You have heard the expression that, "men will never be able to understand women". Well, this is just our way of getting back at you for it.
Yes there are good men out there, but women who complain that they can't find one, don't seem to recognize the fact that there are plenty of women who do the same horrible things to men, that they complain the men do to them.
The difference with decent men, (and I honestly can't say that it's really a difference from women) is that we are well aware of the fact that a lot of men mistreat their women. Because of this, we know that our road will always be tough. We will constantly have to prove ourselves. It seems that the more good we do, the more tests we pass, the more we say and do all the right things... The more leery some women become. The better a man is, the more it will hurt, if he ends up letting the girl down. So women keep their guards very high up. Sometimes too high!
Women often take advantage of a nice guy. Take out all their past relationships on him, when it wasn't his fault. They never know how to react to a guy who treats them well, and more often than not, they mistreat us because of this. Plus, the whole time we are busting our backside to prove ourselves to women, they never seem to realize that they need to prove something to us too! Women who have their guards up, don't usually give us the attention back that they receive. In that sense, we end up being neglected, and feel unloved and unappreciated.
Over the long run, men who are decent, end up getting fed up with all of this stuff, and they simply quit trying, because we have feelings too. And yes, even the toughest men get hurt.
It was probably men who mistreated women first, and ruined their hopes for love, causing them to doubt that a true form of it can be found. But it's these same women who have doubts, that are ruining the decent men. I'm afraid it's just gonna keep going round and round in big circle until someone finally gives in, forgives, and agrees to give the other a completely clean slate, in return for a clean one of their own. Women are going to blame men, and Men are going to blame women, until this stops there is always going to be a problem.