Unfortunately, I am in such a position just now. Becoming a recent grandmother (paternal side), I seem to be a constant nuisance to my daughter-in-law whom I love dearly as my own. Since my grandson has been born, she wants nothing to do with me at all, which is extremely hurtful as before the birth she never talked to her own mother. Now it seems her mum can do no wrong and yet I almost have to make an appointment to see my grandson. Even then I have to beg to hold him.
I have shed many a tear recently and done everything in my power to put the situation to bed, but with no luck and the result that my son is stuck in the middle. What I have done is decide to take a back step for a while and wait and see what happens, even thou it causes me great sorrow.