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You Can't Go Chasing Love
So many people think that you could chase love. They think that you have to go to certain places or do certain things to get someone to fall in love with you. While staying in your house you certainly won't find someone you can't go driving yourself crazing finding love. Love is something that happens on it's own.
People go to bars, clubs and even online dating to meet someone. The problem with bars and clubs is that most people there are drunk and looking for one thing. There are also dating sites like Tinder and OkCupid in which people are looking to just hook up also. Some people will tell you "go out that's how you meet someone." They feel that if you stay out late you are going to meet someone that is not always the case.
You could go to every bar and club under the sun and stay out all hours of the night and not meet anyone. If you do you could meet the wrong guys. It does not mean that anything is wrong with you. It just means that it is not your time to meet that special someone. People will tell you to try a different bar or club but finding love does not always have to be at a bar or a club.
You could go out and not meet anyone and one day be walking your dog in sweatpants run into a cute guy and he could take your number. You could run into an old flame in the supermarket and something could spark back between the both of you. That barista that you see almost everyday could ask you out or something can happen with your trainer. Sometimes the guy who you end up with is the guy who has been in your life this whole time you were chasing other guys or looking for a certain type of guy and this guy could be even better.
If one night you feel like staying in it is okay. Put yourself out in the world and when you least expect it you will meet someone. Meet new people and socialize everyday. You could meet someone who you work with and sometimes people even get set up through their friends.
Not everyone meets that special someone the same way. The best stories are the ones when you end up with that person who has been in your life this whole time. You go to each other for advice, they encourage you when you are nervous, they wipe away your tears when you are sad, you have so many inside jokes and most of all you know that they love you for you. You do not have to pretend to be someone you are not and the trust is there also.
If you have a guy friend who you like and nothing is happening right away do not time it. Some people are friends for six years before they start dating. That is how things grow. They build a friendship and if there is something there they decide to continue into a relationship. There is nothing more wonderful than dating your best friend.
Just because you are single now does not mean that you will always be single. Do not limit yourself. Do not get down on yourself. Instead have faith that when the time is right God and the Universe will send you that special someone.
Do not go chasing love. Don't feel that you have to go to a certain place to meet your special someone because it does not always work that way. God and The Universe decide when and where you will meet the guy you are meant to be with. Do not do things that you are not comfortable doing to keep a guy or get a guy because in the end you will only be unhappy. Stay true to yourself and when the timing is right you will meet the guy of your dreams. There is a perfect person for everybody you just have to have faith and put yourself out there. Don't give up because when you least expect it you will meet that special somebody.