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Worst Relationship Advice Ever

Updated on August 13, 2012
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Bad Relationship Advice That Will Get You In Trouble

This is the relationship advice that does you absolutely no good, unlike the relationship advice that you can take to the bank.

This is the relationship advice that you take to heart and apply to your relationship and then end up blowing your chances with your dream guy or girl.

It's the advice that gets you into more fights than you’ve ever been in, in your life - or makes you miserable for life.

Bad relationship advice can land you in a miserable relationship and keep you there with no way out!

Here’s some of the worst relationship advice that I've ever found:

Men or Women are Just Like That

There are so many older people who will give you this relationship advice, like the grumpy woman whose man has never done a chore in his life or the old man who has been getting nagged at for the last 60 years! There are a few reasons they will give you this advice but it all boils down to one thing.

They have to justify their own unhappiness.

They don’t want to admit that it could have been better for them so they have forced themselves to believe that this is just the way relationships are. And even if they don’t believe it they would never admit that it could’ve been better to you or anyone else.

The truth is that a man doesn’t have to be lazy and a woman doesn’t have to be a nag! If there is proper communication in the relationship then those annoying habits can be changed into something more pleasing and acceptable for both people in the relationship.

Jealousy is a Part of a Healthy Relationship

What?! ? Who came up with this relationship advice?

Jealousy stems from fear, and fear is a negative emotion. It’s not a loving and happy feeling that belongs in a relationship. It doesn’t make you more thankful to have your partner – it just makes you fearful you will lose your partner. Jealousy does not mean that you love your partner more.

Jealousy has literally no place in a healthy relationship. In fact it causes issues that will always bring about an unhealthy relationship.

A healthy relationship has trust and understanding in it, not jealousy!

Don’t Be BFFs

I recently read from a pretty trusted website on relationships that you shouldn’t be best friends with your lover. Their theory was that you may wind up feeling like roommates and lose the female and male chemistry that you feel in the beginning of the relationship. (Seriously?) Their advice was to save the talking for times when you are with your same sex friends and to keep the sexy energy for being with your lover.

Don’t do that.

If you are going to be with your lover long-term then you have to have a best friend connection as well as a sexual connection – and it’s entirely possible. The more you are connected together on a mental level, the happier you can be on all levels!

In fact, speaking from experience here – my husband and I know each other so well, and trust each other so well, that bedroom fantasies are not held back. If we didn’t have that connection then we may not want to ‘share’ those fantasies that are normally kept in the dark.

Plus it's a turn-on to have someone who knows you so well and will always be there for you - just like a best friend but better because you get to have sex with them!

Just because you share your experiences, thoughts, concerns, dreams, daily happenings, and everything else with each other doesn’t mean you will lose that attraction.

Seriously - sometimes you have to take relationship advice lightly and figure out what works best for you. Don't let someone else's opinion ruin a great relationship.

What is the Worst Relationship Advice That You Have Heard?

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      Kari 5 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      Thanks maggs. I had forgotten about my relationship advice article here - but yes, it's a bit of an usual start.

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      maggs224 5 years ago from Sunny Spain

      An unusual slant looking at and highlighting the bad advice, it made for interesting reading.

      I enjoyed it because I like your writing style, thank you for sharing, I am voting up :D

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      Krista White 6 years ago from Washington DC

      There is a ton of terrible relationship advice out there..but the one piece of terrible advice that keeps popping up is that "Women should not call a guy or ask a guy out." These rules used to apply...In the dark ages!! As women we are now more educated and earning more than ever. We don't have time for games. I say, go for what you want!