There are a few different kinds of love, there is human love and there is spiritual love. Human love is the kind of love that makes you feel good. It’s the ooy gooy bodily love that you feel when you are close to the object of your desire. Its sexual love, mother love, familiar love, all rolled into one. Basically, the love that makes you feel good and comfortable.
Then there is spiritual love. Spiritual love is a higher kind of love than human love. This kind of love isn't about you feeling good. This is a love that is above feeling good and bad. We only attain spiritual love for another when we can feel inside of the other person and sense the fulfillment of their desires as our own pleasure.
Ok, that sounds confusing. Let's say this a different way. With human love, we feel good about our own fulfilled desires. With spiritual love, we feel good through the fulfillment of our loved one's desires. There is nothing wrong with human love, in fact that kind of natural love is what makes the world go around. We need it to make children and keep families together. But spiritual love is the next degree, it’s a higher level of consciousness and a more ideal state of being. Really, spiritual love is the ultimate goal of creation and for all people. We just don't know it yet. That is the reason we seek love so passionately. That is why we are so preoccupied with what love means and why no one really seems to know what love is even though we proclaim it and say it all the time.