Is there a 'Real' you and a 'Social' You?

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   Docmoposted 13 years ago

   Is there a 'Real' you and a 'Social' You?
   
   Do you ever feel there is a 'real' you and you cannot always be yourself normally - where and with whom can you be really 'yourself' and what is the difference between the two 'you's?

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   keepitnaturalposted 13 years ago

   I am always myself. I don't need to have another me because people have always liked me as I am & for who I am, probably because they can see I am being myself & this is more attractive!
   I might act a bit sillier when just with my kids than I would in public, though, but I don't actually think the general public would appreciate my singing like they do though!

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   Libra Rajaniposted 13 years ago

   I think most have a 'real' and 'social' you. Unless you have known someone for a long period of time, you have a natural armor; a self protective shield, that protects you and your emotions.
   You may do things socially that you wouldn't do normally do for a number of reasons. Being politically correct and not offending others are a couple.
   When you're with someone you trust, it doesn't matter what you say or do. They are going to have your back no matter what. There is no pressure.
   However, to some, none of this matters. They are completely confident and being true to themselves at all times is something that just comes naturally. They have a "take me or leave me" mentality.
   I can totally be myself anywhere and anytime with my husband.
   Great question!

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   ssaulposted 13 years ago

   i am me all the time whether socializing or in privacy. I am easy going, jolly, comical and happy, takes life as it comes. I always said, with me is what you see is what you get.

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   Darknlovely3436posted 13 years ago

   I am who I am, and proud by choice..
   love me or leave .... one of the two...

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   tysandersposted 13 years ago

   I am more quiet at work and around co-workers than I am at home around friends and family. I wouldn't call this 2 personalities since I am calm natured most of the time anyway. My guard comes down easier around people I trust so naturally they will see a different side of me than those who I'm not comfortable or familiar with.

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   Butch Newsposted 13 years ago

   I try to be nice to strangers.  Those that choose to get to know me best be prepared for nothing much like they've ever met before.  I don't much beat around the bush so, if you can't handle blunt... back off.

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   jhendorposted 13 years ago

   its possible to have two different "you" especially if you find yourself in a social gathering but you are an introvert

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   Jarnposted 13 years ago

   The real me is the socially unacceptable me. It is the one constantly seeking assurances that I am sane and adequate in normal life. It is the one that harbors rage and hatred whose depths have only been plumbed twice, and both times resulted in bloodshed that came more easily than breathing. The real me is the one that would raze everything around me and go to God happily provided I had a Browning 50 caliber to hand.
   
   The social me is the person I need to be to fit in. I ask questions and take note of others' affectations, accents, clothing, and mannerisms, and tailor my likes and dislikes to make a mask that I wear. I've a mask for every situation, and switch between them as necessary. Makes me wonder if the real me isn't a mask as well, which begs the question if there even is a real me.

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    NateSeanposted 13 years ago

    Absolutely. The "real me" is sitting at this computer in the library.
    
    If you want to meet the social me, you have to catch me at my workplace where, assuming you are my customer, I will turn the "people person factor" up to eleven to get you what you need and obtain your money as compensation.

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    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    I'm the "same me" whether alone, with close family and friends, or out in a wider social setting.  The difference is how much of that "same me" I'll demonstrate.  In other words, I'm consistently "me", as opposed to demonstrating a phony "me" in public.
    
    You know how there are some people "you can't take anywhere"?  Well, I've worked hard to be the kind of "me" I can take anywhere (with a few adjustments for what's appropriate in private versus in public, of course).   LOL

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    mandyfposted 13 years ago

    nope. I am me all the time however I tend to be more outgoing when in a social situation.

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    Dave Mathewsposted 13 years ago

    I am me. What you see is what you get. Straight-forward, blunt, humourous,friendly,serious, fun-loving, carefree.

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    Apostle Jackposted 13 years ago

    Good and evil express who we are in the image of our spirits.Sometimes one or the other come forth more than the other which reveal various characters of our spirits.

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    Edoka Writesposted 13 years ago

    Somewhat, because I have a diverse group of friends; with some, we talk about Urban topics, with others Martha Stewart, Oprah, etc; which makes some relationships lighthearted and others intense. 
    
    However, the difference isn't calculated, it's natural.

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    sweetmummyposted 13 years ago

    I originally thought this question was more about the 'real' me and the 'online' me.  I am always ONLY my screen name when I'm online, though I'm still the same person.  Those who know me in real life find no difference in my online persona, except the name.  The name thing is just another level of protection in the online world with the possibility of identity theft. 
    
    I do have the added chalenge of being a pastor's wife, so while I am still the same person, there are many people who I am less transparent with because of the leadership and confidentiality issues there. 
    
    I believe in honesty and integrity, so what you see is what you get, always!

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