It's a common question. However, you might consider what you are asking....how can I "get". If we are making decisions in order to "get" anything from anyone- we are not coming from an authentic place. Anytime we are in the perception of "needing" something from someone we are coming from a place of lack. If we are in "wholeness", we don't "need" anything from anyone. From that place, you can "attract" others that are whole as well. If you know the truth about who you are, you can trust that you will have a girlfriend when the one that can accept you and like you without you having to do anything for their affection.