When I tell my friend of an arguement, a distress, an uneasiness.......etc.......be it about my mother in law, my spouse, my boss etc........
I DO NOT want my friend to simply join in, singing in background. I want a friend with the gumption to stand up and say........." you might be looking at this from the wrong view, see it from his, her, their side".
My " friend" must stretch my mind, not echo it. Otherwise, they are just a person that I happen to know.
My friend must be strong enough to say, " I can't help.......but I might know someone who can".
My life is not about easy fixes.