on a Saturday or Sunday I find that my husband can get busy on his computer, and I can get busy on mine, and before we know it bedtime is a few minutes away.
One thing I know for sure is that when you spend quality time together, you feel closer, and feeling closer leads to more trust.
We try to spend most evenings sitting outside when it's nice and talking or playing cards inside and enjoying each other's company.
We also like to do a night at a hotel once a month. It changes up the location of where we are hanging out, and it's harder to fall into a routine of checking our e-mails out.
But even an hour of time alone together a day without the TV on or other distractions is essential to our relationship, and I think that you will find it will make your relationship stronger too.
So, at the very least, make sure you spend meals together when you can and before bedtime talk about things that happened throughout your day.
3. Have Inside Jokes and Pet Names For Eachother
There's nothing that can help make your relationship stronger than having a connection of past memories.
You know how your best friend knows what you mean when you bring up something that happened a few years ago - and you barely have to say anything? That's a bond that makes you feel close to your friend.
If you don't already, make sure you have those moments with your partner. If you don't have any past funny or interesting moments that you can bring up, then make some!
For instance, when something funny or interesting happens, make it an inside joke between you two and then bring it up from time to time. It's a moment that you shared, and as you connect in mind around that moment, it will bring you closer together.
Moreover, create some pet names for each other and use them. Pet names can remind you of your unique connection that no one else can have with you.
I know that when my husband calls me sweetie at home it seems quite normal, but when he says it in front of our family or friends it makes me feel - well, like his sweetie. And I know that everyone else heard it too, so that makes it extra special..
So whether it's sweetie, cuddles, honey, baby or lover, pick a name and use it to build a connection between the two of you and make your relationship stronger.