- Gender and Relationships
Your Way With Words
I've often been told that I have a way with words. I do often let them do all the talking. I've also learned that this "skill" if you will, can be used for both the good and the bad. I've learned to concentrate my efforts more towards the good, as that generally provides for better relationships with people and not result in them chasing you around because they can't find a response to your wittingly clever response to their wanting to seemingly perform an unwanted penectomy. But that aside, I've decided to offer some tips on how to use one's words for the bettering of relationships versus the worsening and ruining of them. Now this is not an article meant to show you how to come on to women or men. It will possibly help you out in the area; but, it is not the general purpose of it.
Actually, before I get into the meat and potatoes of this, I will start with a line I've used that has had great effects. It was used after I spent a bit of time checking out this other guy and I made it known that "I have an appreciation for the 'finer' things in life." And he was fine and needed to know. That's the key to this word play stuff, it's creatively telling people what hey need to hear. I personally use my wit to my advantage. Of course, this comes easier with practice.
Now I'm a poet, so I naturally I will begin with an example I wrote for a guy telling him that I wanted more than friendship. The final statement reads as such (not in the format I wrote it in):
"To you man with the flawless complexion, realize the heart you stole can be yours to keep."
Now I could have said, "Hey good lookin', I want to be together." Now, I have no problem with this approach, it's blunt and get's straight to the point. But again, I have an appreciation for the finer things in life and prefer to put a bit of beauty in my words. A bit of creative truth, it really does make all the difference.
This can also be used to respond to people's judgments of you. I'm going to try to provide examples for all of these. The example used here was in response to me once being socially awkward, which isn't to say that I'm not now, just not as much as I was.
"My social awkwardness was contained in that closet I came out of."
The use of what can be called personification, (i.e. assuming that one can actually contain 'social awkwardness' in a closet; and also, that when I came out, I came out of a literal closet. I didn't by the way.) Personification is a good way adding that bit of creativity to statements.
"I got problems people want."
This seems like, at first glance it might be a bad thing. But it's another way of rich people saying I have money problems. Of course, many of us would want rich people money problems. You know, having too much to spend.
One of my personal favorites, using what seem like complicated words to make a simple point.
"...forced to hide in the shadows and feign mediocrity amongst an erratic people."
This translates to: forced to hide who I am fake being what society defines as normal. Of course, it was easier to just say that. I feel that bluntness can be very effective in many situations and should be used more. But a little bit of poetic ruining of these simpler ways of putting things, I feel allows for them to stick in the minds of those who hear and read them. That's really the point I'm trying to make here. It's all about impressions. Words tend to stick with people, when something really powerful and meaningful is said to someone it generally sticks with them forever. They remember you because they now have something in their mind to associate with you. Yes wearing a nice outfit, will help to make a good impression, but in the end it's what you say that they will value most. Whether you use your words to flatter others, compliment others, answer questions, or when writing, whenever you get the chance, try adding a little creative seasoning, maybe the next time someone says "I miss your face" you don't just say "I miss yours too." How about, "Not a day goes by when I don't think of yours." This implies more than just missing their face, but also that you think of them everyday. This little bit of creativity really makes all the difference in people's mood. Personally when someone sends me a creative message, I often go back to reread it and smile at how clever it was and how it made me feel.