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"Young People, Shacking - Up Is Not An Option For You"
"Young People, Shackin - Up Is Not An Option For You"
Some young people think that shacking - up is a better option for them, that's looking for a live in roommate to help with the responsibilities, but they don't realize they're headed for trouble. when young couples opt for living together instead of getting married, they don't realize they're still living in the marriage mode. if it's your girlfriend or boyfriend you're living in the marriage mode, and soon will be doing everything just like an old married couple would be doing. I don't think the young people realize they have committed themselves, to a person ,just like the married couples does. Once they committed to this union, everything else is off limits and they have to lives their as husbands and wives because of the living together arrangements. The young couples doesn't realize they 're living their lives without the sanctity and protection of marriage. I think they should weigh their options and check out the pros and cons of living together with a mate, before they commit and get themselves into a situation that they aren't really prepared for in the first place. Also, living together and buying things together is not an option, in case you have to split - up, when you live together with someone every day things becomes so much more complicated between the two people. This type of set up will soon or later cause heartache and pain to both parties, especially if the relationships ends. How can you split of things that you have paid for together, it's almost impossible to do with bad feelings.
Life for the young couple changes drastically for the young couple when they move in together, thinking this was a great set - up, when in actuality it's a hindrance to them both. The odds of this relationship surviving and flourishing is almost impossible, because they have so many things stacked against them from the start. The young couple think that they have solved their problems, but will soon realize that many unforeseen obstacles that will emerge as they continue to play adult housekeeping. The young couple should really weigh the pros and cons before moving in with a boyfriend or girlfriend, because their options as a single person changes from single to married status, which means you can't talk to others single men or women, because it might look like you're trying to cheat on this person you're now living with. When you commit to someone , people become very jealous and controlling; even if you aren't doing anything. The financial status change, you can't spend your money like you use to before you got yourself a mate, you have to count pennies and be-careful how you spend your money.
They also have to consider, that if one person fall ill and can't pay their portion of the bills, that they will have to pick up that person responsibility to keep things on the right track, there's a lot of headaches involved with living with a mate, just like being married to someone. I'm sure that when young couples decide to move in together they think they love each other enough to make it work and everything is going to be a bed of roses, but they soon forget that the thorns that comes with the roses of life. Young people you shouldn't never forget the consequences of making a wrong decision can cause irreparable damage to your relationships. The best thing for a young couple thinking of moving in together to do is,to ask themselves are we ready for marriage, and if the answer is no, then you're not ready to move in together either. You might not know it, but once you live with a mate for six months or less, you're considered a married old married couple and might need to get a paper of divorcement in some states from the person you're living with, before you can marry someone else. Then all the properties will have to be split between the two parties concerned. Please remember that when you shack up with someone you're living together without the benefits of a marriage.
Benny Faye Douglass