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Your coffee house counselor

Updated on July 28, 2011

The good old coffee house has saved more marriages than any ten counselors put together. It's something my wife and I still do on a regular basis, and if you think were going there to just drink coffee your crazy. We've been married for 33 years. Let me rephrase that...we’ve been happily married for 33 years. There are a lot of marriages that go til death do us part, but they are not happy or satisfied.  Sad to say a lot of marriages last for the wrong reasons.

#1) The kids. If you think the kids cant see your miserable then you need to think again.

#2) Too poor to divorce. They depend on two incomes and they have no place to go. They are stuck,

#3) Reputation. It doesn't make you look good and they are worried about what others will say.  

And the list goes on.  The divorce rate is off the charts. So here’s my point. You always hear about communication. Well there isn't a better place for that then a coffee or donut shop. We, my wife and I, prefer a donut shop. We both happen to love donuts. All you men that are reading this, I need you to shut up and listen for a minute. We are selfish by nature.  That’s just the way we're made. All we want to talk about is us, our day at work, our plans for the weekend and our wants. It's funny but we can drop five hundred dollars on a hunting trip, but walk right by the washing machine while it’s jumping across the floor with duct tape holding the door shut and you have to use a pliers to change cycles.

When you go to the coffee shop leave the kids home and listen to each other. Not with your eyes half shut and thinking about fishing, but really listen. You’d be surprised the things that come out when you humble yourself and truthfully communicate. You can cut off a lot of trouble at the pass if do this regularly. I know it definitely has worked for us.


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      ournote2self 6 years ago

      Great post. I feel that people tend to give up on marriage instead of putting a little work into it. Even a plant has to be watered in order to survive. Marriage is the same way.