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"Young People, Shacking - Up Is Not An Option For You"

Updated on May 4, 2010

"Young People, Shackin - Up Is Not An Option For You"

 Some young people think  that shacking - up is  a better option for them, that's looking for a live in roommate to help with the responsibilities, but they don't realize they're headed for trouble. when young couples opt for living together instead of getting married, they don't realize they're still living in the marriage mode. if it's your girlfriend or boyfriend you're living in the marriage mode, and soon will be doing everything  just like an old married couple would be doing.  I don't think the young people realize they have committed themselves, to a person ,just like the married couples does. Once they committed to this union, everything else is off limits and they have to lives their as husbands and wives because of the living together arrangements. The young couples doesn't realize they 're living their lives without the sanctity and protection of  marriage. I think they should weigh their options and check out the pros and cons of living together with a mate, before they commit and get themselves into a situation that they aren't really prepared for in the first place.  Also, living together and buying things together is not an option, in case you have to split - up, when you live together with someone every day things becomes so much more complicated between the two people. This type of set up will soon or later cause heartache and pain to both parties, especially if the relationships ends.  How can you split of things that you have paid for together, it's almost impossible to do with bad feelings.

Life for the young couple changes drastically for the young couple when they move in together, thinking this was a great set - up, when in actuality it's a hindrance to them both.  The odds of this relationship surviving and flourishing is almost impossible, because they have so many things stacked against them from the start.  The young couple think that they have solved their problems, but will soon realize that many unforeseen obstacles that will emerge as they continue to play adult housekeeping.  The young couple should really weigh the pros and cons before moving in  with a boyfriend or girlfriend, because their options as a single person changes from single to married status, which means you can't talk to others single men or women, because it might look like you're trying to cheat on this person you're now living with. When you commit to someone , people become very jealous and controlling; even if you aren't doing anything. The financial status change, you can't spend your money like you use to before you got yourself a mate, you have to count pennies and be-careful how you spend your money.

They also have to consider, that if one person fall ill and can't pay their portion of the bills, that they will have to pick up that person responsibility to keep things on the right track, there's a lot of headaches involved with living with a mate, just like being married to someone.  I'm sure that when young couples decide to move in together they think they love each other enough to make it work and everything is going to be a bed of roses, but they soon forget that the thorns that comes with the roses of life. Young people you shouldn't never forget the consequences of making a wrong decision can cause irreparable damage to your relationships.  The best thing for a young couple thinking of moving in together to do is,to ask themselves are we ready for marriage, and if the answer is no, then you're not ready to move in together either. You might not know it, but once you live with a mate for six months or less, you're considered  a married old married couple and might need to get a paper of divorcement in some states from the person you're living with, before you can marry someone else.  Then all the properties will have to be split between the two parties concerned.  Please remember that when you shack up with someone you're living together without the benefits of a marriage.

Benny Faye Douglass

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    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you loveofnight, I appreciate you and your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Audrey, I thank you and your husband are one of the best one that made it through, I'm not saying that all couples divorce, I'm saying that if we maybe slow down weigh our option, we could come up with something more to God's liking, if you know what I mean. I'm not trying to put anyone down, I'm trying to look out for our young people that's not being rational in their options. Thank you for you comment and feedback. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much Cari Jean, for gracing my hubs with your presence. it's indeed a pleasure. Thank you also for your precious feedback and comment. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you dear Ron, I think if our young people slow down just a tad, weigh the pros against the cons, they will find out,that they will do much better trying another avenue. Thank you so much for your support,comment and feedback. Godspeed. God keep you well. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Hello, the points I was making was backed by Gods word, even some people think shacking is okay. Thank you desar heart for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Revlady, for your words of wisdom and your comment and feedback, I truly aqppreciate you. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you menomaina, for your godly aspect of shacking -up, I appreciate your input, comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      loveofnight 

      8 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

      no truer words spoken....." living in the marriage mode "

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      8 years ago from Washington

      I know it works both ways - but it worked for Bob and I - some 35+ years ago....I was too worried about getting married with my background unless I DID see if it would work out - thankfully it did. I've seen it go the other way too though - so depends probably on the couple.

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      Cari Jean 

      8 years ago from Bismarck, ND

      Great hub and I totally agree! I have a friend who decided it would be best for her and her boyfriend to live together and that is exactly what is happening - they are acting like an old married couple. By the time they get around to getting married they'll be bored to death of one another! Also, people who cohabitate have a greater chance of divorce after they're married.

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      rprcarz50 

      8 years ago

      Hi creative, Thank you for writing this Hub . You have made some very imprortant points for the next generations . To shack up is a much bigger decision than first meets the eye . And usually those that do have not had much life experience .

      Anywayz, Great Hub . Thank Again!

      Ron

      As always also a2z50

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      Hello, hello, 

      8 years ago from London, UK

      Very interesting read and you have got some good points there. Thank you.

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      RevLady 

      8 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      As menomania presented, statistics seem to suggest cohabitation is not the answer for most whether Christian or not. Certainly for Christians, premarital shacking is forbidden and in our best interest.

      Great hub Creativeone, thank you for sharing your thoughts.

      Forever His,

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      menomania 

      8 years ago from Elmira, New York

      It's a sad world when most people don't give a second thought to shacking-up. (Which in my opinion is a good word for it). Outside of the many biblical passages that could be quoted. According to Ray Fowler Statistics (and other's as well) 8 out of 10 marriages that began with living together will end in divorce and only 12% of them will last at least 10 years. There is a reason God put his laws in place, and that is because He knows what's best for His children.

      Thanks for a great hub.

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Cagsil, of course you have you opiinion and assumptions , just like I do. I will not argue with you, but marriage use to be a sacred thing , and because of society, instead of God, it has become nothing more than a passing thought. I am talking in terms of the religious aspect, marriage is look upon highly by God, and that is exactly ,how I see it. Living together has cause many problems for our young people and It's their choice, I think just a sad choice to make. Thank you again for your comment and feedback. God bless. creativeone59

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      Cagsil 

      8 years ago from USA or America

      I found your hub to be a little off the beaten path, but then again in my perspective, religious connotations such as marriage, have more than one meaning to those who view it. The relationship of a boyfriend/girlfriend is not the same as marriage, because the break up is much simpler and less stressful.

      As for shacking up, as you put it, is an ideology which is a substitute for marriage. The myth people have about marriage is that it is strictly a religion doctrine and that is exactly what it is, a myth.

      In today's society, marriage is not the concept of religion, but of individual perspective and belief. If people choose to live together, and not have a marriage certificate, that is their choice. There is no need for a piece of paper to determine the relationship. Marriage on a non-religious perspective is solely based on government benefits or privileges available. Otherwise, there really is not a need to be married.

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