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You Say You Can't Forgive Someone

Updated on November 17, 2011

So you think there is someone in your life who has wronged you and there's just no way you can ever forgive this person for what they have done. I have some good news for you! You can and it's so very simple.....

Here is the truth, if you're willing to receive it:

Every person on this earth has a physical body. That physical body is like an automobile. It is what gets us around from place to place. When a person dies, that body deteriorates but the 'real' person inside, which is his spirit, goes into the 'spirit' realm for eternity, which we cannot see. Depending upon that person's life, their spirit will go to Heaven or to Hell. This is the 'truth' for every single person on earth. So, it would be safe to say that our physical bodies live only for a short while on this earth and who we really are will go on forever in the spirit realm.

We, as physical human beings, cannot see into the spiritual realm with our human eyes but it's there and it's very real.

According to the Bible, in the spirit realm, there are (for a lack of a better phrase) Heavenly angels and fallen angels and they are all around us but we are not able to see them with our human eyes. However, they DO manage to influence our thinking on a moment by moment basis. The Heavenly angels of God will speak positive truth and loving thoughts to us. The fallen angels speak negative, accusing lies to us. We just need to understand that every single one of us is a victim of these beings. Every person, moment by moment, decides which 'voice' they will believe, but not every person has the discernment to know which 'angel' they are listening to. Every thought a person receives will then become a belief, which will then become an action. No person on this earth is immune to this truth. However, unfortunately more people choose to listen to the negative lies and actions rather than the positive truth regarding a situtation or person.

When someone in life has hurt us or someone we love, we immediately choose to 'right the wrong' that has been done and we think we are doing it for 'justice'. Our thoughts and actions are focused on that person and what they have done. We want to hurt the person that has hurt us - that's just being human, right? Ok, well, what if I told you that the person who harmed you or the person you love, was simply a 'victim'? They are human, just like you and they have the choice to listen to the thoughts that come to them and depending upon which 'side they choose' the outcome will become actions good or bad.

There is an old phrase from a television show back in the sixties and I'm sure you've heard 'The Devil Made Me Do It'. It may seem silly, but there is a lot of truth in that simple statement. We are all human beings influenced by fallen angels and the thoughts or arrows they hit us with. We choose, individually, whether or not they are truth. Most freuquently we don't have the discenment to realize that if the thought is not positive and 'in love' then it is 'negative and a lie' and we don't recognize where these thoughts come from. We think the thoughts are our own and so they are all justified in our minds.

The simple truth is this: The person that has wronged you or hurt you is a victim. Satan and His fallen angels influenced them deceitfully enough that the person believed their truth to be lies and they acted on those lies and therefore someone got hurt. Every action is preceeded by a thought. If the action is hurtful, the thought was hurtful and came from the being that was created to 'hurt' people - to steal, kill and destroy. We are all victims of satans lies and actions. That is why 'all have sinned and come short of the glory of God'.

When someone has hurt you, stop and realize that they are a victim just like you and that the blame should be put on satan and his fallen angels where it belongs. Don't blame the person - go after your REAL enemy satan and PRAY for the person who has wronged you. Pray that they will see the truth of the situation and repent of what they have done. Pray that God will reveal the truth to them and cover them with a 'hedge of protection' so that satan can't continue to influence them in their decisions.

LOVE others and realize that everyone sins and everyone is a victim. Pray for protection for those who have wronged you and choose to forgive. Put the blame where it belongs and choose to love.

If Jesus could forgive those who put Him on the cross, then when we choose NOT to forgive we are putting ourselves above God and telling Jesus our situation is more important than what He went through. What this person did to us was worse than the people who killed that what you REALLY believe?

So listen to the voice that is telling you to forgive, it comes from the spirit of God within you. When you choose not to forgive you are simply becoming a victim of the same voice of the fallen angel who influenced the person you are unwilling to forgive.



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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      Hello Macrobin, Great Hub on Forgiveness. I liked this obsevation: "If Jesus could forgive those who put Him on the cross, then when we choose NOT to forgive we are putting ourselves above God and telling Jesus our situation is more important than what He went through" That put's forgiveness in a whole new light. YES the enemy does throw lies our way - so important to replace the lies with His word which is Truth!

      God Bless You!


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      Michael S. 6 years ago from Winston-Salem, NC

      "Choose to love" - You know, that says it all. When we realize that love is more than an emotion but volition and a behavior, we will understand that phrase and God's agape a lot more.