Your Affair Hurts Everyone
Marriage is very different today than it was when I grew up. I believe 1968 changed everything with the birth control. Before there was less infidelity as the consequences were much more devastating for the women. Today,no one really cares and people are more selfish. I believe in my opinion first, marriage is between a man and a women. The Bible teaches this and tells us to be fruitful and multiply. Before I get swore at, I also believe gay people should have the same respect and benefits as everyone else. However, I do not think churches should be forced to marry gays. I can't change the bible. Now, I can get back to the subject of marriage. God gave us all free choice.
Marriage is a sacrament and a sacred bond between 2 people, who love and cherish each other. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. A commitment does not mean the couple breaks up at the first sign of a problem. Too often the couple does not address their problems but runs out and has an affair. Affairs only make more problems and do not help anything.
Marriage sets an example to our kids of how two adults should be living with kindness, joy, and love being shown to the couple as well as the children. This is marriage and family. If you have this love of each other your children will see this and hopefully follow it.
Marriage is not an easy sacrament to follow, but when it is done the rewards of a good life together are worth all the effort. I have know such marriages in my time. Most of these people are Christians. If a person wants to get married in the Catholic Church they must have a year of marriage classes. My X inlaw got married in the Baptist church, because they would marry them right away. They told me the class was too long a whole year. After 2 divorces they tell me the class should be about 2 or 3 years long. They are in their 40'ts now.
The Sign Of Love
The guy had an affair and his wife was 8 months pregnant. He came to my work so excited to tell me that a baby was coming. What happened in less then 2 weeks? In my heart I knew I would not have been able to stay with some one who cheated on me.I really did not see how his wife would. Why?
1. Commitment is a promise that was meant to be kept by both parties. You are messing with other peoples life. The kids are the other people. You have no more family together on the Holidays. The kids go to your family one year and my house the next year. We are all no longer together as that one large family. You have also lost a family,mother-in-law, father-in-law and all the rest of the family. It is so sad to lose a family that really loved you.
2. Trust This is built over years and should not be torn down.
3. Respect There could not have been much respect in the first place if your partner could do this.
4. Love Remember the saying love is not suppose to hurt? I do not think it is suppose to hurt this bad.
I have never cheated on my husband, nor believe he has cheated on me. I do know that the effects of this can really hurt a family. Some of my grandchildren have suffered greatly by the divorce of their parents.Some have never recovered.
Who Did Your Affair Hurt The Most?
I sat up with one of my grandsons all night, and watched him cry. I have never forgotten that, as it broke this grandmothers heart. My other little granddaughter told me that my daddy does not love me no more. How dare you move away from your kids are you divorcing your spouse or your children? I like the way the person you had your affair with left you in less that 2 months. Was this really worth it?
I got to see the effects of your affair on your children. I will never understand why the person can not go to the spouse and just ask for a divorce. I am beginning to believe because they really do not want a divorce. Think about this for a minute, in the old days your parents did not watch your kids. If you were a wife this now means you work, and maybe even 2 jobs. You did not have too much time for dating and running around. Now, I see the wife running all weekend as the dad has the kids. Grandma has them during the week while mom works. This seems like a nice recipe to give moms free time. Sounds pretty good to me. So this is how moms get time to date.
Who Gets Hurt
Do children suffer when the parent has an affair?
The Wedding Present
This is my summary, about one-half of all marriages break up. We still know that marriage was given to us by God. Heb 13:4 Let Marriage be honored among all. Having an affair is not following Gods commandments, you either believe this or you do not. There is no changing the Bible. I am so sorry this happened in my own family. It is terrible to lose the whole family.