ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Your relationship & social media

Updated on April 4, 2016
Herlinda Rocha profile image

Author, Writer & Blogger at ChicagoNow. Formerly Columnist for Chicago Examiner under Relationships.

"It's complicated?"
"It's complicated?"

When it comes to social media you really need to be cautious. What started out as fun has turned into a gossiping trend that people are addicted to. Social media takes on a new life with postings, tweets, snap chats, groups, tagging etc. The list goes on and on. There are many people that claim it doesn’t affect their relationship yet constantly change their relationship status from “in a relationship to single or it’s complicated.” If you’re in a relationship or marriage that is trustworthy then social media should never be an issue. When you’re employer sees you spending more time on these sites than working; don’t be surprised when you’re reprimanded for doing so.

Social media can either make you or break you. It is all up to you and or your relationship on how to handle it. It is rather hilarious to read when a couple end things in a bad way. It seems as if those particular couples find more joy taking their emotions to Facebook or other sites. Those couples love to bash one another. It becomes a social media war between them; then involve their friends. You begin to see the name talking, the deleting of that individuals friends and let us not forget the blocking phase. If you’re tweeting, you’re using every hashtag there is in profanity. The most infamous one of all is the snap chat video of how great your life is going to be without them in it & recording yourself twerking and doing shots at a nightclub.

When you put yourself or your relationship on social media don’t ever expect NOT to get bashed when it doesn’t turn out to be what you claimed it to be. You know when your relationship status said “in a relationship” & a month or few later your back to being “single or it’s complicated.” Society is cruel. Social media WILL BE cruel. The entire world is full of judgment & criticism. It is harsh yet true. So, if you don’t want to be made fun of be cautious with what you write. Yes, everyone has freedom of speech and can write whatever they choose to. It’s just that life is so much easier by not complicating things for yourself or your relationships.

If you’re single & searching for a partner; you want someone to take you serious. You should take into consideration not posting your business on any social media. This also applies to your job & your family. The internet can ruin your reputation and possibly your credentials. Unfortunately social media speaks for you & the world seems to fall prey in reading everything on the internet.

When your new relationship doesn’t work out & you never posted about it. No one but you will know it occurred. This is so much easier on the heart than having everyone else knowing about it and laughing or bashing about it. However; if you’re an attention seeker then only you will find pleasure with the responses from your friends, followers. It’s clear you have other serious issues at hand when you’re more focused on how many likes your post or photos received.

There are so many ways social media can make you or break you. Many people use the internet for their business & marketing strategies. Others simply abuse it for obsessive pleasure. If you’re in a complicated relationship that only you and your partner are only able to understand; your relationship should not be anywhere son social media. Think about this the next time you find yourself in a new relationship only to be separated in a short time. Social media did not ruin your new relationship; you did. You did by posting, tweeting or snap chatting about it. If you don’t want to be gossiped about set yourself some boundaries on the things you put out into the world to read.

If your relationship has remained as strong as social media has trended. You are among many of the several thousands who have a trusting, smart, loving relationship that did not let social media break you because you didn’t fall into the trend.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Herlinda Rocha profile image

      Herlinda Rocha 2 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

      Absolutely true.

    • Seshagopalan profile image

      Seshagopalan Murali 2 years ago from Chennai, Tamil Nadu

      It only becomes a problem when you get addicted to the social media

    • profile image

      Ralph 2 years ago