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You're Pregnant and He's Cheating
Pregnancy is suppose to be an amazing, celebratory event in a couple's life. Together you're creating a human being. It really sucks when something so special gets tainted by someone's inability to stay monogamous. You're not alone because this happens more times than it should. Even celebrities get cheated on when they're pregnant. Look at Kendra Wilkinson, Shar Jackson and even Heidi Klum, just to name a few. They all have been cheated on during there pregnancy. To me it's a huge slap in the face to cheat on someone that's carrying your child. She's at the most vulnerable time in her life. Her body is changing and she's feeling like she's not looking her best, but here he goes and completely annihilates her self-esteem by sleeping around. It's crazy and if your going through this right now, my heart goes out to you. I know a girl who's husband cheated on her every time she got pregnant. They have 4 kids. That is inexcusable. Why does this happen? Why is it that 1 in 10 men cheat on their pregnant significant others. Well I have came up with a few probable causes.
1. Men Are Dogs
Okay let's just get that out of the way. In a way we are all animal like. There are similarities in the way we mate, give birth and care for our young. A male dog will sniff around until he finds a female dog in heat. He will mate with her until she becomes pregnant and she's no longer carrying the pheromones of a dog in heat. The male dog is out and on to the next Bitch in heat. I think men have that same ability to smell a woman in heat and once she's pregnant, that smell is gone or either replaced with a different one. Science has not found this to be true or false.
2. You Closed Up Shop
When a woman gets pregnant her body takes on so many different changes in order to grow a baby. She's tired all of the time, gaining weight at a rapid speed, and the last thing on her mind is sex, at least for the first couple of months. After the baby has settled in and the morning sickness is gone, it's go time. But by then an impatient nothing of a man, has already gone out and cheated.
3. Your Belly Is Growing
A lot of men are genuinely afraid of hurting the baby during sex. They would rather find a hole that's not occupied by a growing fetus. The thought of poking the baby in the forehead freaks the idiots out a bit I suppose. That's why it's so important to attend Lamaze Classes together and some may even offer you and your mate fun and safe ways to have sex without hurting your growing baby. Lots of sex makes for easy birthing remember that.
4. You're Always Arguing
A pregnant woman's hormones are soaring and she has no time for foolishness. Mood swings are in full effect. A real man would be understanding and help her through her mood swings. Only the weak will go off to find someone to stroke his ego and not make him take the trash out.
5. He Feels Left Out
Your days are filled with talks of this amazing human being that you're growing inside of you. You're discussing future plans that includes this extra little person. There are talks about the color of the nursery, baby showers and even gender reveal parties. A lot of these talks really don't include a man's input unless it's putting together the baby's furniture. He feels left out and unappreciated. So he would rather go somewhere he knows he will be appreciated if only for a moment.
This does not mean that pregnancy leads to infidelity. Infidelity usually sprouts from a rotting relationship. Usually there were problems before the pregnancy that can lead to him stepping out. It can really be tough having to deal with a Cheating Spouse while in the thralls of pregnancy. Couples Counseling and Adult Conversation can help prevent and sustain a healthy and happy relationship. Pregnancy should be an exciting time for all involved. It's definitely not a time to cheat.