- Gender and Relationships
Attract like minds and build meaningful relationships
Equation: Attitude + Eloquence + Relationship Management = GREATNESS
Your relationship will determine your success longevity and greatness in life. We are all made for relationships, created to build and maintain relationships on earth. No man is born an island, every human being generated from a family unit are created to relate with other human beings.
Relationship makes the world go round. Without other people in our lives, we will struggle in this great journey of our lives on earth. Relationships breaks, mends and makes people. Some relationships are divine and will ultimately help define our purposes in life, such relationships must be managed and jealously guarded. Our attitude may determine our altitude in life but if we do not build, manage and maintain the right relationship with the people who surround us, the percentage of our success in life would be very minute.
Relationships form the existence of our living, it either breaks or mends us. A fascinating story that exemplifies the importance of building and managing relationships is the timeless story of a man called Moses.
Moses was one of the greatest leader and prophet on earth. He fulfilled his purpose on earth and succeeded in his leadership capacity, through the help of his father in law - Jethro. It was Jethro who advised Moses on the best way to lead and run the day to day events and activities without getting burnt out. The in - law relationship that many people would rather efface brought the intelligence and wisdom needed to establish a structure to the leadership stream of "Mission Israel to the Promised Land". Jethro created insight into Moses leadership style of ruling, helped Moses fine tune the organisational structure and created the process of leadership recruitment into the mission(Exodus 18).
How then do we get into meaningful relationships? Here, I share some thoughts and proven ways on how to do so.
Look for someone you can help rather than friends with benefits - You have heard the phrase Friends with benefits, to get into meaningful relationships, you may have to shift your focus from the benefits you will get from the others but focus on what you can do for other people. People appreciate those who are there for them when they needed help or lonely or a shoulder to cry on.
Have an open mind towards others - Openness attracts people of like minds. If you close your mind to a thing or a people, it is very likely you will get into a wrong unfulfilled relationship for the wrong reasons. Open your mind to a thing or a person and you can receive the best of things you desire.
Discover your strengths and influence others with it - When you know your strengths and you walk in it, other people notice and are attracted to that thing that makes you a special person. People would tap into the source of your strengths and draw closer to get to know you more when you display your strengths in your character.
Pray about it - believe it or not prayer works and it rocks. If you believe in God or you even believe there is somebody up there who controls everything and answers when we call on him, then do not hesitate to cry out or call out to him to send you an angelic friend who will not only be understanding but also will be loyal to you and be there for you when you need someone by your side. If you are in an unhealthy relationship but you cannot let go for one reason or the other, then it is the right time to pray and ask God if you are actually meant to be in the relationship or not.
Every relationship or friendships is for a purpose and the purpose is defined when we engage truthfully and prayerfully in such relationships or friendships. The bible says in Proverbs 12:26a that the righteous choose their friends carefully. Choose your friends wisely and sow a seed of prayer into their lives.Every time I find myself in a fulfilled relationship, I found they are relationships that I have prayed to God about and God has used these relationships to bless me in many aspects of my life that I struggle with at a particular point in time and vice versa. I prayerfully manage relationships that has turned sour and is still going on well.
Choosing your relationships based on what you can get from them will not only hurt you along the line or put you in some sort of trouble, but you might not achieve the purpose of forming such relationship and neither will you attain the height of greatness either.
Your attitude to relationships/friendships you are in will determine the success or failure of your journey to greatness in life; It will also determine how quick you climb up the ladder you long for, An old adage says show me your friends and I will tell you how far you will go in life.
As you embark on a new journey this week, search within and ask these questions; am I in the right relationships and friendships? What is my purpose in each relationship/friendship I am in right now? Am In fulfilled relationship? And Am I impacting lives through my relationships/friendships?
Have a fulfilled week!