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A Little Help
By gossiping, or rumors, we in effect, lose our integrity, and power.
Before engaging in idle chat about others, ask yourself these questions:
"What is the purpose behind me telling this story to this person?"
"Who benefits in positive ways when I tell it?"
"Will it hurt, or harm someone?"
"Is it even true?"
Is It True?
We've all heard it, most of us may have even participated in it, and some us have even been the object of it.
What is it? Simply put... gossip, and rumors.
The definition of gossip: idle talk, or rumor, about the personal, or private affairs of others.
Definition of rumor: tale of events circulating from person to person.
Why do we gossip? What is to be gained from it?
We gossip because of our own insecurities, and we try to gain power by doing it. By focussing on others lives, we can ignore our own faults, and issues.
Before engaging in the 'chat circle', ask yourself is this true?
Is It Necessary?
After all the chat has gone through the office, you find out there was NO truth in the story. You've heard it, believed, and maybe even laughed about it. Did you help spread the untruth?
Who was hurt? What was the fallout? Why did it start in the first place? Who gained from it?
Somewhere along the way, you've discovered that the chat is true.
Does everyone really NEED to know? Do you really need to know? Is it affecting you in some negative way? Is it affecting you personally at all?
Holding your own integrity is necessary. Only you can affect that part of the outcome. Do not engage in the behavior. Politely excuse yourself, and continue on your way.
Is It Kind?
Definition of Kind: generous, helpful, and thinking about other people's feelings.
The majority of us would like to fall in this category. Do we? Do you?
Easiest paths of Kindness:
- Be honest.
- Non Judgemental. Accept each others differences.
- Be compassionate. We all have a story, and we all have joy, pain, happiness, and sadness.
Only you can be responsible for your integrity and honor.
Where do you stand?
Have you ever participated in gossip and rumor?
In the comments
How do you hold your integrity?
What do you do when the rumor mill makes it to you?
© 2018 Shaunna Jones Leclair