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Has A Man Made a Fool Out of You?
Realizing You've Been Played
It happens to everyone, at some time or another. You find out youv'e been played. Realizing the cold, hard truth isn't easy, but how you deal with it can make a world of difference. I believe it's always good to let your feelings out as long as doing so doesn't hurt yourself or others. After all, if you've been used and manipulated, you have a right to be angry! It's perfectly normal to feel sad, angry, disgusted, confused, humilitated and degraded, especially if you've been dealt a really 'low blow'.
Below you will find an excerpt from
an angry woman who allowed herself
to be manipulated in a degrading and demorializing way.
Sadly, there are many more who
feel the same. I think of this as a way of allowing
these broken spirited individuals
to release the pain and move on.
A Letter To A Player
"I never should have believed a thing you said. I knew there was something fishy about you from the beginning. Your open ended answers. Your half truths. Hiding behind a keyboard and a cell phone, making excuses for not coming over....
I was stupid and naïve. After you got what you wanted out of the fun, you backed off and made yourself less available, stopped putting out any effort. The thrill was over, you got what you wanted from the deal while I stood by wondering why you hadn't called, come by; wondering why you never emailed anymore.
You threw me a few crumbs, even telling me yourself if you 'gave me the cake now the incentive for the crumbs would be gone'. How self-centered is that? You arrogant bastard! Are you so ignorant and full of yourself you don't even realize what you just said? What a loser!
I'm the one who lost....not you, but my dignity. I lost respect for myself, ashamed I ever let myself become entangled in such a farce......knowing full well it was unstable from the beginning. Beating myself up every day over my stupidity. And what I l have left is anger and humiliation.
Anger at you, for fooling me; humilitation at myself for allowing it. God, to be free of the humiliation! Yet you have none. No remorse, no thoughts, no feeling at all......never thinking about it, never wondering, never wanting.
So to you I say, you lying pervert, go back to the gutter where you belong. You sicken me, repulse me, and make me want to vomit."
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After The Pain
If this is what it takes to help release the pain, so be it. If you decide to write a letter, don't do it while you're still angry. And you don't have to mail it! Tear it up, if you wish; sometimes it's better that way. If you do mail a letter, wait a reasonable amount of time and understand that once the letter is mailed, it's over and done with and it may or may not spark a response from the player.
Very well said. Now it's time to move on, put the lid on the coffin, and start to live again.
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